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 Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 02:21 Post subject: Can't get over my ex:( |
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Even though its been almost 4 weeks, I still ain't over my ex:( I fucking think about her every single day, every waking moment, even though my common sense tells me not to. This shit is driving me crazy, tonight I met her in the pub, I texted her that we should talk, upon which I got a reply that she had to work and she didn't have time.
I realize that our realitionship is over but it still hurts like fuck, I took up bodybuilding like crazy again just to get this fucking cunt out of my mind, sadly this only works while I am working out. At night or moments when I am alone all that goes through my head is her, the times we had.
I am such a fucking loser, I know she's fucked up in the head, she takes pills for depression and shit but still I love her like crazy. She's unstable and unpredictable but I don't give a shit.
I need to get this fucking bitch out of my head, and fast, me a guy thats famous for his skills in relativizing, so fucked up over a girl, I'm thinking like how's this possible, its only one fucking girl right. Still whenever I see her my gut feels like she's the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. Thats when you know you have it bad.
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 02:26 Post subject: |
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Is she your first serious girlfriend?
The first one is always the hardest you know. Its only been a few weeks. Sometimes situations like these takes months to get over.
And like i said, if she was your first, then your still clinging onto that fantasy that you built up in your head about her. Once you let it go, things will be easier
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 03:19 Post subject: |
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Start binge drinking and narcotics abuse. That usually does the trick.
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 03:20 Post subject: |
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 07:20 Post subject: |
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| tainted4ever wrote: | | Start binge drinking and narcotics abuse. That usually does the trick. |
or fuck a new broad 
| Sin317 wrote: | | I win, you lose. Or Go fuck yourself. |
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 07:48 Post subject: |
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Its only a month, for a serious long term relationship it takes 2 years, and you never really forget. One thing I used to do which I assume you are doing is only think of the good times and not the shite times.. We all dwell on the good things we did great times we had etc etc.. but try and remember why you split up in the first place and move on, in time.
Do not turn to drink its pointless and does not help at all - believe me I know ..
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 07:56 Post subject: |
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I do drink alot more than I used to now, I shouldn't but can't help it. And we didn't really have bad times, so can't think about those:LOL: Only reason she broke off is cuz she lost attraction I guess, the thing where it allways goes wrong for women. Only thing I feel now is hatred towards her, I opened up to her yesterday and she gave me the cold shoulder. So atleast I have this closure, but still, it fucks you up.
I guess I need a new broad yeah, and fast, that would get me over her.
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 07:58 Post subject: |
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grab a notebook  write i hate name on every page time and time over you gonna end up hating the fuck out of her by the time you finish the notebook I did it with a couple ex's helped a lot
| Sin317 wrote: | | I win, you lose. Or Go fuck yourself. |
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CaptainCox
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 08:34 Post subject: |
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Had a similar episode when I was around 18 or so. Took me 19 years to "REALLY" get over, had to go back to Sweden and actually see her (she suddenly contacted me like 3 years ago) anyo, turned out that ppl change big time, she was just scary and bitchy...in a bad way that is. Well now I know and I am not looking back.
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 10:39 Post subject: |
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theres plenty more fish in the sea
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 10:51 Post subject: |
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I was with my ex girlfriend for about 2 years, we both fucked each others heads up plus I'm in the army so it messes it up even more. Now we split up 4 weeks ago and I couldnt get her out of my head, what I did was found another girl and ever since then I havent looked back.
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 10:53 Post subject: |
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| Oddmaker wrote: | | I couldnt get her out of my head, what I did was found another girl and ever since then I havent looked back. |
I know what you are saying but, well, some girls ARE special, no matter how in love you might be with new girlfriend.
Blaah. I just hope that she had a really bad day yesterday.
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 12:59 Post subject: |
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im gonna marry pistolshrimp
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 13:27 Post subject: |
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| MasterJuba wrote: | | theres plenty more fish in the sea |
plenty of more....
j33z cmon mate wake up and go find another chick.
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 15:39 Post subject: |
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do you have any idea how long it took me to get over my ex? I felt like you do now for months. It was only when I got with my new lady I realised she wasnt worth it.
Its all bullshit man, I felt like this too, those feelings hurt + all. But she isnt the one, sorry to put it blunt. Someone better is out there for you. You just lonely thats all..
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Cohen
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 15:41 Post subject: |
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The only cure for the first breakup is the start of the second serious relationship.
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 16:15 Post subject: |
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you need alot of www.duvel.be
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 16:44 Post subject: |
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| watergem wrote: | do you have any idea how long it took me to get over my ex? I felt like you do now for months. It was only when I got with my new lady I realised she wasnt worth it.
Its all bullshit man, I felt like this too, those feelings hurt + all. But she isnt the one, sorry to put it blunt. Someone better is out there for you. You just lonely thats all.. |
What he said
I been apart from my ex for about 2 and a half months (after 12 years together)... still hurts a bit but the longer it goes on and things happen i see what a asshole she is and wish to god i got out when the warning signs were their 6 years ago.
And dont do what others are saying and find yourself another girl.. you will just be taking the first one who comes along to try and fill a gap and as time goes by you will realise you made a mistake..
Go out have some fun and play the field for a month or 2.. variety is the spice of life.
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 17:32 Post subject: |
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| pancake wrote: | | watergem wrote: | do you have any idea how long it took me to get over my ex? I felt like you do now for months. It was only when I got with my new lady I realised she wasnt worth it.
Its all bullshit man, I felt like this too, those feelings hurt + all. But she isnt the one, sorry to put it blunt. Someone better is out there for you. You just lonely thats all.. |
What he said
I been apart from my ex for about 2 and a half months (after 12 years together)... still hurts a bit but the longer it goes on and things happen i see what a asshole she is and wish to god i got out when the warning signs were their 6 years ago.
And dont do what others are saying and find yourself another girl.. you will just be taking the first one who comes along to try and fill a gap and as time goes by you will realise you made a mistake..
Go out have some fun and play the field for a month or 2.. variety is the spice of life. |
thats what I was going to say
jumping into a new relationship without being completely over your ex is only going to lead to more problems. It happened to me the first time I got divorced. I hooked up with a chick and the relationship went sour quickly as I was still an emotional wreck. Im still healing over my most recent divorce and its been 8 months.
Take sometime to be comfortable by yourself. You dont need a woman to make you, you. Being single is fine you know.
Don't get me wrong, Im not saying dont get laid, just avoid any serious relationship for a while until your on better grounds emotionally. You dont need a girlfriend to have sex. There are plenty of options - one nite stands, fuck buddy etc |
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 17:47 Post subject: |
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@nuc
lol typical american, use a gun when in doubt lol 
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Wed, 4th Jun 2008 18:50 Post subject: |
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| Pfiemelcheese wrote: | | watergem wrote: | | You just lonely thats all.. |
I think you nailed it right there and then, what I am feeling now is lonelyness, I miss having someone around, someone I can go to and kuddle up to and shit, it shouldn't necessicarily be my ex that I need(would be nice if we could get back together but thats not gonna happen in a million years). So yeah I need someone else and that would help me very quickly to get over her. But finding a new one also takes alot of time and effort, so I don't have my summer planned as I did, wanted it to be with someone and this is hard to face.
Sorry for the bad english, can't even concentrate to type properly, even my work is starting to get affected now. Fucking cold relentless bitch  |
Why do you feel the need to be with someone dude?
And like I said, you dont need a girlfriend for intimacy. You hug and cuddle before you have a one nite stand or something you know?
I know its tough being alone when youve been with someone for a while but after a while, its fine. You can do what you want, be with who you want, buy what you want etc
Im actually finding the single life better than when I was married. Obviously it was because I was married to a crazy bitch, but aside from that, I have total freedom. I can stay out till all hours of the nite with my boys and not have to worry about pissing the wife off. I can come home high as fuck or drunk as fuck and not get bitched at. I can go to the strip bar and not get bitched at. And most of all, I can play the field. Date numerous women.
Im a pretty picky guy now. I know the kinda woman Im looking for and Im not going to settle for anything less (like i did with my exwife).
You should do something similar. Dont hook up with the next pretty face that happens to come along. She may turn out to be the same ass your ex. Be selective, know what you want from a partner and dont settle for anything less.
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Chillax, If you just want some hugging/cuddling, call one of your female friends and say you need to talk, im sure they wont mind giving you a hug and/or watching a DVD or two ffs 
