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Aeon
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@xxaxNah, she wasn't just lying there. We kept eachother busy enough.
And yes, that's what she told me. She didn't know that she was pregnant until she got very naucious. She also said she was just having her normal period. And no big belly. The question is, does it matter now?
@Saner
I'm always honest and I don't want to keep her on a line. It's good that she's gone for a week now so that I can sort this out
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Saner
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 10:30 Post subject: |
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@Saner
I'm always honest and I don't want to keep her on a line. |
I guessed as much, you seem a decent bloke 
Could have been worse, she could have had triplets 
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I saw things like that in here and in other "woman problems" topics so...... Am I the only one that thinks some authorities needs to be alerted about Saner and him possibly being a rapist and/or kidnapper ? |
Saner is not being serious. Unless its the subject of Santa! |
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RatKing
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 11:17 Post subject: |
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| Aeon wrote: | | She didn't know that she was pregnant until she got very naucious. She also said she was just having her normal period. And no big belly. The question is, does it matter now? |
The question is, why is she making this up?
Just so you know, I'm not trying to be a prick here. It isn't scientifically possible to have menstrual period during pregnancy. While some women experience occasional vaginal bleeding, it is not the same thing. Should be easily distinguishable. Serious bleeding (as in period) during pregnancy is a sign of something seriously wrong, for example miscarriage. Clearly that theory's out.
Could be excusable if this was something you have to study for years. Needless to say that is not the case.
Of course there can be exceptions but I highly doubt it.
This the natural scientist in me speaking, curious bastard that I am. |
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garus
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tonizito
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| garus wrote: | She even has 12 toes  |
That's where you were looking?
Also it makes your tarantino hate even weirder since you guys seem to have the same taste 
on-topic: Yeah... sorry aeon but that whole bit of not knowing she was pregnant sounds really really off.
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garus
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 12:58 Post subject: |
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Aeon
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 13:12 Post subject: |
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@Ratking & Toni I know that, but even if I know the truth, which I will ask at some time, it doesn't change the situation I'm in now.
And three boobs would have been way better! And to answer your question from the previous page, RatKing. I have no idea how much she weights. Let's just say she looks hotter WITH clothes on. Luckily her face is amazing, dem eyes...can't stop watching. She goes to the same gym as me, so I'm going to make sure she's gonna loose some pounds. At the pictures she showed me she was a lot smaller in size, but that was probably before the baby.
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Morphineus
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 13:27 Post subject: |
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| RatKing wrote: |
Of course there can be exceptions but I highly doubt it.
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There are exceptions but I highly doubt it as well, but... Don't forget it can be psychological. In most cases where woman 'didn't know' they were pregnant it had more to do with them suppressing it rather than not knowing it. A mind can be strong in fooling itself.
Goes along with over eating just to mask.
Makes a bit sense if Aeon is saying she was quite thin and gained a whole lot during pregnancy. You gain with pregnancy's but to say you gain loads... that's someone letting themselves go. |
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RatKing
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 15:28 Post subject: |
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@Aeon
You're right, it doesn't have to change anything. Just leaves me wondering what else she's hiding or how stable she really is. Speculating, speculating. But hey, I know from experience nutjobs are the best in the sack!
And let me just add, eyes are propably THE sexiest part in a woman. The biggest turn-on. Good choice.
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Touché, self-deception is a powerful tool. Often easier to fool yourself than others.
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Saner
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 15:30 Post subject: |
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My wife bled a lot with our second child, it's uncommon, but it does happen.
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I saw things like that in here and in other "woman problems" topics so...... Am I the only one that thinks some authorities needs to be alerted about Saner and him possibly being a rapist and/or kidnapper ? |
Saner is not being serious. Unless its the subject of Santa!
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RatKing
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 15:35 Post subject: |
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In distinct regular cycles?
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Saner
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 16:27 Post subject: |
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No, but not everyone (wife included obviously) has regular as clockwork periods.
We didn't know she was pregnant until later on (it was incidentally the morning sickness that gave it away) because she just put it down to her irregular periods.
I just wanted to add that, because I dont think its fair basing a "Why is she making this up" when it does happen, I have no idea how common it is, but it does happen.
I wouldnt want to know, nor would I ask what her usual cycle it, and how long does it last etc... but to jump and say "Why is she making this up" when it could have just struck her as being "normal" if her periods are normally irregular and or varying consistency.
Hello everyone, have a jam sandwich.
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I saw things like that in here and in other "woman problems" topics so...... Am I the only one that thinks some authorities needs to be alerted about Saner and him possibly being a rapist and/or kidnapper ? |
Saner is not being serious. Unless its the subject of Santa!
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sausje
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 16:29 Post subject: |
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Aeon, i'm actually curious how she looks. Got a picture? 
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RatKing
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 17:03 Post subject: |
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| Saner wrote: | No, but not everyone (wife included obviously) has regular as clockwork periods.
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I just wanted to add that, because I dont think its fair basing a "Why is she making this up" when it does happen, I have no idea how common it is, but it does happen. |
Fair point. Why I was pointing it out was because it wasn't just about "having period during pregnancy". All this talk about waking up one morning and going into labor doesn't add up. C'mon, didn't notice at all?
Not trying to pick up a fight here.
| Saner wrote: | | I wouldnt want to know, nor would I ask what her usual cycle it, and how long does it last etc... |
Agreed. 
Have some bacon and eggs.
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Saner
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 17:07 Post subject: |
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She didn't know that she was pregnant until she got very naucious. |
I saw that, have just backtracked and saw the rest 
Apologies.
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I saw things like that in here and in other "woman problems" topics so...... Am I the only one that thinks some authorities needs to be alerted about Saner and him possibly being a rapist and/or kidnapper ? |
Saner is not being serious. Unless its the subject of Santa! |
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Werelds
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 17:11 Post subject: |
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| Saner wrote: | Hello everyone, have a jam sandwich.
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MapHtH
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 17:16 Post subject: |
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Well, someone might hate me for this, but here goes:
Aeon, at 21, do you really want to deal with a (someone elses) kid and the kids mother?
If you really hesitate, then you don't.
Also, this:
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Jerry: Can I ask you a question totally unrelated to your career?
Rod: Oh, we gonna be friends now?
Jerry: What do you know about dating a single mother?
Rod: Oh I know plenty. I was raised by a single mother.
Jerry: Tell me, because it's been a month, and she's about to take another job in San Diego.
Rod: First, single mothers don't "date." They have been to the circus, you know what I'm saying? They have been to the puppet show and they have seen the strings. You love her?
Jerry: How do I know?
Rod: You know when you know. It makes you shiver, it eats at your insides. You know?
Jerry: No, I don't know.
Rod: Then you gotta have The Talk.
Jerry: But I sure don't like that she's leaving.
Rod: Well, that ain't fair to her. A single mother, that's a sacred thing, man.
Jerry: The kid is amazing.
Rod: No. A real man does not shoplift the "pootie" from a single mom.
Jerry: I didn't "shoplift the pootie." We were thrown together and -- I mean it's two mutual people who -- Alright, I shoplifted the pootie.
Rod: Shame on you. Shame on you. |
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ixigia
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 17:18 Post subject: |
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| Werelds wrote: | | Saner wrote: | Hello everyone, have a jam sandwich.
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Invasor
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 19:04 Post subject: |
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| Aeon wrote: | Yeah, but my feeling isn't that good. Could be two reasons: Yes, I had sex but I couldn't get the job done for both sides. So that felt kind of awkward/disappointed on my side. Or, now that I had sex, all the excitement is gone and I actually feel...I don't know bad, not in love? Can't put my finger on it.
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Like I said before, you don't need that. You're young and it's easy for you to find other girls. To be honest, she shouldn't even be dating now. There's a reason why parental leave was invented, babies need full-time maternal attention. A 4 month old baby shouldn't be with anyone but his mom, and going on a date is a pretty bad excuse to leave him with anyone else (not to mention she shouldn't be drinking because I assume she is -or should be- breastfeeding). It seems to me that she can't take care of herself and she's struggling to take care of her son too (which is to be expected, being a mom is hard, being a single mom who recently got dumped by the scumbag father is much harder), but you're just too young and unexperienced to be taking care of her and her kid.
If I were you I'd friendzone her and kindly tell her to focus on her kid, taking a break from dating will probably be the best for her now...
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| Invasor wrote: | | Aeon wrote: | Yeah, but my feeling isn't that good. Could be two reasons: Yes, I had sex but I couldn't get the job done for both sides. So that felt kind of awkward/disappointed on my side. Or, now that I had sex, all the excitement is gone and I actually feel...I don't know bad, not in love? Can't put my finger on it.
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Like I said before, you don't need that. You're young and it's easy for you to find other girls. To be honest, she shouldn't even be dating now. There's a reason why parental leave was invented, babies need full-time maternal attention. A 4 month old baby shouldn't be with anyone but his mom, and going on a date is a pretty bad excuse to leave him with anyone else (not to mention she shouldn't be drinking because I assume she is -or should be- breastfeeding). It seems to me that she can't take care of herself and she's struggling to take care of her son too (which is to be expected, being a mom is hard, being a single mom who recently got dumped by the scumbag father is much harder), but you're just too young and unexperienced to be taking care of her and her kid.
If I were you I'd friendzone her and kindly tell her to focus on her kid, taking a break from dating will probably be the best for her now... |
I don't agree. A girl shouldn't have to sit around and die while parenting her kid. She should be free to do whatever she wants as long as she doesn't neglect her child in any way.
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[quote="Aeon"] | tonizito wrote: | | when she's back I'm up for surgery and I'm going to look like shit for at least three weeks. |
what kinda surgery ?
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Invasor
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| Posted: Mon, 27th Jan 2014 20:01 Post subject: |
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| Stormwolf wrote: | | Invasor wrote: | | Aeon wrote: | Yeah, but my feeling isn't that good. Could be two reasons: Yes, I had sex but I couldn't get the job done for both sides. So that felt kind of awkward/disappointed on my side. Or, now that I had sex, all the excitement is gone and I actually feel...I don't know bad, not in love? Can't put my finger on it.
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Like I said before, you don't need that. You're young and it's easy for you to find other girls. To be honest, she shouldn't even be dating now. There's a reason why parental leave was invented, babies need full-time maternal attention. A 4 month old baby shouldn't be with anyone but his mom, and going on a date is a pretty bad excuse to leave him with anyone else (not to mention she shouldn't be drinking because I assume she is -or should be- breastfeeding). It seems to me that she can't take care of herself and she's struggling to take care of her son too (which is to be expected, being a mom is hard, being a single mom who recently got dumped by the scumbag father is much harder), but you're just too young and unexperienced to be taking care of her and her kid.
If I were you I'd friendzone her and kindly tell her to focus on her kid, taking a break from dating will probably be the best for her now... |
I don't agree. A girl shouldn't have to sit around and die while parenting her kid. She should be free to do whatever she wants as long as she doesn't neglect her child in any way. |
I may be exaggerating (and I'm having a bad day), but I think the first months of life are simply too important so she should just sit around and parent her kid. She had to take a step back from work and school, why shouldn't she take a step back from drinking and dating too? She chose to have the kid, embracing it in full responsibility is part of the choice. But yes, it's easy to judge her from my high horse.
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Invasor
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MapHtH
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I have to side with Invasor here.
Dating while having a 4 month baby is a huge sign of irresponsibility. If she's ready to leave her most valuable and have fun and drink, I don't think she's ready for motherhood.
She's not dead, but if she's lying about having a baby or waiting to tell you that until you meet up with her, that means she knows that what she's doing is wrong and definitely didn't want the kid. A 4 month old kid needs constant attention from his/hers mom. It doesn't mean that she shouldn't have sex or date, but the older the kid is, responsibilities multiply by geometrical progression. And the first thing that comes to her mind should be her baby.
And I totaly don't buy it that she was pregnant without knowing. Like: "SHIT, SOMETHING IS COMMING OUT OF ME!!! IT'S NOT BROWN!!!" Even a whale knows it's pregnant.
Call me oldfashioned, but if a girl waited to tell me about her having a kid, I'd seriously reconsider about having any serious relationship with her. Would probably keep a ff relationship, and fhitb from time to time (well, isn't this the hump )
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StEFaN7
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ready for motherhood at 21 ? what ? if you dont like your life ...sure.
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Morphineus
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Guys you do know this is in The Netherlands right... Support systems are high and you have more chance of people being a bit more stable/normal than some god forsaken hell hole (no offence ).
So keep that a bit in mind.
21 isn't that far from 24/25 which is the age a lot of couples have their first children. At least this was the experience I had in Belgium. Most of my friends had stable jobs and lived together after college (the age of 21'ish) or for others who didn't went to college at the age of 19/20. And usually in stable relationships you can expect a baby a year or two for them to have their first child.
Sweden is weird for me tho, I see a lot of pregnant girls whom go to college or university. In Belgium it is more common to finish your education first (unless it wasn't planned). Heck in my girlfriends class there were 4 pregnancies 3 putting their education on hold for a year and one finishing the last 6 months of the course by bringing her child to work
So that is a bit too far with 'support' if you ask me but hey other country other customs
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sausje
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Yeah my sister had hers at 22, dropped work and everything. Got TWICE the money i get monthly
It's a fucking joke.. She decided never to go back to work back then, because it wouldn't be worth it compared to how much she gets for doing nothing.
Eventually it did bite her in the ass when after 2-3 years that disappeared and she was forced to work..
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Morphineus
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| sausje wrote: | Yeah my sister had hers at 22, dropped work and everything. Got TWICE the money i get monthly
It's a fucking joke.. She decided never to go back to work back then, because it wouldn't be worth it compared to how much she gets for doing nothing.
Eventually it did bite her in the ass when after 2-3 years that disappeared and she was forced to work.. |
I was talking about stable people! 
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