My little buddy :(
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tw1st




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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 00:24    Post subject: My little buddy :(
It seems like we have had a few of these threads this year already...

My 16 year old cat died yesterday, and it fucking sucks. She was sick about a month ago, and we quickly got her on medication that helped for a few weeks. Sadly this last week she took and turn for the worse and finally passed yesterday.... peacufuly, at home.

My wife is taking it especially hard, she has been crying non stop, and it so hard for me to see her like this. It's breaking my heart, I don't know what to say to her to make her feel better. I am terribly sad as well, but I have a different way of grieving than her.

She has been crying non stop ever since our cat passed, I am trying to comfort her, but I feel so lost.

Going to miss my little buddy Sad


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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 00:24    Post subject:
Damn.. I'm really sorry for your loss, mate, really Sad
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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 00:30    Post subject:
Thanks sabby.

Here's a picture of her with my wife on our wedding day


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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 01:02    Post subject:
get a new one, she will get over it in no time
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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 01:09    Post subject:
I feel for you. Sad
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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 01:23    Post subject:
Naaw, sorry to hear. Sad


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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 01:52    Post subject:
RIP Life goes on till death grabs us all.
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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 03:27    Post subject:
I'm sorry Tw1st Sad ..
I know how you feel bud, the first days are terrible. There's nothing that can soothe the grief. It gets better though with time, stay strong guys.
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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 06:43    Post subject:
Sorry for your loss, it's always heavy. Sad


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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 06:44    Post subject:
Sad I'd lost 3 cats, and after that my mom said she can't do it anymore :\ Loosing a pet that has been so long with you is just as loosing a family member. Sorry for your loss


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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 07:38    Post subject:
PickupArtist wrote:
get a new one, she will get over it in no time


You don't get it.

People can spend years mourning their pet, of course the strongest emotions and constant crying only occurs for a few days or weeks, but the mourning continues. You look at where she would lie most oftenly and when she isn't there, you realize once again she's gone, and it fucking hurts. You find hair strands from her fur, and get memory flashes from stupid shit she did, like eating a whole plant and then throwing it up and looking at you as if nothing just happened, or botching a jump and landing upside down paddling with her legs, or playing, or remembering the sound of her meow.

There are claw marks on some of our wallpaper from our Maja, and man roughly half a year after it still fucking stings when they catch my attention. The bonds you forge with a cat or a dog of course is relative, some people don't really care for or about their pets, they treat them like they would a piece of furniture. But then to some, they are much more. They are friends and family, and the mourning process is similar emotionally to losing any friend or family.


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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 07:58    Post subject:
The feels man, i'm so sorry Sad

I have two kittehs (bros) now but i know the feeling Crying or Very sad
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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 08:13    Post subject:
Noooooooooooooo Sad


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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 12:26    Post subject:
Sorry to hear that Sad
She was a gorgeous cat what I can tell from the picture. Take care!


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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 13:24    Post subject:
Thanks guys, she was such a unique cat, she had an awesome loving personality, and will be terribly missed Sad

Just hope that my wife can start to heal slowly, I have never seen her so upset.


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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 14:18    Post subject:
tw1st wrote:
Thanks guys, she was such a unique cat, she had an awesome loving personality, and will be terribly missed Sad

Just hope that my wife can start to heal slowly, I have never seen her so upset.


Maybe she only was with you because she loved your cat? And now... Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad Crying or Very sad




But, seriously. Make her a baby, then she'll forget the cat. Laughing Laughing
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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 15:17    Post subject:
tw1st wrote:
Thanks guys, she was such a unique cat, she had an awesome loving personality, and will be terribly missed Sad

Just hope that my wife can start to heal slowly, I have never seen her so upset.


Talk to her, my GF spent weeks blaming herself, people who are emotionally distraught sometimes need some help in dealing with the insurmountable amounts of questions or thoughts they have.


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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 16:17    Post subject:
Damn, thats one fine pussy

but srsly my condolences, mine is 12y+ so it might go any moment
and it has never left the apartment or seen a vet


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tw1st




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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 16:45    Post subject:
16 years was a long good life for a stray cat Smile I'm trying to tell her all the positives, and make her feel better, which she is a little bit today.

There is so much around our house that keeps reminding her of the cat, and she just breaks down each time she sees something. I know it will take time, and I need to be patient and let her grieve.

She doesn't seem to be blaming herself, the cat just died of old age, nothing we could have done, just hard to lose her.

Once again, thank you for all the nice comments and insight guys Smile


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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 18:15    Post subject:
tw1st wrote:
16 years was a long good life for a stray cat Smile I'm trying to tell her all the positives, and make her feel better, which she is a little bit today.

There is so much around our house that keeps reminding her of the cat, and she just breaks down each time she sees something. I know it will take time, and I need to be patient and let her grieve.

She doesn't seem to be blaming herself, the cat just died of old age, nothing we could have done, just hard to lose her.

Once again, thank you for all the nice comments and insight guys Smile


I moved all Maja's stuff into one box that I keep along with her ashes in her favourite sleeping spot (a closet), it's become a bit of an altar. Might want to consider doing something similar so it doesn't hit her as often, but still have the option to remember, because the sorrow eventually turns into good memories and laughter too.


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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 18:28    Post subject:
tw1st ,

hm, I think I'm a bad person mate... I first looked at your wife then the cat. Sad

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PostPosted: Thu, 9th Oct 2014 18:38    Post subject:
I am sorry for your loss, lost a couple of cats myself.

Of course we all say our pets had 'unique personalities' and they were special, if you get a new cat it will feel the same way in a year, they are kinda like people each pet has a character of it's own.
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PostPosted: Fri, 21st Nov 2014 16:21    Post subject:
Sorry to hear that. Really sad when our little buddies passes away.

I cried like a little bitch when I left my ex gf not because of her, but because she would leave with the cat and damn I loved that cat!
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tw1st




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PostPosted: Fri, 21st Nov 2014 16:36    Post subject:
Thanks for all the kind words, we are both doing much better, but still get sad when we something that reminds us of her.

Probably going to be a long time before we have another pet, I would love to have a German Shepard at some point.


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PostPosted: Mon, 24th Nov 2014 14:30    Post subject:
tw1st wrote:

Probably going to be a long time before we have another pet, I would love to have a German Shepard at some point.


That is a mistake. no matter how harsh it seems, get a new pet right away. they are like prozac, they will help you cope much better than being without one.
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PostPosted: Tue, 25th Nov 2014 14:07    Post subject:
sigh gotta stop opening these kinds of threads Sad my cat is old too I dont want her to die
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PostPosted: Tue, 25th Nov 2014 14:17    Post subject:
Every time I open this thread I take a look at the cat. Damn she was pretty!


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PostPosted: Tue, 25th Nov 2014 14:28    Post subject:
Yeah, she was a beautiful one, still miss her but it definitely became easier.

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As much as I would love to, we are thinking about a new house and children in our near future before we consider a pet, there will absolutely be more dogs/cats in our future though Smile


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