I'm so tired of people. The thing I hate the most in people and I recently noticed that everybody has it: the fucking need to keep themselves in an ignorant delusive fucking bubble. Every time I confront someone, criticize something they'll just go full defense and justify, make excuses.
And I'm also talking about myself. I've kept myself in a bubble for years, screaming at my GF every time she mentioned i'm addicted to games or I'm antisocial "That's the way I am, that's my character!". Going to a psychologist and reading psychology books has helped me to pop this stupid bubble but now that I'm out it's sooo obvious when other people just bullshit themselves to not let the truth show.
Yesterday I tried to explain my dad that he abandoned his three children for the sake of his new family. My dad taking me out for coffee is just a dream from the neverland. His cognitive dissonance: his brain always telling him he's an awesome dad and the actions that prove otherwise made him just line up dozens of bullshit excuses. I wish I didn't confront him in the end, I could've just gone to the woods and scream at the squirrels, it would have the same effect.
A friend who's been cheating on his girlfriend in the past will just pretend he has no idea what the fuck I'm talking about and that we'd talk tomorrow.
A colleague from work being outraged when I tell her that I can't keep contact with her because she was hitting on me and my GF doesn't feel comfortable with that.
People, own up to your mistakes because that's the only way you'll evolve! Be honest with yourself and other people.
It's one of the chapters in "12 rules for life" in Peterson's book, give yourself a favor and read that book.
Sounds about right and I can see that me and the people around me are guilty of it too. But (queue expected self-defending apology) isn't it human to err?
Ironically that's what people must understand. On a side note, I think it's also because of our education system: error means "you fucking suck". You're human, you'll make mistakes, sometimes even hurt people. Just acknowledge it, accept it, forgive yourself, archive it and move on.
Sometimes I wish people would just acknowledge what they said 5 seconds earlier
"No no, I didn't say that!"
"But you just did!"
"OK, but I didn't mean THAT, I meant THIS. Isn't it obvious?"
"Why didn't you say this than?!"
"Why do you get stuck on this? Can't we just move on?!"
I agree. Even knowing though, I still have plenty of moments where I'm guilty of that. It's easier to deflect when you're not in a good spot but it doesn't help us in the long run.
A person who lies, cheats and steals will just try to pretend he/she is normal.
They probably want to gain something by this devious behavior.
And almost everyone will obfuscate abnormalities.
Get rid of negative friends/family.
Well i like my gaming addiction and my antisocial behaviour thank you very much, im not forcing anyone so yep, im happy as a squirrel.
But i know that case about dad comming back again trying to make me feel like OHH IM THE ASSHOLEEE who never calls etc, cunt u abandoned us when i was 16 and never supported me. Come on dude, ive made worst enemies from lesser shit.
But hey, we all gotta be happy, im happy as i am, even if noone wants to share with me and my ways.
This is my first post, so so i'll try to make this count..
I think, from my personal experiences, that bubbles aren't so easy to break.
It is a different think to acknowledge the existent of one and a different think to break free from it.
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