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Cohen
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 Posted: Sat, 31st Mar 2007 02:25 Post subject: |
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Best way to deal with these problems is to delay them, don't say you won't do it, say you'll do it in 2 days (or you'll think about doing it in 2 days). By then your anger should be gone mostly...works for me
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Godlikez*
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Phluxed
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Location: Oakville, Ontario, Canada
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| Posted: Sat, 31st Mar 2007 18:55 Post subject: |
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My fiancé was married once already and I have to deal with her ex on a regular basis as he fathered her children. Since I've been with her, he's kissed her, tried to have sex with her, nearly raped her, and on a weekly basis tries to get her back (though the fuck head is engaged to someone else as well).
I've not done a thing to him besides when he kissed her. I went to his house and slashed his tires and waited for him to come outside and then we got in a tussle. And to this day I have to talk to him, and deal with him civilly. Just remember, there are ex's out there that do a lot worse and that whatever this guy has done, I'm sure he deserves to pay, but you aren't the one who needs to pass that judgement, she already has by leaving him, and I'm sure he is green with jealousy through and through - and I've been the ex as well, and that's punishment enough.
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| Posted: Sat, 31st Mar 2007 19:10 Post subject: |
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| Phluxed wrote: | My fiancé was married once already and I have to deal with her ex on a regular basis as he fathered her children. Since I've been with her, he's kissed her, tried to have sex with her, nearly raped her, and on a weekly basis tries to get her back (though the fuck head is engaged to someone else as well).
I've not done a thing to him besides when he kissed her. I went to his house and slashed his tires and waited for him to come outside and then we got in a tussle. And to this day I have to talk to him, and deal with him civilly. Just remember, there are ex's out there that do a lot worse and that whatever this guy has done, I'm sure he deserves to pay, but you aren't the one who needs to pass that judgement, she already has by leaving him, and I'm sure he is green with jealousy through and through - and I've been the ex as well, and that's punishment enough. |
LOL. So the attempted rape didn't get a response, but when he kissed her you slashed his tires...
"Techniclly speaking, Beta-Manboi didnt inject Burberry_Massi with Benz, he injected him with liquid that had air bubbles in it, which caused benz." - House M.D
"Faith without logic is the same as knowledge without understanding; meaningless"
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| Posted: Sat, 31st Mar 2007 19:13 Post subject: |
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Yeah I would certainly be more pissed off at the rape allegation.
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| Posted: Sat, 31st Mar 2007 22:37 Post subject: |
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idve slashed his tires when he kissed her and when he tried to rape her idve slashed him
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Cohen
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| Posted: Sat, 31st Mar 2007 23:00 Post subject: |
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to keep it short and sweet he secretly filmed her and showed all his mates..
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[sYn]
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| Posted: Sat, 31st Mar 2007 23:40 Post subject: |
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Simple as this watergem. Why does you going to some guys house and beating him up make you any better than the guy you hit? Seriously, violence isn't showing someone love, neither is revenge. Loving them is.
Love your girl, forget about her past and then you never run the risk of fucking things up because YOU can't cope. Right now, this is all about you.
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| Posted: Sun, 1st Apr 2007 00:11 Post subject: |
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Well, my girlfriend (and mother of my kid now) had a 3-year relationship with some guy (not a jerk, just an average clubber, golden boy smthg like that) and when she dumped him because we fell in love with each other he kept calling her during the night - you know those cheap drunken calls "I can't live without you bla-bla-bla".
What I did I just asked him calmly to fuck off with the night calls and when he called back I switched her cellie off. The next morning (without her knowing) I did a bit of research, found his name, then found out where he was working (just a cross-search via forums, LiveJournal etc) and came to see him there. So the secretary @the reception desk called him out and we went to have a smoke (he's never seen me before). Then I just told him (calmly again) that that call yesterday night was the last one he'd ever make using that number. And that was it. He's never ever sounded off again except for some casual birthday SMS.
You have to be calm, solid as a rock and that other guy must read in your eyes that if he trespasses again, something bad will happen. All the tire-slashing and yelling and cursing just amuses them. They understand that they've lost the girl but they can have a bit of revenge by pissing you off.
There's also another point - if that ex isn't a bad person after all (deep inside), when he sees that you're strong and calm, he'll let her go quicker. Because sometimes that wish to get back with her is a wish to protect her. And when you see that she's with a decent guy that cares, it's just easier.
"Only one country can destroy NATO in 40 minutes - it's Russia"
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deelix
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| Posted: Sun, 1st Apr 2007 04:23 Post subject: |
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^nice. Very pro way to do it.
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Phluxed
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| Posted: Sun, 1st Apr 2007 07:38 Post subject: |
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| AnimalMother wrote: |
LOL. So the attempted rape didn't get a response, but when he kissed her you slashed his tires... |
I didn't find out about the attempted rape until I moved back to Ontario, when I was a long ways away and he did it after I left. If I run into him when I pick her up to move up here, I'm sure words won't solve our problems.
I guess I should've been more specific. |
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| Posted: Sun, 1st Apr 2007 14:08 Post subject: |
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Dress up like a duck.
I also think fisk should be unbanned.
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| Posted: Sun, 1st Apr 2007 18:57 Post subject: |
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beat him up if that makes you feel better but if you were gonna do it by you would of done it by now so don`t worry about it
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