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tw1st
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 Posted: Thu, 23rd Jun 2011 17:14 Post subject: Asking this chick out. |
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So there's this girl that works at a store which I visit pretty frequently.
We don't really know each other at all, but were talking a bit the other day, and almost out of the blue she starts telling me about her ex boyfriend. This took me a little by surprise, but I heard her out, she was going on about he was verbally abusive...etc
So, I think she's cute, and a very nice person. However, I don't even know her name or anything about her.
I want to ask her out to coffee or something to get to know her, but I don't know if I should since it seems like it might be kinda creepy because I don't even know her damn name.
"Hey you seem like a very nice girl, I would really enjoy getting some coffee with and and get to know you a little bit better"
So I guess the question is, do I ask this girl out for coffee that I barely know or just back the fuck up?
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Werelds
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Jun 2011 17:20 Post subject: |
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I'd just go for it (I did in fact  ). Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right!
(Dutch version of that proverb is so much better <3)
Oh and if you plan to propose to her, do it on the lake and get yourself a boat at the Loeb Boathouse. It's really beautiful out there!
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Jun 2011 17:20 Post subject: |
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Not half as creepy as starting to talk about ex boyfriends to you if you as you say don't know her. If you have the guts and want to, do it.
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tw1st
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Jun 2011 17:27 Post subject: |
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I think I'm going to see if she is there during my lunch today.
Wish me luck fuckers, if she laughs....
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Jun 2011 17:33 Post subject: |
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fuck her in the butt!
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Jun 2011 17:35 Post subject: |
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take ur phone and ask for a pic 
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ixigia
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Jun 2011 17:55 Post subject: |
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Good  tw1st!
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Jun 2011 18:02 Post subject: |
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| Laurentiu499 wrote: | | fuck her in the butt! |
Let her fuck him in his butt with a strap-on?
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Jun 2011 18:26 Post subject: |
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if this is what turns you on...then of course human_steel. 
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Jun 2011 18:36 Post subject: |
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| tw1st wrote: | I think I'm going to see if she is there during my lunch today.
Wish me luck fuckers, is she laughs... I bury her. |
don't forget it, isn't rape if she says no |
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tw1st
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Jun 2011 19:30 Post subject: |
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rofl, i love your comments guys.
she wasn't there, apparently she's off until July 1st.
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Jun 2011 20:06 Post subject: |
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she read this thread 
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Hierofan
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Jun 2011 20:07 Post subject: |
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Best actual advice i can give. Don't seem like you are begging to hang out with her, using words and body language make it feel like it would be the best fucking thing ever if she went out with you.(i know...revolutionary )
Or you can always feeder that "Watcha doing later?"
her "I dont know"
op "i do"
oooor
Step1: Ask her out  Spoiler: | works better if you are holding a knife and grinning at her |
Step2: Jump over the Tits or GTFO, go straight to Pussy or they will never find the body.
Step3:???
Step4: PROFIT
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Jun 2011 20:16 Post subject: |
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| Hierofan wrote: | Best actual advice i can give. Don't seem like you are begging to hang out with her, using words and body language make it feel like it would be the best fucking thing ever if she went out with you.(i know...revolutionary )
Or you can always feeder that "Watcha doing later?"
her "I dont know"
op "i do"
oooor
Step1: Ask her out | Spoiler: | works better if you are holding a knife and grinning at her |
Step2: Jump over the Tits or GTFO, go straight to Pussy or they will never find the body.
Step3:???
Step4: PROFIT |
Step3: Jizz?
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| Posted: Fri, 24th Jun 2011 05:13 Post subject: |
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ask her, what do you have to lose?
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Hierofan
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| Posted: Fri, 24th Jun 2011 06:07 Post subject: |
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| Yondaime wrote: | Yup, just say you think she's beautiful in a normal non creepy way and ask her out.  What have you got to loose eh? ^^ |
Beautiful? He doesn't know her name. Better try : interesting or nice.
or you could try some duke nukem lines.
SUCK IT DOWN. |
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| Posted: Fri, 24th Jun 2011 09:12 Post subject: |
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I just wanted to throw this out there....
...Talking to strangers (customers) about your abusive ex's isn't exactly healthy behavior. It usually demonstrates a lack of personal boundaries. Lack of boundaries means this person is still trying to overcome their issues and will probably find themselves in the same type of situation with another guy again.
Some of those other issues may include projecting some of those issues onto you. You could find yourself in a potential situation where you might be the abusive ex and find out she is talking to customers about you.
Women just don't find themselves in abusive relationships by accident. They choose guys with bad traits.
Something to think about. Does she have a string of them?
I wanna know what Lutz thinks.
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| Posted: Fri, 24th Jun 2011 11:42 Post subject: |
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Usually, I mean usually, women are quick to categorize men. If they start talking about their ex, and generally others stuff, that they simply want to unload - AND you are a good listener for this, then chances are, you will be put in the friend box forever. You'll end up hearing about all the other bad guys, who fucked her, but you yourself never will, because you're such a good friend.
To avoid this, you have to set yourself up as a potential partner straight away (which holds the risk of failure, sure, but is only the only box you want to be in - because that's where she stores her tits as well). So my first advice is, whenever she brings up the ex, steer the conversation away. The more you talk about the ex, the more you push yourself towards the wrong box. Just say something funny, like you like talking about the future instead, they say it's unknown, what do you think ... etc. Make sure you first date topic are casual, have nothing to do with her past, don't boast, be funny/cocky, but don't over do it. Don't touch her first. Let her touch you first. Also, some women love teasing, but it's a fine balancing act, don't go around insulting her.
Once you're in the potential partner box, you have to still remember: being a gentlemen pays off, and there's a difference, between a beggar, and a gentleman. Sure, you don't have to ask her out, you could TELL her, she's going out ... but you could also start with an introduction, a strong handshake and a good look in her eyes, when doing this. This sets you up as someone with self respect, and someone who values her enough for formal indtroduction. Act like a gentleman, but don't make her feel/think she's the only one you're acting like a gentleman with. This will be great contrast to her abusive ex.
More later, if you want to
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| Posted: Fri, 24th Jun 2011 11:45 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Fri, 24th Jun 2011 11:53 Post subject: |
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somebody's reading too many books.
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| Posted: Fri, 24th Jun 2011 11:55 Post subject: |
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| garus wrote: | | Radicalus, you just made me realize something. I got SHITLOAD of wrong boxes! |
Hehehe, me too. I tried to hook up with some of the best chick in HS, and ended up being their friends instead, and got to hear of how all the guys "treated them like dirt", instead of me treating them in the anus. That's when I decided to take a step back, and research a bit, why girls want instead to be friends, than anything else. As a temporary solution I started dating college girls with shock and awe/cocky tactics - they loved this, and game me a chance, ironically, not because I was such a tough guy, but because they found the act cute of all things (yeah, I know, not exactly a sound plan to begin with, but it did work). So after that, came my just funny period, where some friends and I would go over to some girls to chat them up, I and a friend did most of the funny talking, whilst our thirds friend wasn't talkative. Even though I can say with certainty, that girls loved to chat us up, they usually hooked up with the third friend of ours, who barely said anything, just looked like a cocky bastard in the eyes of the girls we softened up for him. He had this "ï'm fucking you in my mind now" dirty gaze, and women just couldn't have enough of him.
So then I made my final adjustment, and developed my cocky/funny style with much less talking. But before I could enjoy the fruit of this refined style, I fell completely in love, and never looked for other women third year counting now. Maybe my GF is a bigger master at this, and she's still keeping me bedazzled. I don't quite know
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| Posted: Fri, 24th Jun 2011 11:56 Post subject: |
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I can tell from experience that what Radicalus said is true. I made that mistake when I was in high school.
Although I am a guy who likes to listen and to have an actual conversation with a girl I try to avoid it since then, since it most definitely leads into a friend zone. Essentially I have to fake who I am...
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| Posted: Fri, 24th Jun 2011 12:14 Post subject: |
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| BearishSun wrote: | I can tell from experience that what Radicalus said is true. I made that mistake when I was in high school.
Although I am a guy who likes to listen and to have an actual conversation with a girl I try to avoid it since then, since it most definitely leads into a friend zone. Essentially I have to fake who I am... |
Every intelligent person I know, who isn't by chance instinctively great with girls, makes this mistake in high school. Comes with being a decent person.
Don't fake, who you are though, just avoid certain topics like the plague. Keep the conversation pretty shallow and fun. Also, the less she knows about you, the more mysterious you seem. Oddly, the less she tells you, the more mysterious you seem. If you can build trust, while appearing mysterious and adventurous, you're right where you should be. You don't have to pretend for that imho, you just dodge topic till a later time.
If there's no other way, make something silly up, like if you're in a cafetteria, but it's largely empty, then ... whenever she brings up some of those friend zone stuff, get up from your set, make a barricade around your table of other empty chairs, sit back down, and tell he in a funny manner (she will already be guessing wtf you're up to), that you just made a problem free zone. Whenever she and you are here, and the chairs, no bad stuff shall haunt us, like work, exes, parents, etc. Call it the happy zone, or whatever other cheesy name. She'll laugh, and think you're original, and just have a good time with you.
That example worked for me the first (and last) time I tried it, and I came up with it at the spot.
Unless you have a great body (very important for women, no matter what they claim later), or you're an established alpha-male (whcih in HS, the brainless tough guys are), you have to constantly fight the women against placing you in the wrong box. That's just how it is.
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| Posted: Fri, 24th Jun 2011 12:15 Post subject: |
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Maybe before asking her out take it slow and just throw a "by the way, my name is blah" her way next time you guys talk, see if she introduces herself as well, she generally should though when you do it this casual. When you visit the store again get into some smalltalk and indirectly ask her out. Depending on your style (serious/cheerful) do it as an aside comment in the conversation, for instance when you discover that you do certain simmiliar things just burst out "Oh my god, we have so much in common, we totally should hang out some time!!"
Also, I wouldn't see the ex boyfriend thing this negatively, she obviously is interested or she would not tell you all this personal stuff, also maybe it was just her way of saying that she is single at the moment.
I would agree with the other posters though, do not bring up her last relationship at all, and if you make it to a date try to steer the conversation away from this topic.
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| Posted: Fri, 24th Jun 2011 12:22 Post subject: |
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| Xenthalon wrote: | Maybe before asking her out take it slow and just throw a "by the way, my name is blah" her way next time you guys talk, see if she introduces herself as well, she generally should though when you do it this casual. When you visit the store again get into some smalltalk and indirectly ask her out. Depending on your style (serious/cheerful) do it as an aside comment in the conversation, for instance when you discover that you do certain simmiliar things just burst out "Oh my god, we have so much in common, we totally should hang out some time!!"
Also, I wouldn't see the ex boyfriend thing this negatively, she obviously is interested or she would not tell you all this personal stuff, also maybe it was just her way of saying that she is single at the moment.
I would agree with the other posters though, do not bring up her last relationship at all, and if you make it to a date try to steer the conversation away from this topic. |
Imho, of course: I think women like strong introductions, tells them that name means something, and you have confidence in it. I'd say to never introduce yourself with a "btw". Introduce yourself just simply and directly.
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| Posted: Fri, 24th Jun 2011 13:27 Post subject: |
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Things generally flow towards the friend zone, and we want to avoid that.
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