Okay, this is going to be an unusually candid question, I hope you bastards can stay civlized. Since I can't ask my friends (we don't talk about stuff like this), I thought I'd ask here (I get a lot of porn when I google).
I'm going to be married soon (I hope), I had a question about the wedding night. My fiancee is a virgin, I am not. I had sex a couple of times, I doubt I made any girl orgasm (I didn't care). Now my question is, is it best to make a virgin girl orgasm before penetration, or will she lose "appetite" (I have no idea how to word it differently, hornyness?) after an orgasm? Some websites (shady ones) say a virgin girl should be on the verge of an orgasm before penetration to make it as easy as possible. How the hell am I supposed to know that? Is there some kind of orgasm gauge on women I missed? Is it even possible to make a virgin girl orgasm the first time?
You are getting married and you need to ask us what she would like? I know sexual preferences of half of my friends (both male and female).
First of all, if you are getting married, I highly doubt it will matter what you do during the wedding night. I am pretty sure she will take everything you do as pleasant. Second thing, i highly doubt there is a problem in satisfying her before you put your wiwi inside her. Third thing, just ask her.
There is a huge probability it will not work the first time, but it doeasnt mean she cant enjoy it. You know how you have you get her wet, you know you have to go about it slowly, you know she has a clitoris. Well it wants to be stimulated. That is pretty easy, but dont forget the foreplay. it is of utmost importance that she is wet before you move onto the clitoris. If it doesnt work this first time, dont blame yourself, she may need some time to get into the right feeling. You need to know eacht other in this specific area.
The only piece of legitimate advice anyone here can/will give you; speak to her. She's going to be your WIFE, man, your wife! If you need to ask us, random fuckwits on an internet forum, how to please her.... it's going to be an "interesting" marriage. Since you're getting married, it's obvious that she loves you ... so talk to her. Hell, you're half of this relationship and you're going to have your own fears and concerns. So talk to her.
It's going to be an epic night, nonetheless, so do right and talk to each other beforehand.
She never had sex, how will she know whether an orgasm will make it easier or not? That's the problem. Most of my friends are of teh "fuck first, ask questions later" kind, so they are of no help.
To clarify though, my object is not to blow her mind with multiple orgasms her very first time, I highly doubt that'll happen. I was wondering whether having an orgasm first makes the penetration easier. I'm just a bit worried she'll be left with a big "WTF just happened!?" since I doubt she can fully describe what she wants.
She's a virgin mate, I highly doubt she's expecting earth-shattering orgasms her first time .. and you want to know something else? I'll bet you my left nut that she has ALREADY had this very same conversation with HER friends. So talk to her.
Don't overthink it, like you say she probably won't even climax the first time around, what with all the first-timer anxiety and all. You'll have plenty of time to practice, so stop looking on the internet for a walkthrough guide.
Im not sure if you need to go as far as orgasm. Lots and lots of foreplay will make it easier to get inside. Play, fondle etc. Until she is nice and wet, then it should be much easier to give it to her. Just don't force it, take your time.
I honestly like giving my wife an orgasm before i enter her, but its not necessary. I just enjoy doing it.
As a virgin, she's probably under enough pressure as it is. Most girls are insecure in the beginning, so I doubt she's expecting anything like an orgasm the first time. Just take it slow and be gentle. I'm not exactly an expert, but I find that good sex can take a while to achieve - and even the male can have a hard time getting an orgasm at first. Don't sweat it.
the whole "wait till marriage" crap is one thing, but is/was she sexually active in any way before?
cause if not, her orgasm (or getting anywhere near it) should be the least of your worries during that night, simply because it's going to be damn difficult to achieve, repressed sexuality and all that.
take your time, lots of foreplay and then go down on her, combine it with a bit of manual stimulation and you should be good to go.
oh and if you want to do it really really right, postpone the wedding to february 1st, switch the location to japan and after you've done the deed, hang the sheet from your window
I have never taken anyone's virginity before, when I had the chance, I was too afraid of emotional attachment, so up until my twenties I always hooked up with more experienced and somewhat older women than myself. What I know is, that women are at least as stressed about the the event as men are, and those of the women I spoke to, who remember their first time as something pleasurable, say it was pleasurable, because they were communicating with their partner during sex, and thus the penetration took place, when the women were ready for it.
Communication is most important during the event, not only before it.
What I think is also important is not to set goals, just let it come naturally. If she becomes afraid or is unable to orgasm due to clitoral stimulation, don't ever force it, and don't ever act, like you have expectations. The reason most people have anxiety the first time, is because they think their partner has expectations. Be reassuring, even as much as be willing to simply stop and watch a movie or something, if she's too anxious. It isn't written anywhere, that you absolutely must have sex on your wedding night. Just do what feels best and most comfortable for both of you.
As for technicalities, I usually give my girlfriend one or more orgasms with hand or mouth before I penetrate her, because of three main reasons: I love watching her come, then she's way more sensitive after an orgasm, and third her pussy simply feels better after an orgasm (tighter, way more wet).
It isn't written anywhere, that you absolutely must have sex on your wedding night.
Uhhh... you mean OTHER than the bible?
You're right, let me correct my mistake: " It isn't written anywhere relevant (from the point of view of intercourse), that you absolutely must have sex on your wedding night."
Anyway, the only thing you should take away from the bible is the moral and ethical teachings (and even that, you should analyze for yourself), rest is dogmatic shit, that doesn't have any place in the 21st century.
No, the only thing I take from the bible are the pages. To wipe my arse with. That's about all it's good for .... but this isn't the thread for that, I just saw an opportunity to crack wise and couldn't help but take it
I am really having a hard time understanding how you can marry someone you havent slept with!
But imo lead the way, gentle ofc everythings gonna be fine.
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It's not unheard of guys, I'm not sure why it's such a big deal. Lots of couples wait until marriage before making love.
Honestly, in today's world it's best to play it safe. She just might have a penis and on your wedding night it's a bit too late for anything else than to suck it (up).
Well if things don't work out between the sheets, it can result in an unstable relation. Can't be helped in this case. Anyway Mister_s I think it is kinda brave of you to ask this here. I think others already said enough about the subject so I will not comment.
its a great funnny posttttt loll hahha.. on a serious note, "how does she know it will make it better" hahah you fucking think you're girl has not say, played in the bath with the shower head on her vagina? please ffs, and you are about ot marry her?
Seriously just be the gentle animal and tongue her while squeezing her titties till she pops... and yes even after that she will quite happily take it again with ur schlong!.. women like to multiple virgins or not..
good luck, and please dont forget the fucking photos for us all here on the hump, I say set up a camera in the honeymoon suite before hand its a cert popcorn night for us all..
Also, don't believe I was so stupid to forget before, but: does she masturbate? If yes, and who the fuck doesn't, then ask her to give pointers on how you should proceed.
Mister_s, I have witnessed both sides, making my ex orgasm first made sex afterwards more difficult but then it has worked the other way around for other girls.
good luck, and please dont forget the fucking photos for us all here on the hump, I say set up a camera in the honeymoon suite before hand its a cert popcorn night for us all..
It would be rude of me to ask for advice and not show you guys how it worked out. Leaked sextape incoming.
good luck, and please dont forget the fucking photos for us all here on the hump, I say set up a camera in the honeymoon suite before hand its a cert popcorn night for us all..
It would be rude of me to ask for advice and not show you guys how it worked out. Leaked sextape incoming.
heheh lol
you will do fine im sure after all its pretty natural shit teh sex thing...
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