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 Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 00:37 Post subject: Love |
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So heres the deal, I met a chick a few weeks back with whom I really got it off. We ended in bed after the third date. Everything was fine until she told me that she'd been raped as a child. She cried after sex and told me this. We hung out almost everyday for a few weeks and had sex again, but this time she cried even more and was really upset. I gave her a hug and told her to just let everything out.
I really connected with this girl, I really love her and want to be with her and only her. The problem is that she started distansing herself from me more and more because she just couldnt take it anymore, she wasnt ready for a relationship. Heck she tried commiting suicide a year ago so shes really in a fragile state right now. I tried leaving her, dating other women but I just dont seem to fancy anyone else. I end up thinking about her in the middle of a date.
One of the reasons she distanced herself was that she thought I came on too strongly and smothered her to much. She still wants me around, I told her that if Im causing so much problem that we should cut everything completely and stop chatting on msn, facebook etc which she didnt wanna do. She just needs time.
The problem is I'm going mad. I want to be with her, I want to hug her and kiss her and just be intimate with her and have her look at me the way she did when we first met. I dont know if I made a mistake but I told her I loved her a few days ago when she was just starting to speak to me again. I dont regret telling her, but my timing really stunk. Right now theres no communication and I've said to myself that I wont be the one to break the silence. Also Im leaving the country next week for a month of vacation abroad which gives her some time to hopefully miss me.
But I'm so confused. Ive never felt like this with another chick, I've pretended to say I liked them and said stuff I knew they liked to hear but this girl is different. I'm affraid of losing the love of my life if I cant control myself. At the same time I'm thinking why should I change for her? Is she really worth it and I'm I groweling for her?
I myself have problem with relationships. Havent had a real one just been with women for a few months, weeks etc Im 28 years.
Im afraid that women im with will leave me so i tend to smother them alot, do stuff for them etc etc
Maybe shes a test, maybe I can be with her if I learn some patiens and take things slow. But its a real bitch. I keep thinking of her constantly.
Dont mess with God, he can impregnate your girlfriend/wife without taking his pants off!
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Nalo
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Frant
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| Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 01:24 Post subject: |
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Women, the scourge of the universe.. Sweet scourge nevertheless...
Ph'nglui mglw'nafh Cthulhu R'lyeh wgah'nagl fhtagn!
"The sky was the color of a TV tuned to a dead station" - Neuromancer
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| Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 01:54 Post subject: |
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what r u all on your first break up or somet, get over it
shit heals in time
enough fish in the sea, i know lame thing to say but its true
also op tl:dr have a nice day tho
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| Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 11:46 Post subject: |
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While I'm engaged and I do love my soon to be bride more than ever, I also must say women are evil and vindictive. Don't overdo it, they know we can't control ourselves. At first it'll be hard and you'll have to act cool, but after 3-4 weeks it'll be natural. The more we men care for them, the colder the bitches get. So say fuck it and keep your distance. Don't be an asshole, but don't be a pussy either. Women will tell you they like the sensitive kind that listens, but that's bullshit. Ignoring without overdoing it is teh way to go.
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Saner
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| Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 12:35 Post subject: |
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I used to fall in love in a week too when I was a teenager.
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I saw things like that in here and in other "woman problems" topics so...... Am I the only one that thinks some authorities needs to be alerted about Saner and him possibly being a rapist and/or kidnapper ? |
Saner is not being serious. Unless its the subject of Santa!
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| Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 13:07 Post subject: |
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Yeah you kids talk about love but thats just a crush. In my case its very deep passionate love. I'd be willing to go through hell for this girl. Im starting to realize why love is such a big deal in modern society, why there are so many love songs, movies etc
Its a power stronger that anything really, sometimes its just to much to handle.
But I really liked mister_s advice. I've been thinking about that just need some self control. Hopefully i'll return from my vacation with new energy and will be able to do things differently.
Dont mess with God, he can impregnate your girlfriend/wife without taking his pants off!
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| Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 13:09 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 19:39 Post subject: |
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The fact that she was raped as a child and tried to commit suicide is going to make your relationship with her quite interesting especially when it comes to sex... Hope you have the energy to stay in there and make it work, if that is what you really want.
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| Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 21:01 Post subject: |
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| Mister_s wrote: | | While I'm engaged and I do love my soon to be bride more than ever, I also must say women are evil and vindictive. Don't overdo it, they know we can't control ourselves. At first it'll be hard and you'll have to act cool, but after 3-4 weeks it'll be natural. The more we men care for them, the colder the bitches get. So say fuck it and keep your distance. Don't be an asshole, but don't be a pussy either. Women will tell you they like the sensitive kind that listens, but that's bullshit. Ignoring without overdoing it is teh way to go. |
Interesting post, let Dr. Phill rearange these phrases. Women dont like the sensitive guy! They like the tough guy who are sensitive to her and her alone, because she's so special and he loves her
You gotta be - Hey chick i'm tough but! with you i'll make an exception. now you work your ass and apreciate what i'm doing here or else no more good guy for you, mkay ?
So she can be evil and childish all she wants, but not with you, she has to "work" for you like you "work" for her
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| Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 21:37 Post subject: |
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@Acer guy you're screwed, it sounds like she indeed isnt ready for a relationship and needs a friend rather than a boyfriend.
If she was in love she'd want to be with you, hug you, kiss you and not waste a second, just like you. So before you leave, ask her now what does she really want, maybe take her with you.
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| Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 22:21 Post subject: |
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Acer she might be borderline.
Perhaps advise her to seek professional help and be patient with her.
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| Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 22:26 Post subject: |
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| Newty182 wrote: | | Have you met Timechange? |
Exactly what I was thinking when reading the post, hahah  |
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| Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 23:16 Post subject: |
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Cant take her with me, she seems so strong though. So level minded and mature despite everything. Hell I'm surprised shes so calm.
The thing is I know her, I know shes a good person deep down and has a very kind soul. Shes just had a rotten life so far.
Sometimes I think maybe I liked her because I liked the fact that she was more of an introvert like myself and that she was a person who needed to be saved and that I could do that and have her express her undying love for me.
I'm confused, on the one hand I know and also people around me have warned that shes no someone to start a life with, on the other hand I have to listen to myself and what Im thinking is that we'll be able to heal ourselves and in doing so form a bond that'll be stronger than what most people have.
The bottom line is that I love her, everyday I dont see her Im suffering. And that she has a good soul, the rest can be worked with a little encouregment. Hell I even called a few therapy groups for women who've been raped and said I'd take her and hold her hand if she was scared to go herself. And I didnt do it cause of a reward or getting something back.
And what about Timechange?
Dont mess with God, he can impregnate your girlfriend/wife without taking his pants off!
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| Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 23:45 Post subject: |
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Almost all girls I met do that rape sob story, it's probably a bullshit story to get to your sympathy and make you feel protective of her weak sweet ass. it's a common tactic amongst bitches
also I only read the first two lines as it's too tl;dr for my taste
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| Posted: Thu, 29th Apr 2010 23:52 Post subject: |
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| FireMaster wrote: | Almost all girls I met do that rape sob story, it's probably a bullshit story to get to your sympathy and make you feel protective of her weak sweet ass. it's a common tactic amongst bitches
also I only read the first two lines as it's too tl;dr for my taste |
I hope shes not faking but when she cries after sex. She's got cut marks on her arms and she behaves in a way that i recognise from my own days of depression.
I figure the best thing right now is to continue dating women, even if all the chicks I meet are real yawns it keeps my mind ocupied. If she wants to talk to me she has my number...
I just hope I can make it til monday without doing something stupied and then I'll be in a country with limited internet connectivity for a glorious month far far away from these timid swedish chickas.
Dont mess with God, he can impregnate your girlfriend/wife without taking his pants off!
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| Posted: Fri, 30th Apr 2010 15:24 Post subject: |
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@Acer
Dude, been with chicks who were raped and 'raped'......trust me, get out while you can. I married a chick who was raped.....twice I may add....second time, by three guys at knife point.
Anyway, she was and IS still fucked up.
Contacted me on FB and she apparently has 3 kids now and wants to leave her husband and come back to me (yeah, 3 kids that aren't my own....riiiiggghhhhttttt) blah blah.
My point is, unless this chick received rape counselling....serious therapy...fucking dump her.
She's looking for someone to support her and be there for her emotionally....not to fuck ya know? She can fuck herself...she doesn't need you...know what I mean bud?
And what if one day you wanna get kinky? Think it will go over well? Trust me, it won't.
Find a kinky chick who HASN'T been raped....I've been with tons of women and the ones who haven't been raped or assaulted love the idea of it. I done the whole rape fantasy thing tons of times and its fun. They of course want to be dominated....but the 'rape' element adds that feeling of even less control you know?
If you wanna talk about this in more detail. pm me man
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| Posted: Fri, 30th Apr 2010 15:36 Post subject: |
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| Frant wrote: | For Rapegames and Domination roleplaying, call (p)Syco  |
Hey dude, havent talked to ya in a while How are you?
And yeah man...I've done almost everything you can do with a chick (aside from shit related things). I have yet to meet a chick who doesn't enjoy the rape fantasy. Sometimes it takes a while to get to that level of trust and sometimes it happens quick.
Actually, the 26-27 year old that lives 2 doors down and I have one arranged for Saturday 
She's always liked me (her and her roommate, both gorgeous...the one I'm gettin with is a yoga instructor ) and took care of me on Monday and Tuesday when I was incredibly sick. Known each other for a year but I was involved with someone for most of that time so I couldn't do anything....but now |
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| Posted: Fri, 30th Apr 2010 15:52 Post subject: |
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| Frant wrote: | You lucky bastard canuck. 
I'm fine here.. started exercising to get rid of some winter-flab. Where have you been the last couple of months btw? |
Well, back in tip top shape. Solid as rock.
Found a group of guys who do Modified Brazilian Ju-Jitsu, train how I do. And the head guy wanted to learn my main style (Combat/Urban Hapkido...I know traditional, but its not practical and I've added my own twists from other styles and street fighting) because his stand up skills were lacking. So me, him and like 4 other of his main students train for 5 or 6 hours a day.
I needed to improve my ground game...the hapkido has tons of ground moves, many based on traditional ju-jitsu but they are lethal....if you use em, you better be prepared to tear an arm or quite literally kill someone...fuck, white belt ground techniques teach 2 that if you use em, the guy will be in the hospital for weeks.
So I want to learn something where I can ground fight but more controlled. B-Ju-Jitsu is quite lethal (not talking that UFC shit), but you can determine how much force you use and whether you wanna royally fuck someone up or prevent them from getting up, you know?
Other than that bud, working my ass off. Feels good to solid again. Stopped training for a good 8 months, gained 15lbs...gained 2 more since I started training but its all muscle.
What about you? Whatcha been up too?
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| Posted: Fri, 30th Apr 2010 16:40 Post subject: |
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| FireMaster wrote: | Almost all girls I met do that rape sob story, it's probably a bullshit story to get to your sympathy and make you feel protective of her weak sweet ass. it's a common tactic amongst bitches
also I only read the first two lines as it's too tl;dr for my taste |
I agree, he should just say "I wont rape you"
and then mutter "Unless you say no"
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| ragnarus wrote: |
I saw things like that in here and in other "woman problems" topics so...... Am I the only one that thinks some authorities needs to be alerted about Saner and him possibly being a rapist and/or kidnapper ? |
Saner is not being serious. Unless its the subject of Santa! |
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| Posted: Fri, 30th Apr 2010 17:28 Post subject: |
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Thnx SycoShaman , I see your point but dont agree that all girls who are raped are fucked in the head. I mena shes not a normal run of the mil girl, but then again thats one of the things I like about her. She not as boring as most chicks I've been with but has this darkness thats so attractive.
Im not at all into rape roleplaying, as long as I get to finger and fuck her ass Im happy. Something she hadnt done but let me do to her and something she really enyojed.
The more I read about peoples advice here the more I realize how low self respect you guys have when it comes to women. I wont change my whole personality just to attract women. I like the way I am, I like that Im caring that I like to share my thoughts with my women, if they dont like it then they can just get the fuck out.
Onr thing, when I leave on monday should I send her a short sms? Write something like take care and remember that you're a strong and good person...
On one hand I promised myself to take it slow and let her take steps when shes ready, on the second hand I dont like leaving someone without sayong goodbye.
Fixed, I meant to thank Sychoshaman. Any ideas regarding the text message?
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| iconized wrote: | Acer she might be borderline.
Perhaps advise her to seek professional help and be patient with her. |
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