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Il_Padrino
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I agree - but that's also why I'm single  .
Both brother and my best friend tried to disobey and it both resulted in their relationship blowing up pretty quickly so I think most guys are just too afraid because Flemish women, they don't kid around  .
I tried to introduce some girls and women I know to less-vanilla stuff like fantasy books and so on, but it's been a very hard struggle. You know in the US, it's hip to be different - well here, it's hip to be the same and anyone who does anything out of the norm, is considered weird so people are not very eager to try something that might make them stand out. Really sad. |
Well I'm from Antwerp. Ladies should be content to hook up with someone from 't Stad 
Perhaps (and I mean this entirely without offense, of course) you should try to go out of your comfort zone? I mean, last month there was the Antwerp Convention, and in September there's FACTS convention in Ghent, both mini-comicons, where you can find tons of girls interested in all kinds of crazy scifi/fantasy (and not just the silly Japanese stuff).
I used to think the same as you. But the truth is, there are plenty of girls in Flanders who are like you, you just haven't met them yet 
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| Posted: Fri, 22nd May 2015 16:21 Post subject: |
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| Il_Padrino wrote: | | red_avatar wrote: |
I agree - but that's also why I'm single .
Both brother and my best friend tried to disobey and it both resulted in their relationship blowing up pretty quickly so I think most guys are just too afraid because Flemish women, they don't kid around .
I tried to introduce some girls and women I know to less-vanilla stuff like fantasy books and so on, but it's been a very hard struggle. You know in the US, it's hip to be different - well here, it's hip to be the same and anyone who does anything out of the norm, is considered weird so people are not very eager to try something that might make them stand out. Really sad. |
Well I'm from Antwerp. Ladies should be content to hook up with someone from 't Stad
Perhaps (and I mean this entirely without offense, of course) you should try to go out of your comfort zone? I mean, last month there was the Antwerp Convention, and in September there's FACTS convention in Ghent, both mini-comicons, where you can find tons of girls interested in all kinds of crazy scifi/fantasy (and not just the silly Japanese stuff).
I used to think the same as you. But the truth is, there are plenty of girls in Flanders who are like you, you just haven't met them yet |
I go to FACTS almost every year but even there you see that the majority is aged 20-25 and I'm 35 this year - not many women my age or slightly younger there.
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dsergei
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| Posted: Fri, 22nd May 2015 16:22 Post subject: |
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20 yearolds love older dudes
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| Posted: Sat, 23rd May 2015 12:21 Post subject: |
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I add the lengths of time each marriage lasted. You seriously think 7 years on average is good? That's short as fuck! |
So? Most people don't go into a relationship thinking beforehand how long it will last. If it lasted 2/5/7/200 years it doesn't really matter. I have a ton of bad relationships around me, but i also have good ones. I used to only see the bad ones and never went into a relationship because of it. Total bullshit on my part.
| red_avatar wrote: | | So I should go with bat-shit crazy women? No thank you. I'm the least stressed of everyone I know outside of work and for a good reason. |
If you think relationship/dating=stress....
| red_avatar wrote: | | Gee I wonder why that is? Perhaps I just told you why <.< because every guy I know is being crushed by his girlfriend? Why do you think I'm so vocal in the Gamergate topic? Because when I see reality, it's frankly ridiculous to see women claiming men oppress them when I see the exact opposite EVERY DAY. Even my father gets yelled at almost constantly for doing anything that even slightly annoys her. |
So a couple of your friends have bossy girlfriends (which they fucking chose themselves) and based of that you come to the conclusion that women are actually the oppressors? I'm sorry to say this, but this is one of the stupidest things i have ever read on this forum.
I'm not saying men are oppressing women (talking exclusively about western world) to the extent some "feminists" are trying to make us believe, but saying its the other way round is stupid, especially based on your own perceptions about your friends relationships...
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Nice to avoid my point - where I live, girls HATE games, they think it's for babies and guys are really really looked down on for playing them. I pretty much have to stay silent about my hobby at all unless I want to be ridiculed. Most of my friends would love to game but aren't allowed anymore. Do you think that's right for a gf to do in a relationship? Imagine a guy forcing his girlfriend to give up her hobbies - suddenly that's incredibly sexist yet it's not the other way round? |
Gf has a right? What? If she tells the guy he can't play games, and he listens to her is his fucking fault. End of story. It always takes two for this shit and i dislike when people make victims out of people who are doing something of their own choosing. Its obvious your friends like being in a relationship with these girls (unless they are being forced/blackmailed some way...) or else they would have left.
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| Posted: Sat, 23rd May 2015 14:51 Post subject: |
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For guys on the hump, prior to entering any relationship remember these golden words and you will never falter:
 before making such an important decision.
If you still like her afterwards, then go ahead otherwise abort!
1 and 2 are still amazing.
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spankie
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| Posted: Sat, 23rd May 2015 17:37 Post subject: |
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oh boy, if your GF tells you not to play games, you have 2 options.
You obey and dont complain to other people about it
OR
you tell her te mind her own shit. You play games, she goes shopping. Then you make some sort of arrangement. You play games when she goes shopping or you dont play 10h a day every day.
To be honest, if you prefer playing games over the girl, you probably arent that much of a couple, right? It aint all rocket science.
I am not a relationship expert, but I have never had issues with bossy girlfriends... They are bossy if you take no decisions or never say no, then they have to become bossy to get something done If I do something wrong, they can yell. But who allows to be yelled at for doing nothing wrong? If you behave like a pussy; you get treated that way.
And about the gaming. I make jigsaw puzzles as a hobby. My ex would ridicule me about it, so would some of my friends. I didnt give a shit. a) You really think your gf would leave you because you play games now and then? nice relationship b) you are actually afraid of being left because of that? There are enough people out there who allow you to do what you want. Everybody has a hobby other people think shit about; who cares?
Anyway, I was having amazing sexy time this night with the lady. I got a message at 1AM from the crazy one 'Home?'. What was she expecting? I am still awake at 1 AM and answer 'yes' and she answers 'i will come fuck you'?
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| Posted: Sat, 23rd May 2015 21:02 Post subject: |
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spankie
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| Posted: Thu, 28th May 2015 22:51 Post subject: |
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lol the fuck 2...
So I bought my appartment. Put it on facebook. Guess who has commitment issues and is the first to like it and send me a phone message 1 min later with 'congrats!!!!'...
I respond with 'thx'
[i put some pics on facebook the next day]
next day 'it has a garden, lovely' [didnt respond]
This evening 'i am so jalous, yours doesnt need renovation, I am getting tired of my renovation.... yaddie yaddie yaddie'. A text which is 2 phone screens long... [didnt respond]
So I just checked, the last message I sent was beginning of May and she didnt even respond to it [except the 'thx' message] ... Why the hell is she starting the converstation again. It's been almost 2 months since I last saw her. Waddafock. [should I start to feel crap because the crazy one is texting me and the other lady doesnt know... ?]
Btw, someone rename this topic to "spankies crazy diary topic".
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| Posted: Thu, 28th May 2015 23:12 Post subject: |
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That girl IS hard to figure out - usually I can spot the hook they go for, but in this case, it seems like she's truly confused and kinda emotionally unstable making her unpredictable. Seems she has moods where she is needy, wanting attention but they come and go and when they go, she's completely not in the mood to see anyone but she does like to keep "lines open" just in case  while being afraid to get in too deep.
My brother was being a fool too - met a girl/woman (she's 36 but doesn't act like it - if you closed your eyes, you'd think she was a 20 year old) who, to put it lightly, had a few screws loose. Lives by herself, never had a boyfriend (or job), huge pet lover (yeah, kinda a give away), has Christian posters on her window (another give away) and basically, despite me warning him, he went ahead - stayed over many times and even ended up sleeping with her.
For a start she has ZERO sense of time and is either horrible late (and I mean, half a day late is no exception for her) or just loses track completely. Of the 10 or so times that she was invited to go out to eat, movie, etc. only TWICE did she actually make it and both times she was at least 2 hours late.
Well seems things fizzled between them - brother is being depressed about it but honestly, he dodged a crazy bullet. Someone so unreliable would make a horrible gf.
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tonizito
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| Posted: Thu, 28th May 2015 23:49 Post subject: |
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I think I can hear her sharpening her knives from here
| boundle (thoughts on cracking AITD) wrote: | | i guess thouth if without a legit key the installation was rolling back we are all fucking then |
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Nalo
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garus
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Il_Padrino
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| Posted: Fri, 29th May 2015 10:59 Post subject: |
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My now-wife asked me when we met if I have a mobile phone. I said yes. If she hadn't gone on to ask me if I didn't want her number I'd be still single I guess
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spankie
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Invasor
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| Posted: Mon, 15th Jun 2015 12:18 Post subject: |
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| red_avatar wrote: | | My brother was being a fool too - met a girl/woman (she's 36 but doesn't act like it - if you closed your eyes, you'd think she was a 20 year old) who, to put it lightly, had a few screws loose. Lives by herself, never had a boyfriend (or job), huge pet lover (yeah, kinda a give away), has Christian posters on her window (another give away) and basically, despite me warning him, he went ahead - stayed over many times and even ended up sleeping with her. |
All my ex gfs were huge pet lovers except the first... who had christian posters it sounds funny but IMO it means nothing a priori.
@spankie Do you think part of you is still a bit interested in the crazy girl? I mean, you haven't blocked/deleted her from your life, you still talk about her here... 
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Il_Padrino
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tonizito
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| spankie wrote: | lol @ nutter. So haven't heard her in like 2 or 3 weeks. She sent me some random message in beginning of June, and that was it.
So yesterday she started liking older posts on my facebook... Someone going through my facebook... Then all of a sudden she starts talking to me on facebook, which she never did before.
Let's call my hometown 'CityX'.
First she asks me how I am. I answer I am fine. Then she explains that she is doing fine, she is enjoying summer weather, yada yada yada. Then she starts
'I have a teambuilding event on Friday'
'...'
'... In CityX'
'You don't happen to be in CityX Friday evening ? '
So I answer 'maybe, maybe not. Even if I am, why?'
'Ok... so maybe see you soon'
I answer
'k'
'good night'
'see you Friday in CityX ... X'
Time to pull out the friendzone card. She is trying again to arrange a shag date? I told her I met the parents of the new GF... So WTF?? Btw, on a side note. We were having some fun in the garden and all of a sudden her parents showed up. So we quickly had to put on our clothes and I shook (dirty) hands with her parents  |
Preparing the final stages for the rampage, it seems. Have you already bought a flak jacket?
| boundle (thoughts on cracking AITD) wrote: | | i guess thouth if without a legit key the installation was rolling back we are all fucking then |
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spankie
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| Posted: Mon, 15th Jun 2015 18:11 Post subject: |
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I am considering showing up on Friday with the GF We are going to a BBQ party of friends of mine, so she'll be in the neighbourhood anyways. Would be a nice surprise for the nutter... Payback
@Invasor. Am I interested? Yes, she is 'interesting' as "WTF is wrong with you"; I do want to understand what is going on in her mind. Would I like to hump her if I had nobody else? Yes. But the package I have now is way much better. So there is no need to even consider having an 'unhealthy' interest.
I just thought I'd keep you guys updated. The GF knows she is texting me, so there's no need to hard delete her from my life. Actually, she never was in my life, she only fucked me up emotionally once we started having *some* connection. We never had anything, we saw each other 3 times over 2 months ago and we had some hot sex 'one and a half' times.
I cannot remove her from the world. She lives 2 blocks from where I live, she has my email, my phone, my facebook etc. Unless I file a stalking complaint, there is not really a way to completely lock her out of my world.
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Invasor
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LuckyStrike
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| Posted: Sat, 20th Jun 2015 20:31 Post subject: |
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| spankie wrote: | lol the fuck 2...
So I bought my appartment. Put it on facebook. Guess who has commitment issues and is the first to like it and send me a phone message 1 min later with 'congrats!!!!'...
I respond with 'thx'
[i put some pics on facebook the next day]
next day 'it has a garden, lovely' [didnt respond]
This evening 'i am so jalous, yours doesnt need renovation, I am getting tired of my renovation.... yaddie yaddie yaddie'. A text which is 2 phone screens long... [didnt respond]
So I just checked, the last message I sent was beginning of May and she didnt even respond to it [except the 'thx' message] ... Why the hell is she starting the converstation again. It's been almost 2 months since I last saw her. Waddafock. [should I start to feel crap because the crazy one is texting me and the other lady doesnt know... ?]
Btw, someone rename this topic to "spankies crazy diary topic". |
Because she was fucking someone at that time. It ended, (the 2 month rule applies here)
and she texted you when she got a bonner. Simple as girls are.
| Epsilon wrote: | | Meanwhile the people of that generation will call those guys relics, and not move with the times when everything is auto fucking. |
| EyePatchLives wrote: | | Press X to tame beasts. YOU ARE DA BEASTMASTER!!! |
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spankie
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| Posted: Tue, 23rd Jun 2015 23:37 Post subject: |
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| LuckyStrike wrote: |
Because she was fucking someone at that time. It ended, (the 2 month rule applies here)
and she texted you when she got a bonner. Simple as girls are. |
Yeah; probably.
She sent me some BS messages again like "how are you" and "want to meet". And when I reply "why you want to meet", I get a reply like 3 days later or no reply. Or she did send some pictures of her appartment renovations on FB message, out of the blue. And when I reply with 'nice floor' (floor really was nice), I get like a reply 2 days later. So dunno what the point is. So even pure friend wise this isnt going anywhere.
So I deleted all messages from phone, deleted number, removed her from facebook. Probably in 2 weeks or so I will get a message from an unknown number "hey, you deleted me from FB, want to meet??"
I'd say "this is the end of the nutter topic". But things havent changed by me deleting her number, she still can send me random shizzle. Do those fancy smart phones have a blocking function somehow?
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Morphineus
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Not that I know of, but you can block her number through your provider. I know Proximus offered it, so my guess is Base and all those others do to.
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sanchin
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Smartphones usually have blocking options. On Android it's doable via the contacts app - just add the number to auto-reject list. It works for calls, don't know about messages. Calls appear on the list with a symbol that it was rejected - the phone does not ring or react in any other way and the call is dropped immediately.
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garus
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spankie
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| Posted: Wed, 24th Jun 2015 15:16 Post subject: |
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Did you try the classic "you are a nice person, but ... " or does that only work when woman do that?
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Nalo
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Also I just realized one thing about myself. Whenever I see a cute girl I always think that she must be taken. And if it turns out she is not taken then I always question myself why isn't she taken? She must be crazy or something. No wonder I've been single for 5 years 
