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I admit it's a tough situation.
On one hand, everyone is crazy and stupid. There will be no exception to this rule. Any woman you meet in the future will be crazy too. So, do you want the crazy that you know or the crazy that is hidden? Here, you have a woman who's honest about her flaws. So you know what's wrong with her, no more surprises.
Also, relationship isn't about meeting and dumping new people until you find one that is flawless, because that's not gonna happen. It's about finding the one that fits you despite her flaws.
On the other hand, if you're gonna become emotionally involved with someone, there's no point in purposefully putting yourself in danger. If you TRULY believe she might actually pull a knife on you, yeah, stay away.
Why pick the one who's crazy if you have a choice, right?
If I was in your situation:
- if the girl is genuinely special to you and you'd love to see her more, go for it. If you already have an attachment to her, I think it's worth pursuing.
- if you were only interested in her because you haven't flirted with anyone in a long time, and she was the first one to show interest, move on. Don't waste your time and don't waste hers.
PS: If she's a 9/10 or 10/10 you should fuck her anyway.
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HubU
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| Posted: Tue, 17th May 2016 13:22 Post subject: |
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She pulled a knife on herself and almost bled out cause voices commanded her to do so. She said she completely lost control over herself when that happened. Yeah, i can't live with anything like that.
I'm just going to continue staying as friends. Not going to abandon her as a friend, as i think that is an despicable thing to do. We haven't initiated anything, so i'll just use that as my defence if she ever tries.
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| Posted: Tue, 17th May 2016 13:36 Post subject: |
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She certainly MIGHT be, but i doubt it. Knowing her for almost half a year (some will say this is little, but i think it's enough to gauge a personality), this was way different and serious compared to anything else. And you don't use Schizophrenia as a way to get attention, if anything, you'd use it to get away from attention.
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| Posted: Tue, 17th May 2016 14:29 Post subject: |
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Honestly, the one being clueless about this particular situation is you. Yes, special snowflake syndrome probably is a thing or worthy of being a thing, but i honestly doubt that's the case here. Regardless, i will stay clear. Invasor pretty much had it right on the previous page.
Last edited by Stormwolf on Tue, 17th May 2016 14:33; edited 1 time in total
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| Posted: Tue, 17th May 2016 14:33 Post subject: |
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Well you've been contradicting yourself, first you say you'll stay away, then you say you'll just be friends, now you say you'll stay away again. Take it from someone who does unfortunately know what this particular situation entails, and simply let someone else deal with that shit, you really don't need it in your life especially since you barely've known her for half a year or whatever.
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| Posted: Tue, 17th May 2016 14:34 Post subject: |
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When i say steer clear, i mean as anything but friends. I'm not interested in anything more. She lives a while away, so unless she starts showing up at my doorstep, it doesn't really matter. You probably think i'll just fall head over heels for her after a while, but that just won't happen.
I would feel like the worst bastard alive if i just turned my back as a friend, so i won't do that. I wouldn't do anything like that to any friend, and she's included.
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| Posted: Tue, 17th May 2016 17:07 Post subject: |
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the brain is a massive system of wires and its only normal some people have bad wiring. some worse then other, some having the medecin they need to cope, others need more. At least she is open about it, i can imagine it can eat a person alive feeling the guilt and shame of such an issue one is not in full control of or can be fixed, only medecated . Its more commen then one would think. 0,0001% still a massive amount of people
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| Posted: Tue, 17th May 2016 17:20 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Tue, 17th May 2016 18:09 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Tue, 17th May 2016 19:34 Post subject: |
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Ok, as someone whose ex gf tried to throw herself out of the window in front of me and had lots of mental problems like that girl, I can say only one thing:
RUN! AWAY! RUN AWAY!
Ahem... Just run.
You can't help her in any way, you can be some distant somebody, an acquaintance or something like that. But nothing else because if she falls for you, you're fucked. Believe me, the amount of shit, feces, crap, call it any way you like, is incredible.
You are a sane human being, go look for a girl that's on your level and that's as sane as you are.
Even staying as a friend will have repercussions, you'll see. Sadly, the truth is that you shouldn't pity her. You could use some common sense to steer her in the right direction but you are not her parents, her therapist or something like that and it will rub off on you.
Life is sad sometimes and you can't do a thing about it. Just, let it be.
"... and the world will become my playground."
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| Posted: Wed, 18th May 2016 02:49 Post subject: |
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I don't know how i'd be in much shit if she ever fell for me though. I'd just cut contact if she became bat shit crazy. She generally have a nice personality, at least thus far, so i don't see that happening.
About the common sense thing. Won't happen. There was someone else advicing her to take care of herself before something, and she became really dismissive/defensive and just tried to get out of the conversation. It was a childish spectacle to witness. Well, some people are like that, so i doubt i'd convince her of anything. Everyone have their good and bad points.
But like i said, i won't try to fhitb.
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| Posted: Wed, 18th May 2016 02:59 Post subject: |
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Did you see the Dear Zachary documentary?
Say no.
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| Posted: Wed, 18th May 2016 16:30 Post subject: |
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wow that doc is crazy, but that is a woman who refuses to admit she has a problem and her psychatist is as guilty as she is.
8 restraining orders djees and a murder and she is let out with a baby ... retarded
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| Posted: Wed, 18th May 2016 17:35 Post subject: Re: Like a girl, but this seems dangerous |
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| Stormwolf wrote: | So i've been in contact with this girl for months, and she's pretty kind and sweet (yes, it's been long i admit) And now she told me that she was just put in a mental hospital because voices commanded her to kill herself so she almost died after slitting her wrist (this next seemed completely out of place and i was pretty shocked) I admit.. The idea of a relationship with this girl went down the gutter for me. She almost killed herself, and i do not like the idea of a possible knife in throat while sleeping or waking up next to a corpse somewhere down the line 
Well, it pretty much sounds like schizophrenia, but i'm no doctor.
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I know a really good guy in every way that experienced a similar thing. He slit his own throat partially (has a big scar now) but firemen broke the door down and saved him before he bled out. He now enjoys a career and has recovered, it was a one-time, he also apparently heard voices (or did what he did because of depression).
The human mind is complicated, it varies what kind of stress we can handle in terms of work, health or social related challenges. A lot of strings and wires that can malfunction, doesn't mean someone is a danger to others because they wanted to hurt themselves.
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| Posted: Wed, 18th May 2016 17:38 Post subject: |
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Doesn't mean i'm willing to take the chance either. I'm just not going to do it.
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