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 Posted: Tue, 12th Dec 2006 23:48 Post subject: Worst pain in my life. |
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Well..... my ex girlfriend, who I broke up with about 5 months ago.... has a relation ship with someone else now.
I always thought we were made for eachother. I still love her very madly and I can't live without her still. We still see eachother. I never got over the fact that we broke up and there's not a single day that goes by that I don't think of her and get depressed.
Finally as I was starting to get over it because we were doing really good and I thought maybe we'd get back together again. She tells me she has a relationship with some other girl and that she's bisexual. I almost passed out.
The sex is better, she loves her more than me, they connect better she understands her far better than I ever did. She didn't want to tell me any of this but I insisted. I'm such a fucking emotional pos. I was up the entire night crying, didn't sleep one bit.
I wish I could cut this heart out of my chest and never feel anything ever again.
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| Posted: Tue, 12th Dec 2006 23:49 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Tue, 12th Dec 2006 23:52 Post subject: |
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| JeanPerrier wrote: | | she misses you |
Not really. |
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| Posted: Tue, 12th Dec 2006 23:53 Post subject: |
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i miss you 
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fraich3
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| Posted: Tue, 12th Dec 2006 23:54 Post subject: |
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I feel like dying.
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| Posted: Tue, 12th Dec 2006 23:55 Post subject: |
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I haven't met her. I don't know if I want to. Jealousy would devour me.
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| Posted: Tue, 12th Dec 2006 23:56 Post subject: |
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5 months is a really long time
find another girl ! fast !. dont think that she unreplaceable.
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| Posted: Tue, 12th Dec 2006 23:58 Post subject: |
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There were other girls but I denied all of them because I was hoping to get back together with my ex. Yeah that's how naive I am.
I'll never find some1 like her again, never. God I have neverbeen so wrecked in my entire life. I feel so emotionally drained.
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fraich3
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| Posted: Tue, 12th Dec 2006 23:59 Post subject: |
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What are you doing now, educational wise or job wise ?
"Zipfero is the biggest fucking golddigger ever" - Mutantius
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| Posted: Tue, 12th Dec 2006 23:59 Post subject: |
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you feel like this now. but tell me again when you have a new girl. just say fuck it and go for it
and keep a rope and some razors close 
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| Posted: Wed, 13th Dec 2006 00:00 Post subject: |
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| fraich3 wrote: | | What are you doing now, educational wise or job wise ? |
I go to college. I study science of public administration and government management. I'm 19. |
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| Posted: Wed, 13th Dec 2006 00:02 Post subject: |
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| JeanPerrier wrote: | you feel like this now. but tell me again when you have a new girl. just say fuck it and go for it
and keep a rope and some razors close |
That could take 20 years. |
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| Posted: Wed, 13th Dec 2006 00:02 Post subject: |
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your only 19 ffs (like me btw)
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fraich3
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| Posted: Wed, 13th Dec 2006 00:04 Post subject: |
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| fraich3 wrote: | im 18 btw 
well, its almost friday. go get drunk with some good friends, hit some clubs or bars  |
Yeah, I'll get drunk alright, that's for sure. |
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Esel_Gesi
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| Posted: Wed, 13th Dec 2006 00:20 Post subject: |
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Sucks to hear man. Relationships work two ways so it needs to be good for both for it to work. This was obviously not going to work no matter how much you love her.
But look at the big picture. You are only 19. There are tons of girls out there and definitely one that will make you as happy as you make her.
Lose yourself in a bottle or two for now but realize that you will get over this and laugh about it someday.
enough relationship movie clichés for ya?
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| Posted: Wed, 13th Dec 2006 00:21 Post subject: |
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Don't feel that you have to rush into another relationship to compensate, like the guys on here seem to be advising. Rebound relationships always end badly.
Just be happy with yourself, you don't need another person to complete you. Then one day somebody will walk into your life out of the blue. But don't deny other girls because of a false hope of getting back together with your ex.
Let me ask this, would you have preferred that the relationship never happend? You've learnt alot from this, it wasn't a waste of time. It all goes towards making you a wiser person in the future.
"Techniclly speaking, Beta-Manboi didnt inject Burberry_Massi with Benz, he injected him with liquid that had air bubbles in it, which caused benz." - House M.D
"Faith without logic is the same as knowledge without understanding; meaningless"
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Godlikez*
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| Posted: Wed, 13th Dec 2006 03:52 Post subject: |
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Don’t be upset. You have your eyes on other girls don’t you. You did that big thing for another girl. Something about a box. It just really hurts now but it will go away with time.
I just don’t get this ‘suddenly I am a lesbian’ thing.
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| Posted: Wed, 13th Dec 2006 16:36 Post subject: |
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| Esel_Gesi wrote: | Sucks to hear man. Relationships work two ways so it needs to be good for both for it to work. This was obviously not going to work no matter how much you love her.
But look at the big picture. You are only 19. There are tons of girls out there and definitely one that will make you as happy as you make her.
Lose yourself in a bottle or two for now but realize that you will get over this and laugh about it someday.
enough relationship movie clichés for ya? |
You’re absolutely right, I couldn’t possibly love her any more than I do now or did back then. It wouldn’t have worked out at all, from the start I already noticed that we were not clicking the way we should but I was in love and so was she. There were points in our relationships where we both acknowledged that it was better to go our separate ways but neither of us were strong enough to break it up and we both loved each other too much we couldn’t live without eachother. We broke up once or twice but in all occasions one of us came back begging and the other was waiting with open arms.
Thanks for your advice, but hearing I’m 19 and young and having my entire life infront of me in a world with a shitload of girls and I should get drunk and live it up is basically 90% of all the advice I get. Sadly it doesn’t work for me. Yeah there are a lot of fishes in the sea but very few goldfishes as Waldo said it. I seriously doubt I’ll laugh about this in the future, this entire experience has traumatized me for life. Thanks for your advice though.
| AnimalMother wrote: | Don't feel that you have to rush into another relationship to compensate, like the guys on here seem to be advising. Rebound relationships always end badly.
Just be happy with yourself, you don't need another person to complete you. Then one day somebody will walk into your life out of the blue. But don't deny other girls because of a false hope of getting back together with your ex.
Let me ask this, would you have preferred that the relationship never happend? You've learnt alot from this, it wasn't a waste of time. It all goes towards making you a wiser person in the future. |
You’re right. But I do feel that I am ready for a new relationship and I don’t think I will get over this, EVER if I don’t hook up with someone and I am not doing it purely to get over it. I’ll do it gladly with a girl I’m attracted to and like as a person.
I don’t need another person to complete me but well…… life is a lot better when you have someone that loves you, especially for me I need to be loved. Not only that I have the need to give my love to someone else, because I got a lot of love in me and I can’t truly be happy unless I can channel it to someone else so to speak. I’m not saying I’ll give it to just anyone I won’t, I can’t that’s the same reason why I am depressed and feel I won’t find someone else at least not in a long time cause I am very picky and selective. But I’ll definitely taste off of the 7+’s which I skipped till this time in the hope to get back with my ex, I won’t however give myself to anything less than a 9+ and that might sound cocky and spoiled but that’s just the way I am.
At this point I would have preferred that the relationship never happened because I couldn’t stand all this pain a second time. I would die of heartache. But I am glad it happened it was definitely an experience I have learned from a lot. I learnt never to attach myself so emotionally to someone that fast. From now of on I will take it nice and slow cause I never, ever want this to happen to me again, But I can’t really answer that question, maybe I would have preferred it to happen because the best time in my life was with her, at the same time the worst time of my life was with her as well. These past 6 months have been a living hell for me. Thanks.
| Godlikez* wrote: | Im going to give you some empty advice,
Go out and get laid have yourself some emotionless cold sex and down as much alcohol as possible while cutting yourself with a small knife preferably around the wrists because that way the pain will not seem that bad.
Seriously though why dont you meet her new girl? it sounds to me that she is trying to prove something to you and maybe actually getting along with her New Pick of the month might get her jelous and bring out her true colours. |
Thanks for the empty advice, that won’t solve my heartache though. It would distract me to the point where I get alone and she once again comes up in my head and it starts to burn again. I meet new girls all the time but none that really get my attention. She’s not trying to prove anything she’s always been honest with me always been straight with me she doesn’t fuck around she doesn’t play games because she does cherish what we had. This girl that she has a relationship with now, has been her best friend for such a long time and now she’s like the love of her life, niiiiiccee (borat).
Thanks for those words, especially cause I’ve always been an asshole to you.
| pistolshrimp wrote: | Don’t be upset. You have your eyes on other girls don’t you. You did that big thing for another girl. Something about a box. It just really hurts now but it will go away with time.
I just don’t get this ‘suddenly I am a lesbian’ thing. |
I wish I wasn’t upset but I feel horrible I can’t get rid of it.
I did that thing for that one girl yeah but when I could have had her I didn’t pull through cause I took the chance with my ex, yeah I’m really stupid/naïve, I know. I hope it goes away, didn’t go away in 5 months and now it came back a lot harder.
She’s not a lesb she’s bi, I asked her if she was strictly bi and she said no, I definitely need a guy in my life. She never knew that she could love another girl, she used to be against it she says but now she’s one herself. I guess this girl understands her better than anyone else ever did, girls generally understand girls better. That’s probably why. Man it hurts so much writing this down all the memories of how she told me this is coming back it’s hitting In me like a sledgehammer. |
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Ankh
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If you let your feelings control your life (I mean the depression your in) you won't really get better. I've been in similar situations myself and i've learned that the best way to handle it is by just thinking "Hey, there are more fish in the sea" and go for another one. There ARE others who you will find just as good as her, belive me - and if she has found another man (or woman in your case) she just isnt worth your time.
Get over it mate, I know its hard though.
shitloads of new stuff in my pc. Cant keep track of it all.
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TSR69
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The things you experience right now are common. It's a mourning process. It tells that you are a sensitive and caring person. Try to keep your mind of things. Go sporting, hang out with your friends. It will pass eventually.
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Bigperm
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| Posted: Wed, 13th Dec 2006 18:44 Post subject: |
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I can kinda relate.
Been through kinda the same thing this year. My ex is now up north with a new guy.
IT took me a while to get over it, but it was for the better. I am so happy now, and i know i would never have been this happy with her, i was just kidding myself each day we were together.
Well, now its a year later. Still single, but im seeing one of the most amazing woman i have ever met.
Last year i was at the point that i thought i would never be happy, never get a girl as good as her. I was so depressed i didnt even want to go out of the house. I felt ugly, and unwanted.
You will hear this alot, but it takes time, and ushally it takes longer for guys (I have heard anyways). It will get better, and it did happen for a reason. Everything does.
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| Posted: Wed, 13th Dec 2006 19:03 Post subject: |
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Ankh
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| Posted: Wed, 13th Dec 2006 19:27 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Fri, 15th Dec 2006 00:01 Post subject: |
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| Bigperm wrote: | I can kinda relate.
Been through kinda the same thing this year. My ex is now up north with a new guy.
IT took me a while to get over it, but it was for the better. I am so happy now, and i know i would never have been this happy with her, i was just kidding myself each day we were together.
Well, now its a year later. Still single, but im seeing one of the most amazing woman i have ever met.
Last year i was at the point that i thought i would never be happy, never get a girl as good as her. I was so depressed i didnt even want to go out of the house. I felt ugly, and unwanted.
You will hear this alot, but it takes time, and ushally it takes longer for guys (I have heard anyways). It will get better, and it did happen for a reason. Everything does. |
Damn the thing I highlight just..... wow..... you're almost me. I feel exactly the way you write it down. Man I really do hope that It'll go over, so far 5 months didn't do it. Thanks for your advice. |
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| Posted: Fri, 15th Dec 2006 00:01 Post subject: |
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| X_Dror wrote: |  
I don't know why but this thread made me crack up
Now seriously man, if she's a lesbo, that already means that she's too fucked up to be anything close to the "perfect girl".
Now you need to go to a pub/party something and look for a hot chick and you are fixed.
Good luck with your chicks hunt (And seriously, I think you need to change your taste about women if your ex-girlfriend turned into a lesbian) |
I see.
I bet you never had a serious relationship or a serious heartbreak in your life. Thanks however. |
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| Posted: Fri, 15th Dec 2006 01:30 Post subject: |
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| Bigperm wrote: |
You will hear this alot, but it takes time, and ushally it takes longer for guys (I have heard anyways). It will get better, and it did happen for a reason. Everything does. |
I don't think it does take longer for men. I think it might be the same but depending on the person and age I think. I think when you get older you don't put yourself out there as much exp for women. What guy wants to date a 35 + women when early 20 women are a dime a dozen.
I think my TV just went. We have a storm coming or it is here. I don't know.
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