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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 01:13 Post subject: Insult? |
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I say to a 36 year old man (fellow raider): "If you hate me boy, then your time in this guild will come to an end soon"
Because i called him boy, i insulted him (apparently)
Now please, i need to seriously know, the word boy in this contex, is this an straight insult towards him or is he over reacting for an 36 year old.
Please no joke about this, i need to seriously know this.
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 01:18 Post subject: |
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Pfff, you really cant expect people to be serious about something for once can ya...
Pathetic..
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 01:20 Post subject: |
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MMO IS A SERIOUS BUSINESS.
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 01:22 Post subject: |
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Not when you are asking in the useless void
Also you said guild and that is a way to auto lose a conversation on the humps
Well, if he was black I could understand it. And as with everything, it's pretty important how you said it to him. In a text chat message or over voice chat? And what the context was etc etc etc
He probably just didn't like anything you said and found this boy to be an angle to come back at you 
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 01:30 Post subject: |
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PumpAction wrote: | Not when you are asking in the useless void
Also you said guild and that is a way to auto lose a conversation on the humps
Well, if he was black I could understand it. And as with everything, it's pretty important how you said it to him. In a text chat message or over voice chat? And what the context was etc etc etc
He probably just didn't like anything you said and found this boy to be an angle to come back at you  |
Basically, we had macro to purge the boss, mine was in /yell (as mine are for the last 2 and half year), he said that i should put it in party chat, wich i refused as he has fuck all to say about it, so i asked him if he has anything against me. On wich he said "yes" and switched teamspeak channel, then i messaged him on ts chat: "If you hate me boy, then your time in this guild will come to an end soon"
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 01:35 Post subject: |
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i think it is colloquial and ok. He might be pissed off because it may show a certain degree of disrespect (because of his age), but fuck it. If he attests to not liking you in actions and when asked directly, he should be able to handle being called "boy" in return.
so, the short version: no, i dont think it counts as an insult.
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 01:46 Post subject: |
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Thanks lutzifer, you said exactly in what i have been trying to tell this guy the whole evening long, but they just cant understand.
Later ill post the whole chat transcript, so you guys can see by yourself how retarded this whole thing is.
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 01:56 Post subject: |
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http://www.vcod.eu/ohgoddrama.html
here the chat, there is just no talking with this guy (wich aint the 36 year old one, this is an actual friend irl that i know for over 2 years now and raid every day with)
I cant understand why he takes his side...
I just dont know what to do anymore, leave everything i worked for the past years. behind?
Ps. god in the transcript is me, its me second pc that monitors and logs everything, hence the "god"
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 02:07 Post subject: |
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sausje wrote: | Pfff, you really cant expect people to be serious about something for once can ya...
Pathetic.. | Yeah, the useless void is just the place for serious threads.
Also, WOW. 
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 02:23 Post subject: |
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Well, i didnt know the right section to put it in.
So i was better safe then sorry 
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 10:41 Post subject: |
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well to me, you are playing a game "in a guild" so doing well together is a plus.. But was there any need for you to use the word "boy" in the way you did..?
I would say NO... you could of just spoke a little bit more natural like As if you were talking to a human being and not a dog you know
People will respond better if you do not open the chance for someone to get butthurt in any shape or form in a gaming environment right? Ive not read most the shit in here so not sure if you mentioned you're age at all. But younger people today use lots of words and such just like its standard output to them, so to the older guys and girls it can seem fucking rude as hell, belittling almost..
I think the right course of action and this goes for general life to would be to engage brain before opening mouth 
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 11:06 Post subject: |
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I would find it offensive and would probably get pissed as well. You could have formulated that sentence much more naturally if you truly didn't mean any offense.
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 13:47 Post subject: |
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its a great insult. calling someone boy or child, i do it a lot when i really want to get to someone just to piss them off (and it usually works )
so yes, its an insult, and a good one at it. well done!
ooh, or kid. calling people kid, that ones good too.
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 14:22 Post subject: Re: Insult? |
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sausje wrote: | I say to a 36 year old man (fellow raider): "If you hate me boy, then your time in this guild will come to an end soon"
Because i called him boy, i insulted him (aperently)
Now please, i need to seriously know, the word boy in this contex, is this an straight insult towards him or is he over reacting for an 36 year old.
Please no joke about this, i need to seriously know this. |
Think he's more irritated by the fact that you assume an authority and say that his behaviour might lead to him getting removed from the guild, all while you seem to be a pretty disliked person in your guild, while he has been there for a while and takes care of people (fatherly figure, from the chatlog).
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 14:28 Post subject: |
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Honestly, a 36 year old man getting wind up about the word "boy" after he "insults" me infront of 18 others by saying he has something against me out loud...
Comeon, you cant be serious that a 36 year old gets that pissed off about the word boy, thats just pathetic. You would expect a 36 year old, to just ignore the situation as he finds it "childish" anyawy. Why does he "lower" himself then by getting offended by something this small.
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 14:41 Post subject: |
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You asked, people answer it's offensive and then you deny it.
It's offensive.
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 14:46 Post subject: |
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iconized wrote: | You asked, people answer it's offensive and then you deny it.
It's offensive. |
Uhm did i say that? I said that i find it stupid that a 36 year old winds himself up about something this little, nothing more nothing less.
Dont put words in my mouth that i didnt say.
wizarD. wrote: | Think he's more irritated by the fact that you assume an authority and say that his behaviour might lead to him getting removed from the guild, all while you seem to be a pretty disliked person in your guild, while he has been there for a while and takes care of people (fatherly figure, from the chatlog). |
Uhm, i play with most guys for 2+ years, he just recently joined (2/3 months ago or so).
And yea, before comming to rift i was officer, i didnt want to be officer anymore, but i still have the fire in me.
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iconized wrote: | You asked, people answer it's offensive and then you deny it.
It's offensive. |
+1
sorry sausje but it is
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 14:49 Post subject: |
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Once more i DONT GODDAMN deny it.
I just state that i find it utterly retarded and fucking childish that an "adult" gets winded up about a stupid word.
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 14:55 Post subject: |
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sausje wrote: | Once more i DONT GODDAMN deny it.
I just state that i find it utterly retarded and fucking childish that an "adult" gets winded up about a stupid word. |
but i guess you meant to insult him by saying it , doesn't really matter if he's an adult or not it's the internet after all where people can rage about anything
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 14:58 Post subject: |
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No, i was pissed off that he makes me look like a fool by saying infront of 18 others that he has something against me.
But when i said those words, i didnt mean to insult him, i meant to warn him. That if he hates/dislikes me, then he can get the fuck out of the guild. Simple as that.
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sausje wrote: | No, i was pissed off that he makes me look like a fool by saying infront of 18 others that he has something against me.
But when i said those words, i didnt mean to insult him, i meant to warn him. That if he hates/dislikes me, then he can get the fuck out of the guild. Simple as that. |
it's ok i mean he insulted you and you replied and imo i find it offensive and wouldn't wanna be called that , i guess he interpreted that way and not the way you meant by saying it
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 15:08 Post subject: |
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Okay having played MMO's myself and having been a guild leader for a year or so - It's quite tiresome, a lot of people seek your attention. - I can say that threatening people in general is a bad idea. If a person misbehaves, you ask this person to stop it. If this person continues, have a little chat with your officers and toss him/her.
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 15:12 Post subject: |
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The thing is that i had my fair share of people bitching at me, they all got kicked eventually.
I have become more or less an icon to the guild, without me raids are boring and quiet, im the one that brings the fun to raids and jokes around even when things are going bad and the motivation of others to down the boss has gone down the drain. Im the one that "forces" people to atleast give it 1 more try when others have given up for that evening (and that payed off in some occasions).
But every now and then, someone has to come around and try to be serious about shit and doesnt want any joking around, so he starts bashing on me.
a few weeks ago, he made a bitch ass long post on the forums, with some key points pointing out towards me (not by name tho), at that point i knew already that this was going to go wrong at some point.
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Posted: Fri, 7th Oct 2011 23:10 Post subject: |
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It's the internet, everything is offensive and serious.
PS. that's one longass chat.
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