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Cohen
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I dnno why the fuck im posting this here, probably cos no one else in this world right now might care what i have to say.or maybe its just cos i feel like i have to outcry and let peopel know how i feel, or just get shit off my chest. Fuck knows but i feel like i gotta type about my day it will make me feel better.
I just got off the fone to my GF after an arguement. It was about mine and her going out tomorrow to the local seaside resort. We had an arguement a really shitty one at teh weekend about how she thinks we dont do anything and i dont spend enough money on "US" instead buying designer cloths and spending the rest of the week skint until payday. I agreed n sed i was selfish and we decided to go out. Now she is pissed cos she says she thinks il ask her to pay if my pay check doesnt go in, but i fuckign wont, and it pissed me off. she makes out all this shit like i dont put effort into this relationship when i REALLY fucking do since day one i have. its like 8 months and i love her like shit but she doesnt believe me i swear to god. Another thing that annoys me is that this weekend im going to hers and everyoen at her hosue is going to be out so its just us, i made a joke about how we could have sex and make as much noise as human,ly possible so now she comes off with this shit like i only wanna go cos i can fuck her and nothing else. i meen what the fuck is that shit. it was a fucking joke, cant chicks take jokes these days. She tried to turn it on me when i apologised like some shit about her buying me stuff and i never buy her things when i do... any way man thats the jist it was a slanging match for about 30 mins until she started crying and i said well at least im not scared of loving someone, and she shouts back maybe im not scared maybe i just dont want to. yeah fuckin me that hit me hard like someone just ripped my heart out, u know the feeling when u feel sick and really hot around your eyes and ears, then u start sweating like fuck. so i basically cut the call short and slung on an eminem album to chill me out. shes just SMS mesage me as im writing this im not even gonna read it cos shes fucked me off so hard. Sorry for offloading this on you guys you probly dont give a flying shit but i needed to talk and since theres no one i can talk to apart from her i guess im just in need of some comfort 
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| Posted: Wed, 5th Jul 2006 22:44 Post subject: |
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just kill her and ditch the body somewhere (perhaps frame your best friend?)
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| Posted: Wed, 5th Jul 2006 22:45 Post subject: |
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Jenni
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| Posted: Wed, 5th Jul 2006 22:54 Post subject: |
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I gotta admit that if a lad said to me "when we're alone together you can make as much noise as you want" I would be a little pissed off too.
Then again the way you put it she's not putting much effort into the relationship as you. If it was true love, then both of you would do that. I gotta admit that from her perspective, she doesn't think it is.
Then again, hearing her side of the story may be completely different.
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Cohen
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| Posted: Wed, 5th Jul 2006 23:02 Post subject: |
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no ofense to women right now but i swear yoru all part of a click that attention seeks more than a grade A OCD sufferer with the security of a cobweb padlock
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Jenni
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| Posted: Wed, 5th Jul 2006 23:38 Post subject: |
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Not that at all. We just think differently. Men are a lot simpler than men. When I say simple, I don't mean less in the old grey matter dept. I mean easier to figure out.
Like I said though, if you feel she's not putting her all into the relationship and only you will know that, then maybe even though it hurts like hell. it may be time to move on.
I firmly believe that you only ever have one true love in life. It's better to go looking for that one true love, than pretending that you've already found her.
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[sYn]
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| Posted: Thu, 6th Jul 2006 01:04 Post subject: |
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| compubrain3000 wrote: | Well, the girl obviously feels insecure about the relationship, maybe you don't show you care enough. Girls need security in a relationship, they need to feel that the relationship is going somewhere. When you spend all your money on yourself, you're totally giving away the wrong signal.
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I think you should tell her how much you love her and that you are serious about the relationship ...  |
I agree with what is above, but I did remove two bits which in my eyes are, for want of better words, total shit.
"and that you are actually willing to change"
YOU SHOULD NEVER CHANGE WHO YOU ARE FOR ANYONE. PERIOD.
A person should love you, for you, not for what they want you to be or expect you to be. If this isnt the case then you are not with the right person. Trust me, I've had a huge amount of experience with women, and found that many of them are generally out to "make you" into something you are not, the one who doesn't want to do that, is the one you should marry.
Now don't take the above the wrong way, if your a lazy, uncaring ass then maybe you do need to rethink who you are in order to find a good woman.. I have always been a PC addict, they're my life and I need the girl Im with to understand that spending 10 hours a day at my PC is part of who I am.. but that girl needs attention, so I compromise and constantly check to see if I can do things for her, when I am at my machine. We try to do everything as a couple, even when Im playing games I constantly get her involved, even if its only me telling her whats going on.. that kind of change is not bad.. If she said "no more computers" ... she would be slung.
I asked my girl about the "loud sex thing" and she said she wouldn't be offended at all, maybe thats because she knows I joke a lot, or maybe she is simply an awesome girlfriend  !
Now for my 2cents on the matter... Your girl is totally insecure, you need to establish why, is it due to you? Is it due to another relationship? Is it due to some kind of mental illness (this shit happens LOTS)? Have you asked her... maybe its time you stopped trying to persuade her your in love by screaming it at her, and began talking to her about how she feels?
How old are you both by the way, I hate bringing age into things, but at times it does matter.. maturity has huge effects on how relationships work, and also if they're worth it
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| Posted: Thu, 6th Jul 2006 01:20 Post subject: |
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| [sYn] wrote: | | compubrain3000 wrote: | Well, the girl obviously feels insecure about the relationship, maybe you don't show you care enough. Girls need security in a relationship, they need to feel that the relationship is going somewhere. When you spend all your money on yourself, you're totally giving away the wrong signal.
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I think you should tell her how much you love her and that you are serious about the relationship ... |
I agree with what is above, but I did remove two bits which in my eyes are, for want of better words, total shit.
"and that you are actually willing to change"
YOU SHOULD NEVER CHANGE WHO YOU ARE FOR ANYONE. PERIOD.
A person should love you, for you, not for what they want you to be or expect you to be. If this isnt the case then you are not with the right person. Trust me, I've had a huge amount of experience with women, and found that many of them are generally out to "make you" into something you are not, the one who doesn't want to do that, is the one you should marry.
Now don't take the above the wrong way, if your a lazy, uncaring ass then maybe you do need to rethink who you are in order to find a good woman.. I have always been a PC addict, they're my life and I need the girl Im with to understand that spending 10 hours a day at my PC is part of who I am.. but that girl needs attention, so I compromise and constantly check to see if I can do things for her, when I am at my machine. We try to do everything as a couple, even when Im playing games I constantly get her involved, even if its only me telling her whats going on.. that kind of change is not bad.. If she said "no more computers" ... she would be slung.
I asked my girl about the "loud sex thing" and she said she wouldn't be offended at all, maybe thats because she knows I joke a lot, or maybe she is simply an awesome girlfriend !
Now for my 2cents on the matter... Your girl is totally insecure, you need to establish why, is it due to you? Is it due to another relationship? Is it due to some kind of mental illness (this shit happens LOTS)? Have you asked her... maybe its time you stopped trying to persuade her your in love by screaming it at her, and began talking to her about how she feels?
How old are you both by the way, I hate bringing age into things, but at times it does matter.. maturity has huge effects on how relationships work, and also if they're worth it |
Compromise is better word than change. I agree
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Thu, 6th Jul 2006 05:55 Post subject: |
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Man, if she's that wacked, you gotta re-evaulate your relationship. Do you want to be in a relationship with some insecure woman who bitches at you?
And, no offense, she sounds like a fuckin gold digger. Bitching about the money you spend on her? right there man, if it were me, i'd drop her.
I dont know about you, but i dont want to be expected to do anything. I do things for my girlfriend because I want to, not because they expect me to. Know what im saying?
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Jenni
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| Posted: Thu, 6th Jul 2006 06:01 Post subject: |
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That's the feeling I get too Sycho. I mean it's great having a man spend money on you, but when you're not married or living together it's a privilege not a right. That all changes when you're either living together or married.
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Thu, 6th Jul 2006 06:05 Post subject: |
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| Jenni wrote: | | That's the feeling I get too Sycho. I mean it's great having a man spend money on you, but when you're not married or living together it's a privilege not a right. That all changes when you're either living together or married. |
Yeah, its totally different if your supporting one another. My money was my wife's money you know?
See, its the little things. When the cheque comes, does she offer or make the attempt to pay? will she offer to pay for drinks at the bar? etc not that I play it like that all the time. But sometimes, i do. I wait to see if they expect me to pay. If they do, the date is short. If they dont, then they get the works |
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Jenni
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| Posted: Thu, 6th Jul 2006 06:09 Post subject: |
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Yeah. Fair enough if she's not earning a wage or she's not on a lot. Then pay. But if she has any feelings for him she won't expect it. She certainly won't demand it.
P.S.
I thought Canadians spelt it Check?
Ahh another thing I've learnt today and it's only 5am.
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Thu, 6th Jul 2006 06:11 Post subject: |
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| Jenni wrote: | Yeah. Fair enough if she's not earning a wage or she's not on a lot. Then pay. But if she has any feelings for him she won't expect it. She certainly won't demand it.
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I thought Canadians spelt it Check?
Ahh another thing I've learnt today and it's only 5am.
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Naw, ive always written it as 'cheque'...that is the correct word. Check is not proper grammar...least from what i recall from my school days. |
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Demonium
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Jenni
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| Posted: Thu, 6th Jul 2006 06:18 Post subject: |
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Isn't cheque originally English.
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Demonium
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| Posted: Thu, 6th Jul 2006 06:20 Post subject: |
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Beats me, sounds a bit french to me.
jenni <3
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Jenni
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| Posted: Thu, 6th Jul 2006 06:22 Post subject: |
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It's the correct way to spell it in the UK.
Although que does sound French.
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| Posted: Thu, 6th Jul 2006 06:32 Post subject: |
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We've adapted the English spelling since the beginning of time. Since we were nothing but a wee colony
Just like colour and many others.  grey, sulphur... etc 
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Jenni, Demonium,
It doesn't sound French.
It just reads French.
The que... if you said cheque sounds French in the days where the English loathed the French... you'd have you pecker stuck in a vice while they behead your entire family, starting with your mother in law.
We're just two lost souls swimming in a fish bowl, year after year, running over the same old ground. What have we found? The same old fears. Wish you were here.
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| Posted: Thu, 6th Jul 2006 06:42 Post subject: |
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| SycoShaman wrote: | | Jenni wrote: | | That's the feeling I get too Sycho. I mean it's great having a man spend money on you, but when you're not married or living together it's a privilege not a right. That all changes when you're either living together or married. |
Yeah, its totally different if your supporting one another. My money was my wife's money you know?
See, its the little things. When the cheque comes, does she offer or make the attempt to pay? will she offer to pay for drinks at the bar? etc not that I play it like that all the time. But sometimes, i do. I wait to see if they expect me to pay. If they do, the date is short. If they dont, then they get the works |
Jenni and syco
I meant to put the money thing in my post but I forgot, it was so long already. Totally true. People have to live within their means. Personally, I think the treats in the relationship should be small. I am very uncomfortable if a guy spends money on me. Unless I know the guy really well my first thought is “what do you want, what are you after” or “what is your game”
You can't be a bitch or an asshole guy expecting something that is outta your reach. This is the real world, not everyone is driven in limos and lives the big life.
EVEN IF YOU ARE MARRIED.
Even those that can afford the big life often don't. They just attract the gold diggers who will drain them dry. Rich men have certain expectations, these women don’t understand this. They watch too much TV. Expectations that can be extreemly high. Then they complain about it after.
Married, well everything is pretty much shared. If you are a girlfriend really you are nothing. Go out and pay for your own shit. If it is your birthday maybe that is different, or a special occasion and the guy wants to, but no one should ever expect anything from anyone else boyfriend/girlfriend or not. That is just poor manners.
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| Posted: Thu, 6th Jul 2006 06:53 Post subject: |
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Grrrrrrrrrr! BC sucks!
We're just two lost souls swimming in a fish bowl, year after year, running over the same old ground. What have we found? The same old fears. Wish you were here.
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MUWAHAHAHHAHAHAAHAHAHAHA
We're just two lost souls swimming in a fish bowl, year after year, running over the same old ground. What have we found? The same old fears. Wish you were here. |
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Jenni
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My cat Lager:
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