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shimec
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 Posted: Tue, 2nd May 2017 10:36 Post subject: Girlfreind left me (maybe bigger problem) |
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So, I am here sitting all alone now after 10 or so months of relationship. My girlfriend decided to leave me and I just cannot figure out why that happened. We had strange relationship from the start, since she was younger than me and we never went into public with our relationship. It all started as a sex thing, but eventually emotions got into that. At first she was the one that was very in love with me and I wasn't that much. Later I started falling much more for her and she started getting out. In this 10 months we had really good times, although we rarely saw each other lately (once or twice a week). She is very busy as she is getting ready for her med school in the autumn. I am older and I have a job. Two weeks ago everything seemed fine, we spent some time together and both of us were happy. Last week everything started to fall apart. I felt it and when I asked her what's going on, she just said it's a period she's in. Probably I was pushy with her and she decided she cannot do that anymore, to hide from everyone. She said she might want to take a break, but I shouldn't get my hopes high that we will get back together.
I am feeling really down right now, I cannot eat, cannot sleep, I overanalyze every second from last week. I don't feel secure that I will find another person soon and I cannot even think about trying.
I know that's really classical thing and that happens to everyone, but I just need to put it out somewhere. I do feel better from time to time, but emotions hit me hard after couple of minutes of calmness.
I am still hoping that we will get back together. It is second day since we broke up and I constantly hope that message is comming my way from her that she want to get back.
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| Posted: Tue, 2nd May 2017 10:43 Post subject: |
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Don't let that stop you from living your life. Yes, it will be hard, but at least you would've deserved some sort of talk to answer your questions as you seem to be quite clueless as to why all of this happened.
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| Posted: Tue, 2nd May 2017 10:46 Post subject: |
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Yeah, girls tend to do a "fresh start" when going from high school to unversity, or when finishing university studies. Also, there is lot of confusion in life when you are 19, so don't expect her to act as a grown up.
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| Posted: Tue, 2nd May 2017 14:04 Post subject: |
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Ive gone through some stuff, we all have, the only real advice i can give you is, If someone doesnt want to be with you, consider that a reason to not really think that person is not what you want or need, theres no point, you need someone who wants to be there (unless u're a kidnapper  ).
Focus on yourself, enjoy your hobbies, go out with friends etc, you will meet someone one day. Being depressed happens in these moments, but today i see how much time i wasted and how dumb it was, why? "I stopped to think and desire a person who doesnt desire me back as a i am, so what was the point of me thinking about it?"
I found others, and i enjoyed it more than the last one, so chill and keep going. Dont drown in a glass of water.
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shimec
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| Posted: Tue, 2nd May 2017 14:10 Post subject: |
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Thanks guys for giving me advices. It really does help. I feel like crap right now and I think that I would go back to her if she contacted me. I don't want to be the first to contact her as I am still having some degree of pride left in me.
Problem is, that even I am older, I am not very experienced and she was only second girl I was with for a longer period of time. We grew together, learned from each other and now I am scared that I might not find anyone else ever again. I feel like there might not be anyone for me, that I blew my only chance and that gets me down.
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| Posted: Tue, 2nd May 2017 14:31 Post subject: |
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there's always someone better out there
| Lutzifer wrote: | | and yes, mine is only average |
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| Posted: Tue, 2nd May 2017 14:38 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Tue, 2nd May 2017 16:16 Post subject: |
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Learn to let go, holding on to something that is fleeting will eat you up inside.
My 2 cents
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| Posted: Tue, 2nd May 2017 17:00 Post subject: |
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Time heals all wounds. Girlfriends and Wives come and go. Just understand that is a fact and move on. If you have no kids, thats even easier to do. Go out and bang other girls and you will forget about her even quicker.
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shimec
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| Posted: Wed, 3rd May 2017 14:11 Post subject: |
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Wha.. you are fast 
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konkol84
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shimec
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| Posted: Wed, 3rd May 2017 14:38 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Wed, 3rd May 2017 14:40 Post subject: |
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honestly i think you are rushing into something that wont help you, im telling you now what i would tell every friend of mine: dont do it! it will make things worse
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| Posted: Wed, 3rd May 2017 15:34 Post subject: |
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shimec
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| Posted: Wed, 3rd May 2017 15:40 Post subject: |
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I don't know guys. It felt good getting possitive response to calling someone out for a coffee. It's not a date or anything, just a coffee to get to know that person.
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| Posted: Wed, 3rd May 2017 15:44 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Wed, 3rd May 2017 15:54 Post subject: |
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what stormwolf says +1
do your self a favor and dont do it. just meet with good friends to have a good time, not with some random weirdos
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| Posted: Wed, 3rd May 2017 16:03 Post subject: |
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Ok, now that you already asked her and she agreed, don't cancel it like a dick, she may thing something's wrong with her. But don't push it just because she is in some aspects similar to previous girl.
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| Posted: Wed, 3rd May 2017 21:34 Post subject: |
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| shimec wrote: | | I don't know guys. It felt good getting possitive response to calling someone out for a coffee. It's not a date or anything, just a coffee to get to know that person. |
Well at the very least it will take your mind off her and will also fill in the need for romance which I found hurt the most after a break up.
Myself, I've kinda given up on relationships - too many times, girls screwed me over in similar ways - lying, cheating, deceiving, manipulation, etc. No thanks. I thought it would get better as I got older since the girls would grow up too but now they turned into these "I have to be like every other woman" zombies and that bores me to tears and the few that aren't like that, are in long term relationships with guys who realize what treasure they have.
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