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 Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 08:32 Post subject: Fucking heartbroken |
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Its been a long time since I made a thread here. Also, its been years since I was heartbroken.
So I was with some Russian girl for almost 3 years and it was just terrible and everybody has been telling me to break up with her since 2011. I finally broke up with her sometime in January 2013 and decided to try dating. I felt so free and great after I broke up with her.
So my best friend suggested that I try a dating site and I thought why not. A few days after I created my profile, I had a date (with the help of Spykez) with an Italian girl named gina. We messaged back and forth for about 2 or 3 days and then we met for a date (Wednesday January 16) at a hookah bar. The date went very well, she seemed to really like me more and more. We kissed and made out during most of the night. It was really great. While I was saying bye to her at 12:30am, we stood in the freezing cold and literally kissed for about 45 minutes. She just did not want to get in her car. It was really sweet.
I then went home and woke up the next morning she seemed to really like me. I told her I could not hang out until the following week but she kept saying how much she missed me and wanted to come over. So I had her come over and she spent the night. I also had another date with a asian girl named sophia on that Friday. Gina was very jealous and I wasn't really looking for another girl so I still went on the date but I didn't really bring my A game.
Anyways Gina then came over again that Sunday and kept insisting that she never felt this way about anybody before and really wants to be my gf. At first I was a bit undecided but she kept insisting so I thought why not. After that things have been great. She was happy as ever. I even gave her her own closet so that she could keep some clothes here because she was sleeping over here almost every other night. She always kept saying things like she can see herself marrying me (which scared me a slight bit but it was still very sweet). She also brought me into her home back in january (she said I was the first person she dated that she wasn't embarrassed of). I met her family and stuff and got along fine. Ive visited her home many many times after that. I also met all her closest friends and they are all lovely people and we all got along great and they seemed to really like me.
Basically things were going really great. At times I felt a bit guilty because it felt like she liked me a lot more than I liked her. Anyways we started telling eachother we love eachother back in January. She has dated several guys before but she said she has never felt this strongly about anybody before which I thought was really sweet. The sex was incredible, it would be 2 or 3 times a day. We would just stay home and fuck most of the time. She definitely wanted to fuck more often than I did. But when me did fuck, I always made sure she orgasmed and apparently no guy has ever been able to make her orgasm by going down on her. So every single time after having sex if she didn't orgasm I would make sure she does because I felt that it was fair. She said the sex is definitely the best she has ever had.
She was just so incredible in every way. And she was understanding of my weird quirks. It was just so pleasant to have such a strong connection with someone so quickly. She even went to the doctor and went on birth control for the first time in her life just for me. She also never let a guy cum inside her without a condom before she met me. Everything was just so lovely........until this tuesday March 26.
She was supposed to come over and spend the whole day with me and then leave on Wednesday. I was very excited and she seemed excited too. SHe came over and then we had sex and then she orgasmed and then we were laying there for about 40 minutes and then she gets up and says "I feel weird" and then I asked whats wrong and eventually she said she felt weird because she was unhappy. And she wanted to breakup. She did not know why she felt unhappy, she just did. And then she cried and said "I should go"
And then she asked me to get her a bag and then she gathered up all her clothes that she left here and then I gave her a hug and then she left. And that was the last I ever saw her.
Weve been talking back and forth over the phone and apparently she still loves me and cares about me and misses me but can't be with me because she was unhappy but she doesn't know why. She wont meet me in person because it would be too dificult for her she says. I just do not understand what happened and its literally driving me insane..... WHAT THE FUCK WENT WRONG???
Where did I go wrong?
Some of the facebook statuses she was posting right after we began going out:
"This is the happiest I've been in a very long time."
She also made a photo album of us. Also on valentines day she wrote this to me:
"In all the birthday madness I failed at telling you something. Happy valentines day, babe! You are the most amazing person and I'm so glad you chose me. I love you. I can't wait to see you later  "
I really cared about this girl a lot and still do. Can anybody figure out what the fuck happened here???????
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 08:35 Post subject: |
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Even her profile picture for the last month and half was a picture of us. Why the sudden change of heart?
Also she wasnt using me for any money. I would rarely pay for anything. In fact she would constantly buy me and want to buy me stuff
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Aeon
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 09:02 Post subject: |
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Maybe she's pregnant and somewhat afraid for that?
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 09:07 Post subject: |
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No that makes no sense because she's on birth control and if she was pregnant, wouldn't she want to be with me more? Instead of randomly walking out on me
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Aeon
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 09:08 Post subject: |
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Yeah, it's very weird for sure, but there is a reason for everything imo, but somehow she doesn't want to tell it too you.
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 09:14 Post subject: |
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Dude. Don't try to use a man's logic when trying to understand women. Especially if she is young.
sar·casm | \ ˈsär-ˌka-zəm \
1: a sharp and often satirical or ironic utterance designed to cut or give pain
2a: a mode of satirical wit depending for its effect on bitter, caustic, and often ironic language that is usually directed against an individual
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 09:34 Post subject: |
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maybe the best thing would be to give her some space, let her make the next move if and when shes ready. Only problem is what happens the next time she gets into one of her moods and walks out on you again.
A very hard subject to give any advice as we dont really know the person, but from your description it sounds like she is very emotional, might be something else thats bothering her, some kind of depression which she missinterprets as being unhappy when shes with you. Or maybe shes afraid now that you have a history together that she wont be able to live up to the person she set herself out to be. Or maybe her emotions for you have started to cool of, someone who quickly falls in love might also just as quickly fall out of love.
But as mentioned above you cant deal with the subject in a logical manner, not with this girl who seems to be all heart. So just let her be, if it was meant to be she'll come back to you, if not then you can count yourself lucky not to have gotten deeper with her.
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tonizito
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 09:45 Post subject: |
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WTF timechange 
Well, best of luck you stud
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TheSaint
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 09:55 Post subject: |
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its obvious, she is depressed. probably borderline.
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 10:05 Post subject: |
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Also she might think you are too perfect and she won't be able to keep you, and you will leave her because she is not good enough. Just an example of woman's logic.
sar·casm | \ ˈsär-ˌka-zəm \
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 10:21 Post subject: |
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I think she is just done with the relationship tbh. Time to move on.
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 10:21 Post subject: |
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best way to overpass that, is having sex with your friend, and putting that on pics and movie.
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 11:28 Post subject: |
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Meh, she's a woman, they make things that don't make any sense at all. They happen. Or she has issues, or she found another guy. Women tend to be really moved by their fellings, and they do stuff they can't explain because of their feelings, and they can get a mix of feelings at any time.
Find the next one. You always think there will never be a better one, but there always is! 
Cheer up man! tl;dr - bitchez be crazy!
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 12:10 Post subject: |
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spykez needs to contact me asap
italian and gina you say
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 12:58 Post subject: |
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Maybe she's so in love with you she's scared that you may leave her so she started to think if I leave him first I wont be heart broken. How old is she?
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 12:59 Post subject: |
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Shit.... well, the worst thing is when someone tell you they are unhappy or angry and wont tell you the reasons why, I would bet she does know exactly why.... she maybe just doesn't want to tell you for fear of hurting your feelings.
Guilt maybe? I dunno man, maybe she cheated on you with another guy or something? I know that sounds harsh... but just maybe?
Communication is key here, you guys need to talk, and if she is shutting you out then you guys wont be making any progress and thing will deteriorate even worse. I'm sorry to hear this is happening to you dude, but chin up, communicate, and hope for the best. *bro fist*
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 17:33 Post subject: |
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no I cant Believe it either :O
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 17:42 Post subject: |
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Maybe she found out you post pictures of your girlfriends on the internetz
Any who there could be 101 reasons to why this happened, if you are really into her then try to make her explain. If not, move on.
In my opinion, there must have happened something for her to suddenly change in this kind of way.
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 19:47 Post subject: |
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shes having sex with spykez obviously
or shes pregnant
either way it sucks to be you
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fisk
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Did you FHITB?
She might be upset because she had preconceptions about nfohumpers and you did not live up to them.
Yes, yes I'm back.
Somewhat.
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 19:56 Post subject: |
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| Dazz99 wrote: | shes having sex with spykez obviously
or shes pregnant
either way it sucks to be you |
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 20:21 Post subject: |
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Until now she still says the sex was the best she ever had and she is still physically attracted to me as much as the day she first met me. She called me on the phone on tuesday night (the day she walked out) and she couldn't speak because she was crying the whole time and she said she just wanted to hear my voice. Also we got along great, our personalities clicked and we used to laugh and have fun all the time. And she was so into me, she used to get crazy jealous whenever I would hang out with a female friend or if I had pics of girls from the internet on my phone. She used to constantly write me sweet texts and used to write the nicest things on my facebook wall. I never wrote anything on hers though. She also used to drive in the middle of the night just to spend time with me and she hated leaving my home.
I dont get it and neither does any of my friends. It makes absolutely no sense.
There was actually an incident one day about a month ago after she had stayed over, the next day we were going to go to the city to spend some time out and have fun. But she started getting a weird feeling and wanted to go home (it was very random). Later that day she said she freaked out because of the nuvaring (the birth control). But after that day everything went back to normal and things were wonderful again. A week after that was the day she let me cum inside her (which was actually HER idea, not mine at all). I had a condom but she insisted that we try without one. Normal we do fuck without a condom at first but then I put one on later but that time she said no condom at all. I agreed to it and it was great. And then the remainder of the day was awesome and when I left, she had a hard time saying bye to me and kept telling me how much fun she had
During the whole relationship, it honestly felt like she liked me a lot more than I liked her. But as time went on, I started to like her more and more because I really loved her personality. I loved her personality more than her physical appearance. She was just doing everything for me like cooking me pancakes in the morning after a morning blowjob. And I always returned the favor afterward, I always went down on her so that I dont seem selfish.
I spoke to her via text yesterday and this is all the information i could gather:
1. She no longer felt a spark that keeps relationships going
2. She didn't see us going very far
3. The day she freaked out a month ago and went home, this is how she felt: she was unhappy and needed to break up with me
4. She does not want to see me in person any time soon
5. She hopes we can be together again
6. She needs time to find herself
^These were all her words^
So is this girl depressed?
I just feel really heartbroken and I wish I knew what I did wrong so at least I can blame SOMETHING for it going wrong. I honestly haven't felt this shitty since when Betty walked out on me in 2009. Its a terrible fucking feeling
@Casus: She swears that it has nothing to do with anything I did and I was a great bf. It is all her fault that shes not happy. Im 25 and she just turned 21 in February. I definitely was not using her just for sex. Sometimes I didn't even want to have sex and just wanted to relax with her, but she would initiate sex most of the time
@StrEagle: Theres definitely no other guy. Theres one thing I am certain of about this girl and its that she never bullshits. She will tell it like it is. When shes mad, she gets fucking mad. I told her I dont like the idea of her being with another guy and she said she doesnt see that happening any time soon and that she just needs time to find herself..? I dont know what that means
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 20:31 Post subject: |
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To me it sounds like things have been going way too fast between you two, which usually means that the "spark" in the relationship can disappear. But that's her fault, not yours....
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 20:35 Post subject: |
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| fisk wrote: | Did you FHITB?
She might be upset because she had preconceptions about nfohumpers and you did not live up to them. |
Lol I even asked her hypothetically can i FHITB and she said she wouldnt be super excited about it but for me she is willing to do it.
@Oddmaker: You make an interesting point. Whenver I would get annoyed that shes going through my texts and phone I would ask what her problem was and she would always say that she was cheated on for 9 months in her previous relationship and she doesnt want to get fucked over again. And she would constantly bitch about nina (that nude best friend from the amateur thread) sending me naked pics on my phone. And she would always always say things like "i know youre gonna leave me one day for nina, shes better than me, why wouldnt you leave me? I would"
She keeps insisting and it was nothing I did and theres something wrong with her personally that she doesnt feel happy. And she honestly doesn't know why though. I really really trust gina and she trusts me as well so she has no reason to lie to me. I would understand if there was something particular about me that she didnt like. I immediately thought she lost attraction to me which is understandable but that was definitely not it
She was just so genuine when we were together. She would tell me over and over that she has NEVER felt this way about anybody before. It was really flattering
Also during the breakup on Tuesday, she was crying hysterically. I was not crying at all. I actually honestly didn't care TOO much at the time. I didn't really try to stop her or anything. But a few hours after she left, thats when the feeling started to really sink in and eat me up inside
I wish she wouldve have at least broken up with me during a fight or something. We rarely fought. We would mostly fight about my best friend sending me nude pictures of herself. I even told her to stop. They have met in person and they got along so well it was like they have been friends for years
She also said yesterday that shes "not emotionally ready to be with me yet" 
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fisk
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 21:23 Post subject: |
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So convince her she's making the wrong decision. Sometimes you need to prove that you'll fight - if YOU don't feel that strongly for her (seems like you're only confused) then that's the real issue here.
Yes, yes I'm back.
Somewhat.
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 21:24 Post subject: |
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I want to fight for. I tried everything last night but she reuses to meet me in person because shes not ready yet she says. I know I can get her back if only she let me see her but she refuses to
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| Posted: Thu, 28th Mar 2013 21:30 Post subject: |
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Internet dating. them girls have issues. social issues. personal issues. issues with abandonment. lol. good try.
she obviously is a little bit on the fucked up side.
you want to be with her, you tell her up front, and you tell her what mr on a high horse said.
But internet dating is all... lol. lotta girls are fucked up. a lot. but there are a few success stories. So is not that ALL bad.
but yeah if you want her back, you tell her you want her back and you purses it. to the point she calls the police on your ass and gets a restraining order. then you step off.
when my buddies have girl issues, i always tell them to be straight up and tell them the truth. tell them how you feel, how it makes you feel that she left you, tell her you love her and you want to be with her... lay your cards on the table and if she says nope sorry fuck off... hey at least you told her the truth and if she was a bitch about it cause she got her self a big fat black cock and a thick wallet then she was never meant to be the girl you would want to be with for the rest of your life.
Easy peasy. tell her how you feel. tell her you'll call back in a few days and if she still doesn't want to be with you then you move on. no point crying over spoiled milk and green eggs. you're a young dude with a decent complexion...
but i must say.... internet dating girls are easy a heck... cause they's troubled and most of them have abandonment issues and they'll suck you dry just cause you can stay with them
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over and over gets boring, no matter how much love it is. And being young and so early in a relationship with her adds to that.
