think but think really good , if you r ready to go through another disappointment (that's possible to happen) if you r ready to take that chance and suffer the results if you will fail take it , don't forget she hurted you once and that can happen again , also you can be really really happy with her , think if you are ready to take that chance and suffer the consequences once again if you will fail
if that was me i'll probably take the chance though (you seem to love her very much) if you will do GOOD LUCK !
Yeah shes worth the trouble, if i didnt think that id never start a thread here and reply to her emails. And its not only a sexual thing even though our sex was incredible, so much emotion and passion and she was into a little bit of the rough stuff.
I need to regain some control if we decide to get serious again, and not let her dictate the terms but at the same time give her space.
This is something I like with iranian girls, they're alot more aggressive and want much more contact than european/swedish girls. Overhere I get the feeling sometimes that people in a relationship are infact friends who happen to also sleep together. Im not someone who can go days without talking with my girlfriend and act like im indifferent about her.
Dont mess with God, he can impregnate your girlfriend/wife without taking his pants off!
It's a society of fear, fear of compassion and getting close. It's a pathetic state people have come to. It's the pain that gives us strength, but too bad they're all pussies afraid of getting "hurt" bitches don't know about the benefits of life.
It's a society of fear, fear of compassion and getting close. It's a pathetic state people have come to. It's the pain that gives us strength, but too bad they're all pussies afraid of getting "hurt" bitches don't know about the benefits of life.
Dont mess with God, he can impregnate your girlfriend/wife without taking his pants off!
My apologies for that, I'm at work and was rushed to finish. She has said that the reason she would disappear and the reason that she wouldn't respond to me when I got back from basic is because she had fallen in love with me and she was scared as to what it meant. Of course, being the asshat that I am, I usually just tell her that I didn't care because of all of the other pussy I was getting. She knows I'm joking, and I am.
Don't worry about it, what you wrote was really heartfelt and I was curious to know the missing details. I thought this only happened in sitcoms!! I'm really glad it worked out for you in the end.
People seem to be forgetting something here. She is not a normal girl. She isn't playing games with Acer, or intentionally fucking him around. She has been sexually brutalized at the age of 12.
No i have no idea, im much more aggresive than her and really lack the patience to take things too slowly. Im beginning to think maybe we just cant be together and that I will never be able to understand her needs and she wont understand mine.
Her effect on me these few days have been almost scary and I have fought with myself and forced myself to take it slowly even though i really wanted to just jump on her again and never let her go.
Love sucks
Dont mess with God, he can impregnate your girlfriend/wife without taking his pants off!
Im gonna assume that be "i lack patience to do things slowly" you dont mean the lets be couple thing, more like the Bring on the sex thing. cause i cant picture her being afraid to love but i do picture her being afraid of intimacy.
Acer all in all, you have to be patient if you are gonna chase this chick, even after u gain her trust ur gonna have to go slowly, as pistol said, this isnt ur average girl, she had a pretty frustrating experience at a young age, and its traumatic too, assuming something: not only is she inexperienced, shes also frustrated because of a forced experience. Extra patience here my friend. I cant even imagine how this is, but i do know all women will get aroused when they open up to a man, so if ur so into sex and pleasure, but u do love her, take her pace not yours, sex isnt everything. to her, sexual things can bring fear, and we havent been there. Take her pace man, if shes nice, good, treasure her, she will open up and let a new experience replace the one she had as a child. but this is some serious trust work we are talking about here, if you do love her you will have to see and understand what SHE feels and thinks, i cant imagine what she feels and thinks it must be f... hard...
Something all of us should remember, sex should be a pleasure for the couple, for both, if it makes someone feel uneasy, then it wont work, all ur gonna do is be selfcentered and not count that she isnt enjoying it, so you will destroy part of the relationship. Be considerate.
Edit: HAH, i think i should have read a little more of the second page, nevermind most of the stuff i said, as a matter of fact im starting to wonder what the hell is she afraid of or being closed about. 26, has had sex i doubt shes still worried about her childhood experience, that should be long gone, at least with you if she opened to you and sex. Be careful mate, try to understand why it happened the first time, if there werent any second causes (yeah thats ugly), and if shes dedicated and true to you then i guess you should keep on her, as long as you feel safe too in the relationship and everything checks out right.
Im gonna assume that be "i lack patience to do things slowly" you dont mean the lets be couple thing, more like the Bring on the sex thing. cause i cant picture her being afraid to love but i do picture her being afraid of intimacy.
Acer all in all, you have to be patient if you are gonna chase this chick, even after u gain her trust ur gonna have to go slowly, as pistol said, this isnt ur average girl, she had a pretty frustrating experience at a young age, and its traumatic too, assuming something: not only is she inexperienced, shes also frustrated because of a forced experience. Extra patience here my friend. I cant even imagine how this is, but i do know all women will get aroused when they open up to a man, so if ur so into sex and pleasure, but u do love her, take her pace not yours, sex isnt everything. to her, sexual things can bring fear, and we havent been there. Take her pace man, if shes nice, good, treasure her, she will open up and let a new experience replace the one she had as a child. but this is some serious trust work we are talking about here, if you do love her you will have to see and understand what SHE feels and thinks, i cant imagine what she feels and thinks it must be f... hard...
Something all of us should remember, sex should be a pleasure for the couple, for both, if it makes someone feel uneasy, then it wont work, all ur gonna do is be selfcentered and not count that she isnt enjoying it, so you will destroy part of the relationship. Be considerate.
Yeah I know what you mean, and sex is an important part for both of us but im trying really hard not to get too attached too soon this time. Its just freaking hard and really trying on my patience.
Shame there arent any good games anymore to occupy my mind. SWTOR got boring after +1 month and I tried playing EVE but its not what i need right now.
She is the kinda girl I that makes me wanna forget about all other women, I wanna be with her forever.
Even with the iranian girl I was serious with a few months back I didnt feel like this. She was a great catch and I had feelings for her but I knew I was gonna get bored of her someday and pretend to be interested in her small talk for the rest of my life. Have kids with her and live an ordinary boring life.
This girl however makes me feel anything is possible, hell if we get together we might not even have kids and never marry. Just be with each other.
Read my edit line, you case is different from what i talked about,
"Edit: HAH, i think i should have read a little more of the second page, nevermind most of the stuff i said, as a matter of fact im starting to wonder what the hell is she afraid of or being closed about. 26, has had sex i doubt shes still worried about her childhood experience, that should be long gone, at least with you if she opened to you and sex. Be careful mate, try to understand why it happened the first time, if there werent any second causes (yeah thats ugly), and if shes dedicated and true to you then i guess you should keep on her, as long as you feel safe too in the relationship and everything checks out right."
I dont know what you mean by "getting too attached" but i will say one thing, dont exagerate, dont try to OWN her, to invade her in all ways, men hate it when women are always IN there, pushing into our time, same shit happens with women, each of you have lives, you will be sharing a lot, but try not to... push into her time, let her have her space too, i have a friend who whoever he meets, if he starts to love the girl, he fucking goes nuts, he is 24 hours chasing and talking and inviting and shit, one would say "WOW HE REALLY LOVES HER, holy shit the king" but all the women ive seen him with have ran away, and he isnt even a bad person, i know hes pretty nice and a good guy, but theres something there, like you dont have life, your life is her life, ALL OF IT, and it makes the damn bitches start thinking shit.
Meh, just be careful, try to feel safe and try to attend UR life too, make her feel safe, be open, make her be open, then it should be clear to you, we wont ever really understand it all.
Edit: HAH, i think i should have read a little more of the second page, nevermind most of the stuff i said, as a matter of fact im starting to wonder what the hell is she afraid of or being closed about. 26, has had sex i doubt shes still worried about her childhood experience, that should be long gone, at least with you if she opened to you and sex. Be careful mate, try to understand why it happened the first time, if there werent any second causes (yeah thats ugly), and if shes dedicated and true to you then i guess you should keep on her, as long as you feel safe too in the relationship and everything checks out right.
Yeah she is afraid, read what i wrote earlier about her crying after sex. Shes got some emotional bagage but thats what makes her so interesting. She sees life differently and shes so vulnerable while at the same being so strong for going out into the world everyday, working, studying and trying to get her life back together.
I like to think I had some small part in this because when we were together I told her to see a shrink and offered to go with her if she was scared. I called a few grouops for raped women and got some information for her about how to move forward, I gave her a book on he subject.
I should bhe angry but all I feel right now is let the past be the past and just lets try it again but this time take it easy with her...
"I like to think I had some small part in this because when we were together I told her to see a shrink and offered to go with her if she was scared. I called a few grouops for raped women and got some information for her about how to move forward, I gave her a book on he subject. "
that certainly did it yes lol..nice gesture but to her it was heavy handed im betting
"I like to think I had some small part in this because when we were together I told her to see a shrink and offered to go with her if she was scared. I called a few grouops for raped women and got some information for her about how to move forward, I gave her a book on he subject. "
that certainly did it yes lol..nice gesture but to her it was heavy handed im betting
Its not like i forced her, and isnt that what we men are supposed to do. Arent we supposed to bring order to the chaos that is the female mind? Give her structure and order so that she can still be emotinal but with a little better control...
If things are really REALLY bad for you then the only thing that I can think of is e-mailing or messaging her explaining how you feel and... I dunno, asking her to leave you alone and move on if she only sees you as a friend (UNLESS you're ok with that).
Or disregard this post altogether, since I don't know the first thing about women.
boundle (thoughts on cracking AITD) wrote:
i guess thouth if without a legit key the installation was rolling back we are all fucking then
So one of my exes recently made contact with me again after 2 years. I eally loved her but she wasnt ready for any kind of commitment, also she had a tragic childhood having been raped at the age of 12-13.
She broke my heart and I struggled at first but feel ive moved on. But when she send me the email all those old emitions and feelings came back and right now a part of me is screaming to get back to her. I feel I constantly have to put a hold on myself and act kinda cool when I email her.
I would really love to get back with her and spend the rest of my life with her, shes the one. But she has some problems with intimacy so i feel this time i really have to take my time with her and move very slowly.
Have you guys had any experience with this? Any thoughts on the subject of getting back with ones ex?
After reading this I would say Stay the hell away, for your own good.
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HAH, i think i should have read a little more of the second page, nevermind most of the stuff i said, as a matter of fact im starting to wonder what the hell is she afraid of or being closed about. 26, has had sex i doubt shes still worried about her childhood experience, that should be long gone, at least with you if she opened to you and sex. Be careful mate, try to understand why it happened the first time, if there werent any second causes (yeah thats ugly), and if shes dedicated and true to you then i guess you should keep on her, as long as you feel safe too in the relationship and everything checks out right.
