So I finally hit my breaking point. I'm gonna go ahead with assumption that the topic does not need reminding.
I finally ended it but not the way I wanted. At first there was crying, a fucklot of it, but now there is only pure, unadulterated rage, and a craving to destroy every fucking last thing around me to smithereens. Got no goals what to do with my life now, other than finally letting my family throw me to psychiatrist. But still there is one thing I need to do, that my friends gladly volunteered to help me with. The day after tommorow I'm heading to a club she works at, give her back all her stuff and get shitfaced at the bar where her ex, just PRAYING that he will try to pick a fight.
Fucking feels liberating to get rid of all this emo-bullshit.
You were crying? Don't go see her at all, if she needs anything of hers back she can come and get it, tell her she has 1 week to get her shit or its in the garbage. Don't try and pick a fight with anyone, that lets her win cause she knows ur a little bitch about it and gives her the upper hand. Cut off all contact now (right after giving her a chance to get her shit back) and be done with that whore.
You are not getting rid of it you are still doing it.
How about you stop relating a goal in life with a relationship. You don't go pick fights and especially not go to a bar and get drunk like any loser would do (Your ex's bar makes it that bit more pathetic tbh). No sir, you pick yourself up and end it for real by not clinging on to the past and the emotions you have with them. Send someone else with her stuff or let her pick it up.
Just better yourself and think what would make you happy without relying on anyone else. Because relationship wise... you get what you are.
So fricking stop with your Drinking/Aggression/Insecure emo stuff and get to it already, no one but yourself can make it better and that is achieved without doing the same stupid shit.
You were crying? Don't go see her at all, if she needs anything of hers back she can come and get it, tell her she has 1 week to get her shit or its in the garbage. Don't try and pick a fight with anyone, that lets her win cause she knows ur a little bitch about it and gives her the upper hand. Cut off all contact now (right after giving her a chance to get her shit back) and be done with that whore.
Already cut off the contact in every way possible. I'm not going to pick a fight, I just want to see him. And if he does have a quarrel with me, I won't take the higher path
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You are not getting rid of it you are still doing it.
How about you stop relating a goal in life with a relationship. You don't go pick fights and especially not go to a bar and get drunk like any loser would do (Your ex's bar makes it that bit more pathetic tbh). No sir, you pick yourself up and end it for real by not clinging on to the past and the emotions you have with them. Send someone else with her stuff or let her pick it up.
Just better yourself and think what would make you happy without relying on anyone else. Because relationship wise... you get what you are.
So fricking stop with your Drinking/Aggression/Insecure emo stuff and get to it already, no one but yourself can make it better and that is achieved without doing the same stupid shit.
Tough love, but you need some sense man!
That's my point I no longer do relate any of my goals to relationships. And I am in the progress of picking myself up. This is just the kind of closure I need to finally get that load off my chest.
Go educate yourself in anything you feel interested in. It can be anything, as long as you enjoy it. You need to find what you enjoy or want really. So start with that the search for that something
Already cut off the contact in every way possible. I'm not going to pick a fight, I just want to see him. And if he does have a quarrel with me, I won't take the higher path
And how is taking it out on him that shes doesnt want you going to help? Its somehow his fault that she didn't pick you?
Regardless of what hes got to do with her, the problems you have are between HER choices and you...
Really man, it just some chick you banged, no reason to make a mountain out of a molehill here. All your doing is projecting anger about the fantasy you had in your head outward onto other people when it didn't happen. Your just going to make more of an ass out of yourself, and her going "wow I was glad I didnt take him serious..look how he acts about it"
It reminds of the guy that showed up at my house at 3am to kick my ass because he wanted to date my wife when she was dancing...I asked him "And how exactly is kicking her husbands ass in the driveway going to convince her?"
Remember anger and hostility is only an action choice of a man out of other options..
-We don't control what happens to us in life, but we control how we respond to what happens in life.
-Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times. -G. Michael Hopf
Disclaimer: Post made by me are of my own creation. A delusional mind relayed in text form.
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Yeah let's punch the guy, that will fix everything. That's what grown up men do!
[brofists intensify]
Dude, duuuude. Seriously, think about that for a moment.
You did the right thing, the one that had to be done (finally), and yes it's damn painful at first, and yes you're allowed to rage but here is where you stop and start realizing, that it's already time to move on and let it slide, just like any other normal person would do.
Leave those pre-teen-like u wot m8 i fukurshit bullshits behind and start searching for another girl already. It's not a mission impossible like you think, and it's the only good reason to go to that club.
It's not a mission impossible like you think, and it's the only good reason to go to that club.
This so much..if anything when you go there. Show you are big enough to move on. Chat other girls there, meet some people. If you see her or him, simply nod and move on like you acknowledge they are there but you got better things to do than wallow in that past drama.
You will feel better for realizing it not all that bad, and for not making a scene like a kid kicking and screaming on the floor.
If you go looking for a fight, the only person that will see you as 'making ends' will be you. everyone will just see a guy pissed and powerless so hes lashing out.
Think about it, when was the last time you saw a defeated ex boyfriend at a bar fighting with the new boyfriend and though "there is a man I can respect!"...no you always think "man look at that loser, dude get over it..and move on your embarrassing yourself"
-We don't control what happens to us in life, but we control how we respond to what happens in life.
-Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times. -G. Michael Hopf
Disclaimer: Post made by me are of my own creation. A delusional mind relayed in text form.
In some years you'll think of these times and feel embarrassed and stupid for caring so much about stupid shit that has no importance whatsoever. Fucking enjoy life for the good things, skip the bullshit emo "wat do" and go to the entertaining, experiencing, evolving and discovering that life is.
Go workout in the gym or get into mixed martial arts, that's the best way for angry males to let of some steam, also improves how you look in most cases.
So I finally hit my breaking point. I'm gonna go ahead with assumption that the topic does not need reminding.
I finally ended it but not the way I wanted. At first there was crying, a fucklot of it, but now there is only pure, unadulterated rage, and a craving to destroy every fucking last thing around me to smithereens. Got no goals what to do with my life now, other than finally letting my family throw me to psychiatrist. But still there is one thing I need to do, that my friends gladly volunteered to help me with. The day after tommorow I'm heading to a club she works at, give her back all her stuff and get shitfaced at the bar where her ex, just PRAYING that he will try to pick a fight.
Fucking feels liberating to get rid of all this emo-bullshit.
Your entire story greatly reminded you of myself 12 years ago. Great girl, got along with greatly, but very insecure about herself, refused to admit to people she was my gf and despite saying lots of lovey dovey crap, she'd get a kick out of flirting with guys and getting hit on, rubbing it in my face. I, too, was totally crazy in love and helped her through the toughest period of her life. 10 years later, she's married to an abusive jealous asshole and has a kid but she's still very grateful for what I did for her despite her having hurt me emotionally beyond believe.
Took a long time to get over her but that's life and I've learned to go for more stable girls. These weird girls may be interesting and appealing to guys like me who want to "fix" and help them but in the end you become a tool for them to cling to - which is not the same as boyfriend material.
I saw things like that in here and in other "woman problems" topics so...... Am I the only one that thinks some authorities needs to be alerted about Saner and him possibly being a rapist and/or kidnapper ?
Saner is not being serious. Unless its the subject of Santa!
Jesus Christ, the mood swings are terrible. One second I'm angry and want to kill everyone around me, the next second I'm fucking serene as a butterfly, only to cry my dick off a minute later.
Jesus Christ, the mood swings are terrible. One second I'm angry and want to kill everyone around me, the next second I'm fucking serene as a butterfly, only to cry my dick off a minute later.
Never put all your eggs in one basket ( a woman ) thats the reason you are having battles with your mind.
Jesus Christ, the mood swings are terrible. One second I'm angry and want to kill everyone around me, the next second I'm fucking serene as a butterfly, only to cry my dick off a minute later.
Never put all your eggs in one basket ( a woman ) thats the reason you are having battles with your mind.
I can't. I really can't. And believe me, I really did try
Just tell people you are crying because you caught your disk in your zipper.
they will understand,.
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you could listen to some music to cheer you up
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ragnarus wrote:
I saw things like that in here and in other "woman problems" topics so...... Am I the only one that thinks some authorities needs to be alerted about Saner and him possibly being a rapist and/or kidnapper ?
Saner is not being serious. Unless its the subject of Santa!
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I am so happy that the internet was relatively new when I was dating (mid 90's).
We just met up with out mates, went down the boozer and found some tramp to ease the pain away.
Now its all wishy washy online crap, scary shit.
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its the naked gun that always makes me laugh with that song.
ragnarus wrote:
I saw things like that in here and in other "woman problems" topics so...... Am I the only one that thinks some authorities needs to be alerted about Saner and him possibly being a rapist and/or kidnapper ?
Saner is not being serious. Unless its the subject of Santa!
Moose, that's some serious bullshit you wrote. You most definitely can put all your eggs in one basket, it's called starting a family with a woman, and many accomplish this deed. Love, trust, reliability - you won't find that often in gen-y girls though, I admit.
What Sellob did wrong was, he found a typical gen-y chick, who has no idea about her life, her needs, her goals, her anything. She is confused, easy to seduce. Otherwise known as stupid bitch.
Sellob, you don't want to punch the other guy, trust me, he has nothing to do with it, and he's being cheated on as well. The problem is with the girl being a stupid cunt.
You say you have no goals... what do you do for work?
Yes pick a fight with the guy and when you're totally drunk and he's sober he'll kick your ass and then what? What the fuck has her ex got to do with her being a bitch to you? Get real man. Its your own fault you let her act the way she did towards you, so man up and accept that responsibility. Her ex has fuck all to do with it and is probably in the same boat as you, obsessing over her. So just take it, everyone has at least one of these storys where a woman took him for a ride, learn from it and move on.
So you broke up (GOOD!) and now you feel bad, its normal. Deal with it. In life you feel like shit a whole lot so learn to accept it.
And since you're totally going to ignore everyone's advice here i'm still going to write it. You enjoy being the victim. That's right you enjoy it. You may not know it but you like writing this bullshit here, ignoring everyone's sound advice and just writing your suffering as its poetic. You just feel sorry for yourself. I would recommend visiting a psychologist, just one that doesn't give you pills, cuz those are total crap. But you need to get out of this self-pity faze.
yeah it was serious, and its not bullshit.. right at the point no punches pulled... He made an obvious mistake and I dont mean by choice of girl I meant by not having at least some self worth on the backburner for these such incidents.
If you go all gahgah and floppy with no backbone to hold you up, then if you fall you will go down hard. Always keep a little bit of you that says so fucking what in reserve for getting through this type of shit.
What Radicalus wrote is actually the best thing that I've read in here. As opposed to what xax wrote. And it makes perfect sense.
Anyway, she keeps trying to get in touch with me at odd hours; 5:46, 6:08, a text at 11:31, and now she woke me up with another phone call at 13:01. No idea what the fuck does she want. Reconciliation?
She has finally found her true love for you and now wants only you forever!
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You need to break free of that girl ASAP. Dont call her back, delete her number, throw away anything relating to her and get yourself a life on your own.
"Enlightenment is man's emergence from his self-imposed nonage. Nonage is the inability to use one's own understanding without another's guidance. This nonage is self-imposed if its cause lies not in lack of understanding but in indecision and lack of courage to use one's own mind without another's guidance. Dare to know! (Sapere aude.) "Have the courage to use your own understanding," is therefore the motto of the enlightenment."
Deleting her number and getting rid of all means of communication was the first thing I did, but I can't make her delete my number. She fucking keeps on calling every 10 minutes, also with her parents phones, sif I don't remember those numbers as well
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