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WaldoJ
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no im in my head thinking this guy doesn't care his girlfriends mom is dead
that's it...
and from what you're saying it's true... im not on about the angels... you are...
the are other stuff about her mum in her house
yes? yes...
and you're focusing on the angles and not the their sentimentality...
i dun think you know how she (your gf) ticks...
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| Posted: Wed, 23rd Sep 2009 17:40 Post subject: |
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Like I said, you don't know me and if you want to think about me that way, have it your way but maybe you wanna keep a small little thought in the back of your head, ok?
Just remember that you don't know me and that maybe the stuff I say here is sometimes badly worded and not exactly what I tried to convey.
I could go on and try to convince you that I understand grief and keeping sentiments and mementos around to cope with your grief.
And that in my opinion just keeping everything the same might help at first but sooner or later things _have_ to change.
I could tell you that I haven't spoken to her about it and that I don't intend to for quite some time.
I could tell you that the main reason I feel it hard to feel at home at her place is not her mother's sentiments but the fact that her brother apparently loves to live in chaos and my gf can't get him to help her with cleaning, washing, shopping for groceries and she does not want to do it because she's not his mom and she will not clean up after him like her mom used to do.
I could tell you that my gf is really upset about her brother and every other day I comfort her because she's in tears because her brother is such a bum.
And I could tell you that I love my gf with every little quirk she has because those make her all the cuter and even more lovable to me.
But then again you might just turn things on me again and what not, right?
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lhzr
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| Posted: Wed, 23rd Sep 2009 18:01 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Wed, 23rd Sep 2009 18:24 Post subject: |
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Hmmm... I know that keeping some stuff that reminds her of her mother can help her with grief, but she should try to box some of her stuff as a gesture of moving on. Try to propose that to her, you can even do that together. Say to her that even tho her mom is not here, the memories and good time that she spent with her can never be forgotten, and that she must cherish those moments and not linger over them. She must look to the future and say that you will be there for her to help her making that future better (I'm assuming you really love her and intent to spend your life with her)...
"Quantum mechanics is actually, contrary to it's reputation, unbeliveably simple, once you take the physics out."
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| Posted: Wed, 23rd Sep 2009 20:43 Post subject: |
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Dude, bros before hoes. You got your priorities all wrong.
Sense Amid Madness, Wit Amidst Folly
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| Posted: Wed, 23rd Sep 2009 20:47 Post subject: |
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Wed, 23rd Sep 2009 23:30 Post subject: |
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| Reklis wrote: | Like I said, you don't know me and if you want to think about me that way, have it your way but maybe you wanna keep a small little thought in the back of your head, ok?
Just remember that you don't know me and that maybe the stuff I say here is sometimes badly worded and not exactly what I tried to convey.
I could go on and try to convince you that I understand grief and keeping sentiments and mementos around to cope with your grief.
And that in my opinion just keeping everything the same might help at first but sooner or later things _have_ to change.
I could tell you that I haven't spoken to her about it and that I don't intend to for quite some time.
I could tell you that the main reason I feel it hard to feel at home at her place is not her mother's sentiments but the fact that her brother apparently loves to live in chaos and my gf can't get him to help her with cleaning, washing, shopping for groceries and she does not want to do it because she's not his mom and she will not clean up after him like her mom used to do.
I could tell you that my gf is really upset about her brother and every other day I comfort her because she's in tears because her brother is such a bum.
And I could tell you that I love my gf with every little quirk she has because those make her all the cuter and even more lovable to me.
But then again you might just turn things on me again and what not, right? |
damn straight!!!
i don't like your phrasing is all... makes you sound cold and evil.
i knew this bird ones who took advantage of someones death...
some people don't appreciate things... some people deal with things differently...
and your sentimentality or lack of it is awesome.
telling me i dunno you, i dunno her blah blah blah blah blah...
but the fact you get annoyed cause she has some things in her house that remind her of her mum and saying that she has to get over it and deal with it and blah is cold 
the brother scenario... it's lol... too but i wont get into that how am i obviousy to know that the guy is a bum, and is immature and really doesn't know how to deal with the loss of his mum and has been smothered by her all his life and doesn't and won't really know how to cope living by himself... of course i dunno know that, but you know what... i'm right 
have you tried talking to him? you're moving in with his sister... bangin' his sister... eventually you'll two will be a family... talk to him like a brother... understand him and help him gtfo...
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| Posted: Thu, 24th Sep 2009 01:52 Post subject: |
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I remember when my girlfriend moved in with me; we spend all the time together anyway and we were nuts about each other, didnt care what anyone would say and we certainly didnt care about furniture or whatever house object - in all that excitement; i think "officially" moving with someone has to come on top of that or else its pointless :/
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| Posted: Thu, 24th Sep 2009 02:04 Post subject: |
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what game is in yur sig Vikerness
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| Posted: Thu, 24th Sep 2009 03:16 Post subject: |
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Guild wars.
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| Posted: Thu, 24th Sep 2009 10:41 Post subject: |
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First, I asked her if I shoudl talk to him she didn't want me to and I respect her wishes.
There's nothing for me to do there.
Second by now I'm getting way angrier at you pretending to know me and how I am and act from a couple of posts.
An lastly, I'm done with this thread because it doesn't go anywhere. You telling me what kinda shit guy I am, I'm getting pissed off about that, not helpful at all.
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| Posted: Sun, 27th Sep 2009 01:20 Post subject: |
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Second by now I'm getting way angrier at you pretending to know me and how I am and act from a couple of posts.
An lastly, I'm done with this thread because it doesn't go anywhere. You telling me what kinda shit guy I am, I'm getting pissed off about that, not helpful at all. |
You might as-well give up on forums then since all people have to go on is assumption and conjecture here, it's the nature of such a limited interactive medium.
It's pathetic when people whine about others 'not knowing them' after creating a thread concerning such personal issues. If that's your only defence then obviously there is some truth to what has been said.
"Techniclly speaking, Beta-Manboi didnt inject Burberry_Massi with Benz, he injected him with liquid that had air bubbles in it, which caused benz." - House M.D
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| Posted: Sun, 27th Sep 2009 12:28 Post subject: |
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Damn you, AM, and your bulletproof arguments! Arrrr...
I reread what I wrote and I must have been pissed off at something badly because, well, no that I read it again maybe there is some truth to it. Who knows?
But it seems she and her brother worked it out somehow.
The appartment still looks pretty chaotic but given time I suppose he's gonna get it tidied up (they reached some kind of arragement who has to do what).
And maybe once her brother moves out she's gonna have the nerves and time etc. to clean out the appartment. Like this couch that gives you backpain when you sit on it for more than 10 minutes... Yes, that thing is old. About 70 or 80 years or so but anyway 
Until then I'm still gonna feel watched by that one angel painting.
Suppose I'm getting paranoid these days  (please don't start making this about religion and crap, every painting that is basically a close up of someone makes me feel watched - paranoia I say).
Btw. just thought of that, don't know who said it but yes, it is her appartment but when I move in with her it becomes _our_ appartment. And then I want it to feel like it, if that makes any sense.
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| Posted: Sun, 27th Sep 2009 16:22 Post subject: |
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does living with a girl overall make things worse or better? men with experience enlighten? also lets say if i live in a farm with animals how could one get woman live with me?
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| Posted: Sun, 27th Sep 2009 16:27 Post subject: |
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Life is what you make it. I once lived with an ex and it was great for a couple weeks, then just became tedious and annoying - with us both constantly getting under each other's skin. It lasted about five months, before I kicked her cheating ass to the curb.
I've now been living with my wife (then fiancé) for 2 years, and staying regularly with her for a year before that, and it has been absolute bliss. We complement each other perfectly, we work together as a team, we have fantastic sex day in and day out, and we're best friends.
Life is what you make it, you just have to work to keep everything going. Talk, talk, talk and more talk!!! Never, EVER, bottle anything up. If something is bothering you, discuss it! The more you talk, the better everything works out  We've been together for 3 years now and we've not had a single argument, not about anything, because we don't let things get to that point -- we TALK! ^_^
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| Posted: Sun, 27th Sep 2009 16:31 Post subject: |
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hey this is great to hear
but how much sex can you get off her? i dont care about other things. is she usable and controllable enough?
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| Posted: Sun, 27th Sep 2009 16:32 Post subject: |
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| ILikeUnderage wrote: |
but how much sex can you get off her?
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As much as either of us want.
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i dont care about other things. is she usable and controllable enough? |
Why the fuck would I want to control her? If I wanted a doll, I'd get one.
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| Posted: Sun, 27th Sep 2009 16:33 Post subject: |
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ok cool but what if i want more than her? can you as a male be over her? like men arre stronger than women
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LeoNatan
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| Posted: Sun, 27th Sep 2009 16:33 Post subject: |
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sabin why do you feed the troll?  stop replying to him and report -> that's the key
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| Posted: Sun, 27th Sep 2009 16:35 Post subject: |
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lhzr
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| Posted: Sun, 27th Sep 2009 16:41 Post subject: |
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lhzr
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| Posted: Sun, 27th Sep 2009 16:50 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Sun, 27th Sep 2009 16:54 Post subject: |
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why did one person get banned here already? this inatan man
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