I think it's just experience. Women and men are more alike then we would like to think. We just like to focus on the differences because it strokes our egos When things don't turn out the way we want them to. it's human nature to want what we can't have, and take for granted the things we can. that being said, there's lots of things that people do when they lack confidence and playing games is one of them. me, I'd rather be alone than ever settle. I like myself a lot more these days
... but people give you that look, like you are an alien or something. What's wrong with you that you are not in a relation? Ok, I don't care about that, I don't need a woman at my side just to have one.
And then there are 2 marriages and 2 new babies of close friends this year, giving you the feel you are missing out something.
... but people give you that look, like you are an alien or something. What's wrong with you that you are not in a relation? Ok, I don't care about that, I don't need a woman at my side just to have one.
Yes, this.
boundle (thoughts on cracking AITD) wrote:
i guess thouth if without a legit key the installation was rolling back we are all fucking then
I am the only one in my group of friends with no relationship and they always push me about it, why am I single, bla bla . I'm too lazy to find a gf or go out, but at the same time, when you see about the good stuff that you miss out... I dunno. I am confused The main reason why they pester me though is mostly cause I refused to be in a relationship several times, even when I had a chance. So I suppose I am the crazy one
I bet some of you have met these types of nutters as well:
Nutter: Do you have a girlfriend?
You: No
Nutter: Why? Are you gay?
Haha yeah, just because I wasn't in a relationship for 3 years some would ask: are you gay?
Maybe it didn't help that one of my best friends was gay and I hung around quite a few gay/trans/lesb.
Ah well, it's usually very insecure people that are like that.
My view was always: having a big need to be in one or not be in one is unhealthy. It should be a natural process.
That being said, I'm not really the norm when it comes to relationships since I always went for serious stuff. I'm really not into short flings or making huge comprimises just so I wouldn't be alone.
That's indeed very true, haha. Tactless superficial people will never stop asking stupid questions, it's in their dna.
I too was into serious relationships until some years ago, then for one reason or another (as in, them females broke my giggidy heart a lot) I got hit by ptsd, and because of that I've been spending these recent years living the beloved single life, with carpe diem moments of course xD
Friends are getting married almost every weekend and are spawning babies like madmen, and I'm here being Peter Pan, but I don't feel bad really. My mindset will likely change one day, there's no rush, and if it doesn't, no problem. The worst offender among the areyougay moments is when you politely decline the advances of someone, and instead you awake the beast.."how can you?! you must be gay..." *eye rolling*
Sometimes it just would be more productive to pull a FireMaster and dismiss the whole thing with a, bitch please, get your ugly ass out of here xD
A lot of the stuff I read here from you guys sounds very familiar. I come from a family with a LOT of failed marriages and relationships. I mean, this is my family tree:
- father: divorced twice, two other failed long-term relationships, current relationship is with a really annoying women and they fight all the time.
- mother: divorced twice, had a very poor relationship when she died in 2003)
- uncle on mother's side: wife left him without warning, packed her bags while he was at work. He's currently married to another horrible woman who makes his life miserable
- aunt 1 on father's side: divorced just once but was in a very abusive relationship - was single for about 20 years and then went back to that same guy *facepalms*
- aunt 2: divorced twice
- uncle 1: lived with a woman for 20 years but broke up and now he's single
- uncle 2: only one in the family who hasn't divorced. His wife has him severely under her foot though. She calls the shots on everything.
So yeah ... I never considering relationships to be a lasting thing. I tried it, once, for a year, and when it ended badly (me at the worst end), I pretty much said "fuck it" and decided to be single unless I found someone really exceptional. Up to now, I haven't even met anyone who comes a 100 miles to that and even if I did, the chances she'd be single are very remote since only some bat shit crazy women are still single.
The common theme I see with family friends is: their girlfriends and wives control what they're allowed to do. They have no real choice over their lives anymore and many of my friends had to give up on their hobbies for their "family" against their wishes.
Two weeks ago, a friend and his gf dropped by for laptop trouble, he saw my arcade cabinet and was desperate to play. His gf IMMEDIATELY squashed his hopes and firmly said he was NOT to play on it. I was like "but that's why I bought it, for friends to play on it. He can play while I fix the laptop". But no, he was NOT to play it. She treated him as if he was her kid and that's the kind of attitude I see from too many Flemish girls and it severely puts me off getting into a relationship. I'm very independent and need my freedom or I'll just go crazy - I can't be in a relationship where I'm told by someone else what I can or can't do. Seriously, fuck Flemish women. 90% of them are control freaks.
since only some bat shit crazy women are still single.
Well... I hope that's really not the case. Because if we go with that theory wouldn't the same be true for us single males?
But I'd rather be crazy and single than in one of the relationships you've described, really.
boundle (thoughts on cracking AITD) wrote:
i guess thouth if without a legit key the installation was rolling back we are all fucking then
i stayed single untill 33 years old, no long term relationships, now im happly married , almost 6 years iwith her, dont regret a bit, but if i wouldnt found her, id be happy anyway.just consider my life richer with her by my side and my kid.
Sin317 wrote:
while you can't "turn gay", you can cut off your balls. believe me, you'll never think of women again.
zmed wrote:
Or just a defense mechanism. If you fart, you'll most definitely smell it so your brain tells you it ain't bad as strangerfarts.
Two weeks ago, a friend and his gf dropped by for laptop trouble, he saw my arcade cabinet and was desperate to play. His gf IMMEDIATELY squashed his hopes and firmly said he was NOT to play on it. I was like "but that's why I bought it, for friends to play on it. He can play while I fix the laptop". But no, he was NOT to play it. She treated him as if he was her kid
I can not understand how in the hell anyone can accept being treated like that. I would never accept that from anyone, no matter who they are. I could accept being asked not to do something if I've done it excessively and in the process neglected my girlfriend, but to try and control me somehow like that, eeeeeeeeeh. Wow, never.
I do not understand how anyone can live like that, I suppose some like to be controlled, despite complaining about it?
Absolutely. Such behavior would be the clear signal that we have a severe deal breaker in sight for the future relationship.
Respecting each others hobbies should always be the #1 priority, unless the hobby in question consists into sneaking into other people's bed.
"Listen baby, I love you, and I will always love you. From now on you'll be my only woman, I can guarantee you that. But you'll have to accept that you'll be sharing part of said love with my PC. If you're okay with that, we can get married even now"
Two weeks ago, a friend and his gf dropped by for laptop trouble, he saw my arcade cabinet and was desperate to play. His gf IMMEDIATELY squashed his hopes and firmly said he was NOT to play on it. I was like "but that's why I bought it, for friends to play on it. He can play while I fix the laptop". But no, he was NOT to play it. She treated him as if he was her kid
I can not understand how in the hell anyone can accept being treated like that. I would never accept that from anyone, no matter who they are. I could accept being asked not to do something if I've done it excessively and in the process neglected my girlfriend, but to try and control me somehow like that, eeeeeeeeeh. Wow, never.
I do not understand how anyone can live like that, I suppose some like to be controlled, despite complaining about it?
Perhaps but there's far more women like that out there where I live, than there aren't so it's not like there's that much of a choice if you feel you need to be in a relationship. Seeing my friends being whipped like there's no tomorrow has put me off relationships even more. My brother had two similar relationships like that as well - heck, I loved with him and his girlfriend in my father's house for two years and I nearly went insane because of how bossy and hypocritical she was. I was so happy to get out and get a place of my own.
I dunno, perhaps it's the Flemish girls where I live but it's not like I'm about to move any time soon so I'll just hold off the boat.
My brother had two similar relationships like that as well - heck, I loved with him and his girlfriend in my father's house for two years and I nearly went insane because of how bossy and hypocritical she was.
I get a lot of questions too because I don't have children. Women with children are the worse offenders. They actually find it offensive. I know enough to keep my mouth shut on how I truly feel.
Forgive the double post but it's like 48 hours after my last. I was at work and couldn't finish what I was writing.
I just think, my so humble opinion here that For most people having children is a selfish decision. We are such an overpopulated planet and people just keep having kids. Some do it because of culture, must have as many children as possible, or a means to support them in old age, or because they want to pass on their name. Or just because they want someone to love. But they are not in a good position to do so. They have nothing. No financial stability, no money fusion of something was to happen. Their significant other is not parent material, or committed to the relationship. I really think having kids Is a privilege that not all of us every get into a position where it is responsible for us to do so. Too many women rely on government support when the shit hits the fan.
I'm on my iPad in the sun and can't see to well. Forgive the typos.
In this day and age and with the way economics are going most of us never get into th position where I think it's a good idea to have children.
Pistol, you hit the nail on the head with your observations. People look at you as if you're a freak if you even dare to mention either "I'll stay single" or "I don't want to have kids".
Some people just don't understand that some are lone wolves and some people just don't want kids be it for whatever reasons.
Pistol, you hit the nail on the head with your observations. People look at you as if you're a freak if you even dare to mention either "I'll stay single" or "I don't want to have kids".
Some people just don't understand that some are lone wolves and some people just don't want kids be it for whatever reasons.
I am very astute at reading body language. Some are subtle and others not. I don't owe anybody my life story but when asked sometimes I just say it didn't seem like a good idea. I do that on purpose sometimes. Just to watch. They literally lash out. Their eyes go all big. They start to sputter. .........Some thinly disguised bitchy comment comes outta their mouth.<---women do that!
I know EXACTLY what it is. I challenge their core beliefs. People don't like that.
But me. I'm like the honey badger. I don't give a shit!!!!!
Stuff going very nicely with the other lady. I think I am sleeping 2 or 3 times a week at her place. And she lives like 5 min from where I live, so I have occasional booty calls after work before I go home. It's quite funny, we don't do special stuff, just chilling together, having fun together, and good sexy time
Anyway, today I got another message from the nutter. Almost 2 weeks of no contact whatsoever. She sent 'bought anything already?' [referring to my real estate hunt]
A lot of the stuff I read here from you guys sounds very familiar. I come from a family with a LOT of failed marriages and relationships. I mean, this is my family tree:
- father: divorced twice, two other failed long-term relationships, current relationship is with a really annoying women and they fight all the time.
- mother: divorced twice, had a very poor relationship when she died in 2003)
- uncle on mother's side: wife left him without warning, packed her bags while he was at work. He's currently married to another horrible woman who makes his life miserable
- aunt 1 on father's side: divorced just once but was in a very abusive relationship - was single for about 20 years and then went back to that same guy *facepalms*
- aunt 2: divorced twice
- uncle 1: lived with a woman for 20 years but broke up and now he's single
- uncle 2: only one in the family who hasn't divorced. His wife has him severely under her foot though. She calls the shots on everything.
So what's your point? Yes, everything ends in some way or another. Most of my family is divorced/lives apart as well, but should that be a reason for me not to be in a relationship? Its like saying what's the point of living, we all die at the end.
red_avatar wrote:
So yeah ... I never considering relationships to be a lasting thing. I tried it, once, for a year, and when it ended badly (me at the worst end), I pretty much said "fuck it" and decided to be single unless I found someone really exceptional. Up to now, I haven't even met anyone who comes a 100 miles to that and even if I did, the chances she'd be single are very remote since only some bat shit crazy women are still single.
I seriously doubt you'll find someone that can comes close to your ideal. A "safe" relationship doesn't exist.
red_avatar wrote:
The common theme I see with family friends is: their girlfriends and wives control what they're allowed to do. They have no real choice over their lives anymore and many of my friends had to give up on their hobbies for their "family" against their wishes.
You seem to be obsessed with this. In other threads as well.
red_avatar wrote:
Two weeks ago, a friend and his gf dropped by for laptop trouble, he saw my arcade cabinet and was desperate to play. His gf IMMEDIATELY squashed his hopes and firmly said he was NOT to play on it. I was like "but that's why I bought it, for friends to play on it. He can play while I fix the laptop". But no, he was NOT to play it. She treated him as if he was her kid and that's the kind of attitude I see from too many Flemish girls and it severely puts me off getting into a relationship. I'm very independent and need my freedom or I'll just go crazy - I can't be in a relationship where I'm told by someone else what I can or can't do. Seriously, fuck Flemish women. 90% of them are control freaks.
I know a guy who's girlfriend doesn't let him play GTA5. A friend of mine has to fight with his gf who will play GTA5. My gf sometimes likes to play GTA5 just to drive around. I can go on forever. There's so many relationships out there, its fucking impossible to find a common theme, unless one is trying to find one...
pistolshrimp wrote:
I just think, my so humble opinion here that For most people having children is a selfish decision. We are such an overpopulated planet and people just keep having kids. Some do it because of culture, must have as many children as possible, or a means to support them in old age, or because they want to pass on their name. Or just because they want someone to love. But they are not in a good position to do so. They have nothing. No financial stability, no money fusion of something was to happen. Their significant other is not parent material, or committed to the relationship. I really think having kids Is a privilege that not all of us every get into a position where it is responsible for us to do so. Too many women rely on government support when the shit hits the fan.
In this day and age and with the way economics are going most of us never get into th position where I think it's a good idea to have children.
Ok, if you don't have kids/don't want to have kids i don't care, your life, do what you want. But this overpopulation/selfish/economic situation argument is pure bullshit.
A lot of the stuff I read here from you guys sounds very familiar. I come from a family with a LOT of failed marriages and relationships. I mean, this is my family tree:
- father: divorced twice, two other failed long-term relationships, current relationship is with a really annoying women and they fight all the time. (9 years and 7 years)
- mother: divorced twice, had a very poor relationship when she died in 2003) (9 years and 6 years)
- uncle on mother's side: wife left him without warning, packed her bags while he was at work. He's currently married to another horrible woman who makes his life miserable (3 years)
- aunt 1 on father's side: divorced just once but was in a very abusive relationship - was single for about 20 years and then went back to that same guy *facepalms* (9 years)
- aunt 2: divorced twice (4 years, 8 years)
- uncle 1: lived with a woman for 20 years but broke up and now he's single
- uncle 2: only one in the family who hasn't divorced. His wife has him severely under her foot though. She calls the shots on everything.
xxax wrote:
So what's your point? Yes, everything ends in some way or another. Most of my family is divorced/lives apart as well, but should that be a reason for me not to be in a relationship? Its like saying what's the point of living, we all die at the end.
I add the lengths of time each marriage lasted. You seriously think 7 years on average is good? That's short as fuck!
xxax wrote:
I seriously doubt you'll find someone that can comes close to your ideal. A "safe" relationship doesn't exist.
So I should go with bat-shit crazy women? No thank you. I'm the least stressed of everyone I know outside of work and for a good reason.
xxax wrote:
You seem to be obsessed with this. In other threads as well.
Gee I wonder why that is? Perhaps I just told you why <.< because every guy I know is being crushed by his girlfriend? Why do you think I'm so vocal in the Gamergate topic? Because when I see reality, it's frankly ridiculous to see women claiming men oppress them when I see the exact opposite EVERY DAY. Even my father gets yelled at almost constantly for doing anything that even slightly annoys her.
red_avatar wrote:
I know a guy who's girlfriend doesn't let him play GTA5. A friend of mine has to fight with his gf who will play GTA5. My gf sometimes likes to play GTA5 just to drive around. I can go on forever. There's so many relationships out there, its fucking impossible to find a common theme, unless one is trying to find one...
Nice to avoid my point - where I live, girls HATE games, they think it's for babies and guys are really really looked down on for playing them. I pretty much have to stay silent about my hobby at all unless I want to be ridiculed. Most of my friends would love to game but aren't allowed anymore. Do you think that's right for a gf to do in a relationship? Imagine a guy forcing his girlfriend to give up her hobbies - suddenly that's incredibly sexist yet it's not the other way round?
My gf sometimes complaints that I game too much. That's why I bought a laptop to game on, so I can still sit next to her in the living room
Well, she knew what she was getting into. And on the other hand, it opened up a new world for her as well. Before we met, she never was interested in fantasy or science fiction, and now she has read the entire back catalog of Philip K. Dick and Robin Hobb, also The Witcher, Dark Tower, Song of Ice and Fire, ...
Guys who let their gf boss them around are just pitiful. Those relationships are absolutely not a good reference, as it's the guys own fault for letting it come so far.
My gf sometimes complaints that I game too much. That's why I bought a laptop to game on, so I can still sit next to her in the living room
Well, she knew what she was getting into. And on the other hand, it opened up a new world for her as well. Before we met, she never was interested in fantasy or science fiction, and now she has read the entire back catalog of Philip K. Dick and Robin Hobb, also The Witcher, Dark Tower, Song of Ice and Fire, ...
Guys who let their gf boss them around are just pitiful. Those relationships are absolutely not a good reference, as it's the guys own fault for letting it come so far.
I agree - but that's also why I'm single .
Both brother and my best friend tried to disobey and it both resulted in their relationship blowing up pretty quickly so I think most guys are just too afraid because Flemish women, they don't kid around .
I tried to introduce some girls and women I know to less-vanilla stuff like fantasy books and so on, but it's been a very hard struggle. You know in the US, it's hip to be different - well here, it's hip to be the same and anyone who does anything out of the norm, is considered weird so people are not very eager to try something that might make them stand out. Really sad.
Well, I guess for us that are single we have several solutions. 1. Buy a blow up doll 2. Marry your dog 3. Go homo 4. Make yourself find a gf and give it a chance
Signature/Avatar nuking: none (can be changed in your profile)
You cannot post new topics in this forum You cannot reply to topics in this forum You cannot edit your posts in this forum You cannot delete your posts in this forum You cannot vote in polls in this forum
. I'm too lazy to find a gf or go out, but at the same time, when you see about the good stuff that you miss out... I dunno. I am confused 
'
