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 Posted: Tue, 26th Oct 2004 23:02 Post subject: Love |
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Hey folks,
As a student, things are really CRAZY, but now, I think Im crazy in love! And, it may be mutual. However, since Im a guy I apparently have to make the first move... and I want to, but its hard. Any ideas what to do? Maybe Im pathetic, but I was thinking of buying a red rose or so and "come out". What would you do?
(PS: Howcome its just in the movies the girls does the first move? And with the first move I mean actually SAYING what you feel!)
Thanks (And try to be serious. Im also ready for jackasses that laugh at this),
Ace
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| Posted: Tue, 26th Oct 2004 23:32 Post subject: |
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[sYn]
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| Posted: Wed, 27th Oct 2004 00:07 Post subject: |
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| [sYn] wrote: | follow your heart, do what that tells you and if your wrong it wasnt meant to be.
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Not necessarily. First impressions can mean alot, maybe they would make a fantastic couple, but he would never find out because he fucks up his first impression. Alot of people are quick to judge others.
My main question is:
How do you know the feeling is mutual?
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Invasor
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| Posted: Wed, 27th Oct 2004 01:08 Post subject: |
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How close are you do her? Are you two friends? If u arent, the first step is to get a little closer, start talking about mutual interests, maybe even classes if you two study together...things like that... You cant wait (to make a move) untill you are real friends, or she might see you as a friend only ... i think the best you can do is to show(or tell) her your interested, in a nice way ofcourse... then ask her out for a movie or something... Something that may work is sending an SMS saying how beautiful she is, and asking her out... girls usually like messages...
But i guess the best advice is dont take it all too serious, if things go wrong, there may be a way to fix it, and if there isnt just move on..
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| Posted: Wed, 27th Oct 2004 04:04 Post subject: |
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Actually, we live at the same place. Are almost neighbours... Share same kitchen...
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| Posted: Wed, 27th Oct 2004 04:05 Post subject: |
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| AnimalMother wrote: | | [sYn] wrote: | follow your heart, do what that tells you and if your wrong it wasnt meant to be.
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Not necessarily. First impressions can mean alot, maybe they would make a fantastic couple, but he would never find out because he fucks up his first impression. Alot of people are quick to judge others.
My main question is:
How do you know the feeling is mutual? |
I dont _know_ it, but.. well, looks etc gives me the feeling... My god this is hard!
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| Posted: Wed, 27th Oct 2004 09:20 Post subject: |
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IMHO the best way to a woman's heart is to make her laugh, and also show a little vulnerability. As you are living in close proximity it could be a blessing, for instance find out how she takes her coffe and surprise her with a cup and a bar of chocolate when she;s had a tough day. Everything in moderation though as you can't appear too eager, and use the chocolate thing wisely or she'll start going on about her weight!
Good Luck
"one thing I could never stomach about Santa Carla, all the damn vampires."
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| Posted: Wed, 27th Oct 2004 09:25 Post subject: |
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Buy her some shiney trinkets of affection.
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MAD_MAX333
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| Posted: Wed, 27th Oct 2004 09:44 Post subject: |
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first off, why dont u ask her out?? go out with her a few times before you say anything about love... love can scare some people off, eVEN if they feel it towards you...
girls don't make the first move toward saying it but they give ALOT of hints about when its the right time... its all about how long u been going out and how well u know her and care for her...
good luck
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(sorry had to say)
you post one and i will post one, deal?
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| Posted: Wed, 27th Oct 2004 11:32 Post subject: |
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Wow, you live with her. What an amazing opportunity, if you really like this girl then you should definitely let her know. You're really lucky that you're living with a person you have such feelings for, are you sure it's not just convenient?
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| Posted: Wed, 27th Oct 2004 12:42 Post subject: |
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I wouldn't get all romantic and get her flowers until you know how she feels as you'll just end up feeling stupid if she doesn't feel the same way. The easiest way to find out if she's interested or not is to just ask her out for a drink or a meal or something (let her decide if you want.) That way, if she isn't interested and says no, you won't feel like a complete fool when you have to see her everyday. If she says yes and you have a good time then you can start getting romantic.
What business is it of yours what I do, read, buy, see, say, think, who I fuck, what I take into my body - as long as I do not harm another human being on this planet? - Bill Hicks
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| Posted: Wed, 27th Oct 2004 16:59 Post subject: |
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Its wierd. At first, when she movied in it was nothing (from my side, not that knew of anyway). However, we had a party here some week ago and I saw her with someone else, and that felt. (now, they didnt do anything, but that was when I realized myself having feelings). And, thinking back, she may have given me hints that she was interested in me aswell, but that I didnt notice back then...
Asking her out seems almost unneccesary thinking of this and what have happend (I havent told you all all the details  ). But, since Im a romantic , I just cant go and tell her like that... (I think). "Waiting for the right moment" is abit far fetched, but I was planing of building one up or so maybe... however, dunno how...
And, no pics of her yet 
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Supino
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| Posted: Wed, 27th Oct 2004 17:54 Post subject: |
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Do the first move as you dont want it to lay off if you care. Just ask her out. Is that such a big deal?
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TheSaint
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Oct 2004 10:20 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Oct 2004 12:28 Post subject: |
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Guys, guys, guys...
That woman you love, will dumb you the NANOSECOND she (for her fucking stupid reasons) stops feeling that way. That woman you love will forget every single thing that makes/used to make your life exciting. That woman you love will fall in love with someone else and completely ignore you for the rest of her life.
Now, I don't suggest you go gay or something (nothing against gays or whatever) but for fucks sake don't say that you (are in) "love". There's no fucking love. People use each other and do each other and forget about it until the next time/victim. Put it this way (cause I don't want to sound offensive towards women), people are weak and change their minds at the blink of an eye.
Just have fun, sex and forget about it cause if you don't it's gonna be YOUR ass that will be suffering, not hers. Women got very strong defenses against things they don't like, regardless of the fact that they used to like them once upon a time.
Good luck
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Oct 2004 13:33 Post subject: |
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yeah, well, I was refering to "common" people, not fucking weirdos
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Oct 2004 13:39 Post subject: |
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It's an example, of course you've heard of girls crying when they get dumped etc.
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Oct 2004 13:45 Post subject: |
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Oh yeah, sure, but mostly I hear about men crying their ass off. I don't say go become a bitch like her, I'm saying take it easy with emotions cause they come with a cost
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spankie
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Oct 2004 17:45 Post subject: |
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great post spankie!
yeah I've had a couple of bad experiences adn I've learned from my mistakes. It can be fun but it can also hurt, so no more love and bullshit for me.
And btw, do not tolerate any pussy that calls you a quiter or something, it's not a game but even if it was the rules should be set by both of you. Do not tolerated being manipulated. Amen
PS I don't have any t-shirt to prove it but I know damn well what I'm talking about
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Oct 2004 18:10 Post subject: |
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Sorry, but sometimes girls do make the first move. Not that often but sometimes they do.
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MAD_MAX333
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Oct 2004 20:39 Post subject: |
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my ex cheated on me and i caught her red handed... then i met my current girlfriend through a friend... we were just friends, she had jsut broken up from a 2 and a half year relationship and wanted to be single, and she kept saying she wanted to stay singal, so i didn't ask her out, but we always chilled together , untill she said she wanted to make things "official" so in fact she DID make the first move....i do belive in love, and i do think feelings change, but anything is possible in this world...
we use to go out as friends to a club and when she would dance with someone it would make me angry , thats when i knew i had strong feelings for her... now she keeps saying i was telling you i wanted to be singal but i wanted you to ask me out and keep trying cause thats how we girls are... i was like OHHHHH okkkk
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| Posted: Fri, 29th Oct 2004 21:55 Post subject: |
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don't force it. get easy. relaxe. be yourself....all these stupid generic answers....why? because that's the truth.
jesus christ was a gangsta rapper. they killed him. he came back and made a platinum album.
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