I'm in debt, I ditched my gf cause of stupid reasons and now I regret it more than anything in my life, I'm propably depressed because of all this shit, and then I'm too lazy to do anything or don't give a shit about anything anymore because of all of it..
Bills are more than what I get in a month, the town I live in is small and there is pretty much no work for me in here, not with my education anyway.
Even if I wanted to study, it would mean I would earn even less per month than I do now which would put me in even more deeper shit than I'm already in.
I'm too depressed to do anything about it anyway, I got no real ties here anymore to keep me here but I still can't bring myself to move away from here and actually maybe achieve something with my life?
I also spent the money on fuel instead of bills and shit because only thing I can get even remote relief out of at this point is just driving around, and shit isn't cheap in here unfortunately.
I was something of a geek already when I was young so that's what I thought I should study aswell, so I studied IT out of high school, but most of the time it seemed I knew more about shit than the teachers themselves?
I'm also good with cars, but with no papers or anything to show for it, it's pretty much impossible to get any sort of work in that department aswell.
I'm also good with metal work but again, every workplace requires some sort of degree and I got zero, even got my own welding equipment and I would dare to say I'm damn good at car metal works.
Sister and her BF came to town for the weekend so I was to drive them around the town while they get shitfaced, well fine by me.
Except on Saturday, they hang around with my ex-GF so first I think, mkay, I can handle this...
But fuck that, I'm a fuckin emotional wreck from yesterday, she is completely ignoring me no matter how I try to contact her.
Also heard that a good (Known him since we were 7, one of the few people that I could really still call a friend) friend of mine apparently tried to fuck her or already has since our break up even though he has said countless times in past that "I will not touch GFs or ex-GFs of friends"... Fucking shiteater.
And I have been working towards buying a local bar with this guy for a bit now, but I really don't know if I can call him a friend anymore, especially because I'm hearing all this shit from anyone but himself!!!
And the best thing is, he frequents these forums (Not registered), I really hope he stumbles upon this thread but I doubt he will, he mostly seems to read the epic-thread and PC Games.
I seriously don't know what I should do now, I just can't get over her, even though I know she stayed at another friends place last night aswell and I'm pretty sure it wasn't just a sleepover...
She used to fuck everything and anything that moved basicly before I met here and apparently she is doing the exact same shit again but why the fuck can't I get over her no matter how much she fucks up???
I'm also shit when it comes to picking up girls, but even when the opportunity has presented itself I couldn't bring myself to do anything about it, I still care too much for my ex-GF to even fuck anyone else, how fucking sad is that even though she is banging around with anything that moves already?
WHAT THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO DO WITH MY LIFE?
My best and only friend who I could really call a true friend killed himself last summer and I have to say, that is starting to look like a fucking good option at this point, I got no idea how I'm gonna rise from this shithole I'm in...
Already saw a "shrink" a few times in last month aswell but all they basicly do is offer pills for depression but how the fuck is that any sort of solution at all?
I'm not good at talking to people either about my problems, especially not to anyone close to me so this is really the only place I could think of where I can vent some of this shit out..
To be continued...
And sorry for the wall of text...
Basically you first need to fix your financial situation.
You need to either cut expenses as to start generating profit, or start making more money to make more profit.
If that is not possible in your current situation you need to sell all your shit and move out of town. Seems like that place ain't doing it for you anymore, cut your losses and forget about this shit.
Then set a goal for yourself to get paper on some of your abilities. Whether it is by taking a course or something. Just get some kind of valid papers to prove you got the skill you got.
After that, upgrade your job/income.
When you start making more than enough. That's therapy in itself (no shrink needed). Start building that bar in your new spot. Get a new girlfriend. Take a photo of yourself with your new hot lady at your bar. Send said photo to your ex and your "friend".
you probably young enough to try to reset and restart. Give some time doing right choices and things will get a little better. Good luck. Happiness is something not easy nowadays, you are not alone.
In theory what fisk said about selling shit, it could be an option but only thing I could really sell right now is my second car, and even then half of it is owned by mom and in current condition it would only be worth 2500-3000€ max. With a working transmission and paint job it should net me 6000-7000€, and I even have a transmission and torque converter in sight but I for one cannot get 250€ (which is piss cheap) together no matter what I do to.
And the car has my heart and soul in it, it is the first ever car that I have truly built myself from ground up and I have no idea how I could sell it, I'm way too attached to it.
I have welded over 5cm3 of new metal on it, did a full rebuilt and tune up of the engine last winter, done countless hours of work on the electrics etc, there is just so much to list and countless of hours that I have put in on it.
I can't tell you how much I was looking forward to driving it this summer, I have never fealt a greater achievement than when I got the engine fired up for the first time and cam break-in was succesful (apart from the fact that the trans/torq converter went to shit during it for some reason).
Just hearing the thing idle on the parking lot gives me untold joy, if only it would actually move...
My current daily driver is worth about the same but I still owe money from it so it isn't really possible to get rid of it, and mom owns half of it aswell (Buying stuff 50/50 is not always a good thing but works for poor people like myself...)
And I really can't get on without a car so it really isn't an option either.
That's about all of any value I have.
I did some math on the matter a while back and I figured if I could get a loan from bank for the total sum that I owe atm I would save a LOT of money each month and still be able to pay the loan back in 3 years time without any issues.
But getting a loan like that is impossible without a job or someone to "back it up" for you either.
Yes, I'm 23 atm so shit isn't propably as bad as it could be if I was older..
be worth 2500-3000€ max. With a working transmission and paint job it should net me 6000-7000€,
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Not sure what you are saying, the quotes seem a bit.. random.
But if I got it right, yeah I propably look like a crybaby right now but I seriously need to get this shit off my chest somewhere and unfortunately this seemed like the only choice for me.
You are whining about money stuff but have shitloads of dead money in a car. You are not poor if you have multiple thousands of dollars in cars invested. If you have debt and stupid assets worth more than the debt, that makes you stupid, not poor.
I got my engineering degree from uni couple of years ago and started working at uni but still did not have shitloads of spare money. Bought my first second hand car after saving 2 years (at 26 btw), had cheap internet and not a lot of fancy stuff. Was tutoring to make extra money and studying on the side. Now after 4-5 years got a nice job and salary went up.
Just to say, it's about priorities man. Everybody brakes up with gf, everybody moves. It takes an effort to have a comfortable life, study or work or combine it. What did you do the past 4-5 years? Why the fuck are you toying around with debt and cars at the age of 23. I had a 15 year old nissan with 300k on the counter when I was 23.
First of all, sell the car. It's not a priority. It may have sentimental value, but it's a car, and you can get money from it. Don't attach to material possessions. They fade away.
Second, no matter how hard it is, you need to move on. Your slutty ex has, so can you. Plus if she was the local bicycle even before you met her, and is now, she isn't worth a dime. If she can fuck around like nothing happened, then fuck her! You deserve better.
Sure it sucks when you brake up. But you're 23! The world is your oyster (dunno what that really means but the gist of it is: you have all the time in the world). You're young, and if you have a degree in IT, surely there are places in Finland (!!!!) that will hire you.
Try imagining living in a country that is in such a shit that you don't really know if you'll find any kind of job in the future Trust me, you have a lot of options
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thats true you know. newton didnt discover gravity. the apple told him about it, and then he killed it. the core was never found.
Yeah, I get the attachment to the car, but seriously... Sell it and go some place else. Even if you're taking all your debt and emotional baggage with you, you need something to kick you into starting over. Moving someplace where there's more work means that you can pay off your debts, and then you can start over. Build a new car. Find a new girlfriend. Find friends who don't screw you over. Right now it sounds like you can't move on because of your ex-girlfriend and your "good" friend are holding you back, emotionally.
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How dear you claim Finland is a part of Scandinavia?
But we iz, honest!!
I rarely drink or anything but I think today is a good day for that, I shalt thank you all for kind words here, I really need to get my shit together but tonight is for some alcoholic relaxement.
How dear you claim Finland is a part of Scandinavia?
But we iz, honest!!
I rarely drink or anything but I think today is a good day for that, I shalt thank you all for kind words here, I really need to get my shit together but tonight is for some alcoholic relaxement.
thats my point, although harsh its a fact that everybody has it hard at some point, or "hard" to them.
Thing is he is in finland that place is full of wealth right? I mean not a day goes by when those young whipper snapper 20yr olds are dancing naked around tables loaded with booze and the ladies sit and watch..
I have a low tolerance I guess for people saying they are having it tough, when normally they dont realise how tough shit can be, at least you have a roof and a mother where you are, try asking her for advice and try listning she has after all lived through more than you have right?
But finland seriously come on? if you said Biafra I would understand
Isnt scandinavia a land of depressed people anyhow? Not being funny but you sure things dont seem worse right now due to the time of year? winter is almost upon us etc.
Damn does alcohol help with issues, I feel like I'm brave all of a sudden.. Seriously need to get a ride to a bar and some money naow!
EDIT: Nvm, small town, no one to answer calls at night, I guess I should remember that next time someone asks for a ride somewhere...
Last long drink to go and then to bed I guess.
first off bro alcohol is a depressant, dont try to bury your hurt...
dropping a girl you care for will always hurt like a bitch...and depending on how sensitive you're and how vulnerable u are in life right now it might even be worse... for that, there is no cure... simply time... forget meeting women for now, forget dating, forget fucking, and leave ur ex be... and stop speculating about anyone and everyone around you doing her.... not healthy... just let time heal it.
Sell the second car as others have said... I would suggest borrowing 250 from mom or any friend if it TRULY will make u get 6-7gs for the car instead 3-4...then pay them back with interest. put the rest of the money towards whatever bills u have left. secondly, go become an apprentice at a metal shop, trades work pay alot and is one of those jobs where education is less important than hands on training. If they are unwilling to HIRE you then offer to work for free, you can prove urself if ur good enough and if not atleast u got the experience for the next job.
You can do the same in regards to a mechanic shop, becoming a helper. When Im depressed I work 24/7.... not only does it generate money or experience, but it keeps your mind off of stuff.
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Trust me, you have a lot of options 
Wrong time? I see..
Doesnt end well!
