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Remove any and all memorabilia you have of her, that should be your first step, second step is hitting her where it hurts(if you know she fucked you over that is, else you can't do this), third step is find another girl you can screw, those are the methods I allways use. I don't believe in sulking for too long anymore, that shit indeed gets you nowhere, the best way to forget her is just to move on asap, it shows your strength to yourself and to the fucking cunt that left you. Just remember her face when she sees you already found someone else should the two of you meet.
Women allways make swift decisions, its only after a week, 2,3 weeks that they begin to wonder and their curiosity shit kicks in, thats when she will start investigating how you are coping.
After my ex broke up with me, it took me 2,5 weeks and I was already out searching for someone else, and I think even that was too long for me, I have cut that time to 1 week now, as far as that shit is concerned I just don't give a fuck anymore, thats how strong I have become. One relationship is over, fuck it, on to bigger and better, if the cunt comes back, give her one chance and one chance only, but don't go groveling back cuz that never works, she'll just see you as a bigtime loser(been there, done that and never again).
PS : Just read through some of your other answers, and I'm gonna lay this on you gently, the stuff she says about her needing time is the biggest slice of baloney someone can feed a guy. You should read it like this 'I'd really like you to stay the fuck out of my life, i'm saying this to give you false hope and to get you off my back easily without having to waste too many words cuz I'm too chicken shit to tell you the truth'. I have enormous people skills and read into lines so good I sometimes scare myself, when I met this new chick 2 weeks ago and I met all her friends I knew in 1 instant which the fuckers and the nice people were, people talking with two faces to me best tattoo 'I am transparant' on their forehead.
So sorry Max, move on, don't sulk another day, its not worth it.
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| Posted: Fri, 12th Sep 2008 12:19 Post subject: |
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Its important to allways remember the things you hated about her, if there's nothing then just make shit up and believe in it.
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WaldoJ
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| Posted: Fri, 12th Sep 2008 12:31 Post subject: |
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| Pfiemelcheese wrote: | | Its important to allways remember the things you hated about her, if there's nothing then just make shit up and believe in it. |
lol wtf?
| Sin317 wrote: | | I win, you lose. Or Go fuck yourself. |
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| Posted: Fri, 12th Sep 2008 12:42 Post subject: |
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Its called blacking out the positive stuff Waldo, it works for me and it surely will help him, once all the heartache is gone and you'r over her you can remember the good things again and not feel bad. Right now its all about healing his heart, and to do so by all means necessary.
I am just giving pointers eh, not everyone works the same, takes alot of imagination, but maybe I am blessed with that gift as it works miracles for me.
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| Posted: Fri, 12th Sep 2008 12:55 Post subject: |
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so i was right with all my talk stuff no? 
I just don't know how you can force yourself to hate someone you once believed you loved. Yah you can grow out of loving them, but forcing yourself to hate and looking for bogus reasons... that's some heavy shit.
| Sin317 wrote: | | I win, you lose. Or Go fuck yourself. |
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| Posted: Fri, 12th Sep 2008 12:59 Post subject: |
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Yep thats exactly what I am saying, and I'd even go further than that and say he should hate her fucking guts so hard his heart turns black in resentment. Thats how you deal with this shit, maybe I am unique in these cases I dunno, I just reletavize everything and think if she tells me off then she's just not worth it so why should I be the one sitting here sulking while she's having her pussy examined by some other smuck, sorry but that shit just don't fly with me.
You go do some pussydigging yourself, and even forget about giving her a second chance, if she comes crawling back just give her a kick in the pussyflaps, that'll send a clear message you'r alpha male material.
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| Posted: Fri, 12th Sep 2008 13:02 Post subject: |
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Question is though, does that mentality allow you to get to where the TS was in the first place?
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| Posted: Fri, 12th Sep 2008 13:06 Post subject: |
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It sure does, cuz I only act like this when I am in a breakup, when I have a loving relationship I give it my all. Here we'r talking about how to forget people easily, its all a made up act to behave, you'r making it out as if I am like this 24/7, and if you really think that you really should learn to read before you ask such silly questions.
I am telling him how I get over failed relations, and it works miracles, cuz really tell me, how many times did you have a relationship where wallowing in selfpity and waiting out has worked out for you, and where the girl came back on her own regard. NEVER. So best he lives up to this fact.
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| Posted: Fri, 12th Sep 2008 13:11 Post subject: |
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heh, sorry for the silly question.....
I'll learn to read...
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| Posted: Fri, 12th Sep 2008 21:12 Post subject: |
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Just wanted to ask.
Where do you guys come up with this stuff about women? Are you one? Therefore do you really know?
Is what you are saying based on fact? It is not!
It is based on experience. So I ask you what experience have you really had with women? So what, you had a few relationships with women that worked out bad, or wrong, so from your experience all women are like that. Not the case.
I look at guys, women, (basically the people that I have met throughout my life) and they always have a 'type' they go for. Some like the bitchy type, some the snob, the abuser, the user. Something goes wrong and they wonder why? Instead of blaming the people YOU CHOOSE to date why no look at the choice you made. Is there no self reflection here?
I am sure my words will go unheard because it is not connivence for some to hear them, it doesn’t suit their needs.
My post isn’t about Max.
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| Posted: Fri, 12th Sep 2008 21:20 Post subject: |
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That's the nature of people no?
To present narrow minded perspective based on very limited experience as a unified truth?
Up to the individual to decide whether any of the information can relate to them personally?
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| Posted: Fri, 12th Sep 2008 21:36 Post subject: |
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| LanceBullet wrote: | That's the nature of people no?
To present narrow minded perspective based on very limited experience as a unified truth?
Up to the individual to decide whether any of the information can relate to them personally? |
I have to agree with that 100%....Yes.
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| Posted: Fri, 12th Sep 2008 22:02 Post subject: |
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| pistolshrimp wrote: | Just wanted to ask.
Where do you guys come up with this stuff about women? Are you one? Therefore do you really know?
Is what you are saying based on fact? It is not!
It is based on experience. So I ask you what experience have you really had with women? So what, you had a few relationships with women that worked out bad, or wrong, so from your experience all women are like that. Not the case.
I look at guys, women, (basically the people that I have met throughout my life) and they always have a 'type' they go for. Some like the bitchy type, some the snob, the abuser, the user. Something goes wrong and they wonder why? Instead of blaming the people YOU CHOOSE to date why no look at the choice you made. Is there no self reflection here?
I am sure my words will go unheard because it is not connivence for some to hear them, it doesn’t suit their needs.
My post isn’t about Max. |
You have to remember that many of the members of this community are insecure teenagers who have to take that fear of rejection out by degrading the opposing sex with a semblance of logic that equates to "If I talk down to women maybe they won't notice what an insecure twit I am".
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| Posted: Fri, 12th Sep 2008 22:23 Post subject: |
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| dominae wrote: | | pistolshrimp wrote: | Just wanted to ask.
Where do you guys come up with this stuff about women? Are you one? Therefore do you really know?
Is what you are saying based on fact? It is not!
It is based on experience. So I ask you what experience have you really had with women? So what, you had a few relationships with women that worked out bad, or wrong, so from your experience all women are like that. Not the case.
I look at guys, women, (basically the people that I have met throughout my life) and they always have a 'type' they go for. Some like the bitchy type, some the snob, the abuser, the user. Something goes wrong and they wonder why? Instead of blaming the people YOU CHOOSE to date why no look at the choice you made. Is there no self reflection here?
I am sure my words will go unheard because it is not connivence for some to hear them, it doesn’t suit their needs.
My post isn’t about Max. |
You have to remember that many of the members of this community are insecure teenagers who have to take that fear of rejection out by degrading the opposing sex with a semblance of logic that equates to "If I talk down to women maybe they won't notice what an insecure twit I am". |
dominae
Yea, you are right. It is still hard to watch people go through their insecure/rejection stage with those types of ideas. Not that I am better, I just had different experiences.
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| Posted: Fri, 12th Sep 2008 22:39 Post subject: |
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Was expecting the cheese dude to suggest burning your name in petrol on her lawn....
j/k... drunk and all.......Probably got a problem with that.....
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| Posted: Sat, 13th Sep 2008 01:32 Post subject: |
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The cheese dude is in his thirties, so why don't you just kindly shut the bleep up:P I had my fair share of shit, and it just doesn't get through to me anymore, its like I have elephant skin, I have a problem and I blow it away like dust in the wind. Be nice to me and I will be nice to you, fuck me over and I will fuck you over so hard you wish you were friends with the devil, thats my lifemotto, an eye for an eye, only my eye stings like a bitch. If you depart on good terms or noone went south digging in someone elses shit then I will just let it go, but if I find out some bitch didn't have the nerve to tell me and started pussyjuicing some other guys cock then payback will indeed be a bitch. I fucked over my last girlfriend and sent her into a depression, but she really did have it coming, she gave me goodbye sex the same night she ditched me, and a few days before I find out she was with another man. I never play the physical card, for me its all on the emotional level as that knife goes much deeper:LOL:
Am I a sick fucker, oooh yes I am, sometimes the plans I concoct are so fucking evil I can't help but feel like Lex Luthor:P
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MAD_MAX333
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| Posted: Sat, 13th Sep 2008 01:40 Post subject: |
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fuck man... this is girl i loved for 5 fucking years.. . i cant hate her... i will never hate her... lets jsut say i love and respect her so much that i want her to be happy... if she is not happy with me and wants out, then as much as it is ripping me apart, i have to allow her to leave. i like to be civil with her even if i can't be with her anymore.
as for other options, one i don't drink anymore, i don't like fucking sluts and hoes and i can't even think about getting int oa relationship right now when things are this fresh. so i guess i'm shit out of luck but to jsut tough it out.
it was just the shock of the matter... apparently she had a whole list of things that bothered her and only dropped hints and shit from time to time... all was fine till last weekend... it was fucked... 2 weeks ago she was making plans for our 5 year anniv, i had bought her a ring to give her on the anniv when we went to another city in a hotel she had designed... i look at the fucking ring and i get choked up... not only is it going to waste and not going to the woman i love, but i think how fucking stupid am i to not see any signs... either i am the worlds biggest moron or she should be an oscar winning actress.
like i had said i wrote her a letter, after reading it she called me and she had calmed down a little and spoke to me for a while... i explained how she was never clear on what bothered her and i am not a mind reader... today when i called her, she picked up but she was ice cold again because her friend was there. whenever her friend is there, she is SUPER rude and cold... when alone she is a bit more managable... her friends are egging her on to go out and go wild as a single person and never pick up on my phone calls...
anyway... i don't know what to do... i am pretty fucked right now as always... went to the gym atleast... no motivation but i did my workout...without eating its all a waste but gives me something to do... anything i try to do takes 3 times the normal amount cause i just drift off... i am cleaning my room and it has already been 2 hours since i started... took em 15 minutes to type this msg i think...
i was thinking of telling her how i was gonna give her the ring on our anniv (28th of this month) and see what she says... i dont know i have run out of ideas...
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| Posted: Sat, 13th Sep 2008 01:44 Post subject: |
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I take it back killer..........
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| Posted: Sat, 13th Sep 2008 02:07 Post subject: |
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Hahahaah oooh my god how many times have I been in this boat, feel sad for you sure, but my feelings can't be hurt anymore, right now I am ditching a cunt, i cried once and now I am just ignoring her, she keeps texting me but the cunt can go sit on it, I'll find a new one in a matter of weeks. And I also wrote a nice lettre that goes straight to the heart:P Man I love my lettres, its the stuff that dreams are made of hahaha, or should I say, the stuff that depression is made off:LOL:
Sure you respect her now, but I give it one week till you find out she's with another man, and then you will share my thoughts. Don't say I didn't warn you, being weak is for pussies, won't fall into that trap anymore, I never felt this strong and resilient. I even feel more women are drawn to me, so in a way I turned from a softie into an asshole, and I allways said I wouldn't turn into an asshole, but thats the only thing women look for. The girl I ditched today was with a guy that manhandled her for 2 years, she got beat up senseless and she still stayed with him, I'll never hit a women, but you can see my point eh, they will stay with someone they respect and who they see as a leader, they won't stay with a guy thats weak and starts whining at the first hurdle.
One big life lesson, and take it from me as this is very important and you should allways remember this line, make it your lifemotto,
'He who cares least, controls the relationship'
and that is the secret to keeping a women, start being too dependant and you will send them flocking to asshole cock. You won't believe me now, but you will soon enough.
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| Posted: Sat, 13th Sep 2008 02:14 Post subject: |
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heh sounds good max to be honest, your still hitting the gym etc, make sure you keep at it. Why are you thinking about a new relationship? FUCK THAT! you need to get over this one first and it takes time man.. dont even worry about tht shit. your talking as if your a 45+ year old with a beer belly and a bad case of "fatuglytwatwithnopersonalitynevergettingagirl"  Its bs and you know it 
I have had that too, one week she was telling me she loves me more than anything ever and that she wants to plan the time ahead, the next weekend im dumped by text with little to no explanation and it hit like a ton of bricks. I was sat there thinking "what?" for ages. But oh well, life moves on, a month down the line im making a ton of money i wasnt making before getting with her now i have more time at home to DO the work, im saving for a nice car 
Just enjoy yourself at the moment man, its very early days to be thinking about the future and what not. Fuck her shit let her get on with it, 9/10 times they say friends are saying this that and the other its bollocks anyway. Look at us, were all telling you to do what her mates are telling her to do  so dont sweat it 
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| Posted: Sat, 13th Sep 2008 02:15 Post subject: |
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oh i see it all the time... and i never say never... for now these are my feelings... and yes if i do see her with someone else in a week, i will be PISSED... considering she use to say it would take her a few months to get over me and if she is already dating and shit in a week, all it means is that she already knew she was gonna break up with me and was fine with it.
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| Posted: Sat, 13th Sep 2008 02:47 Post subject: |
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meh see here is where my middle eastern gene comes into play.. see, if she came back in a few weeks or a month or two.. i would most likely take her back... BUT if she goes to a club or so like i KNOW her friends will force her to do and she hooks up with a guy, kisses, dates, or anything of that sort then i can't take her back cause it won't be able to look at her the same.
anyway i am trying my best to keep busy... i have a RIDE program to do in an hour ( stopping and checking cars for drunk drivers) i am really struggling to not call in sick for it... i should also try to force some food down my mouth... it is fucked up how little i have ate in the last 4 days...
lets put it this way, last friday i weight myself and i get 209... i check today, 198... not good
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| Posted: Sat, 13th Sep 2008 03:14 Post subject: |
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don't take your job for granted. The first breakup I had was worsened by no reason to get up in the mornings. No job also = no money so I couldn't do fuck all but sit in and be shit.
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| Posted: Sat, 13th Sep 2008 04:37 Post subject: |
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| MAD_MAX333 wrote: | meh see here is where my middle eastern gene comes into play.. see, if she came back in a few weeks or a month or two.. i would most likely take her back... BUT if she goes to a club or so like i KNOW her friends will force her to do and she hooks up with a guy, kisses, dates, or anything of that sort then i can't take her back cause it won't be able to look at her the same.
anyway i am trying my best to keep busy... i have a RIDE program to do in an hour ( stopping and checking cars for drunk drivers) i am really struggling to not call in sick for it... i should also try to force some food down my mouth... it is fucked up how little i have ate in the last 4 days...
lets put it this way, last friday i weight myself and i get 209... i check today, 198... not good |
Sorry dude. There is no such thing as a middle eastern gene, maybe the culture plays a part but you KNOW better. You are using an excuse (maybe later) to take her back. You have to take her back for the right reasons.
Kissing another guy isn't an ok reason to NOT to take her back either. Maybe she will realise he sucks ass at kissing. (that happened to me-- gross) Or that sex is SOOO disappointing when it is not you. Doesn't make her a slut. She was with you for 6 years, she must of been a teenager when you started to date. You both were young.
Basically, she has questions now. She has opportunities she thinks she has to explore and to be frank, I think that intimidates you.
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| Posted: Sat, 13th Sep 2008 04:50 Post subject: |
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let your inner patrick bateman come out
| Quote: | | You're a fucking ugly bitch. I want to stab you to death, and then play around with your blood. |
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It's not a gene, its a viewpoint given from birth.
If she does, she's tainted to you, and that's not something you can just 'get over'. Everyone is different with that shit. I'm closer to you on the spectrum, but its just the sex. I don't have a problem with partners from before us, but between part 1 and part 2, I don't think I could deal.
Kissing and shit isn't as serious for me, but that is a cultural thing.
You're not in the wrong my man from my POV. Keep on keeping on and understand understanding.
PS, don't call into RIDE. Drunk drivers need to be caught.
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| Posted: Sat, 13th Sep 2008 05:31 Post subject: |
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| Phluxed wrote: | It's not a gene, its a viewpoint given from birth.
If she does, she's tainted to you, and that's not something you can just 'get over'. Everyone is different with that shit. I'm closer to you on the spectrum, but its just the sex. I don't have a problem with partners from before us, but between part 1 and part 2, I don't think I could deal.
Kissing and shit isn't as serious for me, but that is a cultural thing.
You're not in the wrong my man from my POV. Keep on keeping on and understand understanding.
PS, don't call into RIDE. Drunk drivers need to be caught. |
Got in after a night out on the town, hun ?
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