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fisk
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 Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 04:35 Post subject: How important is a parents birthday? |
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I've been, what shall we say? Quite busy with studies, and the parent of my girlfriend ending up in cancer, + that we're about to move to a new apt. and lots of stuff.
Anyway, apparently my mother had her birthday yesterday, and she called my girlfriend and told her that she was disappointed, because remembering your mothers birthday is a matter of honor, and that there's no excuse to miss it.
I think it's rather human, and I would've brought this idea up to her when I call her (now, it's too late in the night for that).
So what are your opinions? Is a mother allowed to "be the most disappointed she's been ever in her life" that a son doesn't call on her birthday?
I just don't know, maybe it is. My stance is that it's a human thing. I'm a bit sorry about it, but I can't really say it's the end of the world or anything.
Yes, yes I'm back.
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 04:43 Post subject: |
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It obviously meant a lot to her. She probably thinks of you everyday and is probably more upset at the harsh reality that you don't think of her everyday, least of all when it should be most obvious.
Also the comment about "the most disappointed she's been ever in her life", well it depends on who you are. Maybe you've just been a geek all your life and caused her no grief so it might be true.
I once forget my dad's b-day when I was younger (about 7 or something) but now it's impossible to forget (11/09).
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kosmiq
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 05:06 Post subject: |
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Guess it ment a lot to her. Maybe you don't see eachother much and she was looking forward to see you coming to see her on her birhtday?
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fisk
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 05:07 Post subject: |
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I think I might've been a tad bit egoistic when it comes to it. And yes, I think you're right in more ways that I could imagine. I haven't missed her birthday any time before, but that's it really.
According to the GF, she was really really pissed when she called the house. So, it meant a lot to her, and that's what I'm more concerned about, actually. Who wants to hurt their mother intentionally?
The birthday means very little to me, but her emotions means more.
Yes, yes I'm back.
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fisk
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 05:08 Post subject: |
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| kosmiq wrote: | | Guess it ment a lot to her. Maybe you don't see eachother much and she was looking forward to see you coming to see her on her birhtday? |
She knew I couldn't come. I've got a whole damn lot going on right now in my life, and she knows that.
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[sYn]
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 05:22 Post subject: |
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i *NEVER* celebrated my parents birthdays.. now one of them is dead.. I regret it.
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Esel_Gesi
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 05:22 Post subject: |
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| fisk wrote: | ...
The birthday means very little to me, but her emotions means more. |
Fact of the matter is that you made a mistake. Just call her up tomorrow to apologize and offer up a day where you take her out to dinner or something to spend some quality time with her. That should make her forget you forgot  After that just simply dont forget again. |
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Jenni
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 06:29 Post subject: |
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I make it a point not to remember my mothers birthday as I hate her guts lol.
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 07:12 Post subject: |
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| Jenni wrote: | | I make it a point not to remember my mothers birthday as I hate her guts lol. |
well therefore you must remember it otherwise you wouldn't know what you're forgetting! |
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 11:45 Post subject: |
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| Jenni wrote: | | I make it a point not to remember my mothers birthday as I hate her guts lol. |
second that |
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 13:51 Post subject: |
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it takes a few minutes to write a card or make a phone call
surely shes worth it
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fisk
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 14:03 Post subject: |
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Already did.
Went well.
Yes, yes I'm back.
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 14:23 Post subject: |
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good, glad it went well m8
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 14:45 Post subject: |
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Hell I can't even remember the date yet alone someones birthday ! (except mine ofcourse MMMONEYMONEYMONEYMONEEEEEY!)
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 15:01 Post subject: |
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| Nailbiter wrote: | | JeanPerrier wrote: | | Jenni wrote: | | I make it a point not to remember my mothers birthday as I hate her guts lol. |
second that |
why dont you like jennis mom?  |
you know why  |
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| Posted: Sun, 5th Mar 2006 16:04 Post subject: |
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A belated gift and an explanation of why you've been busy should smooth things over a bit. And if you can find some time to spend with her that should go a long way.
Anyway my parents don't even know what date my birthday is. They're not even sure how old I am. seriously.
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deelix
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Bigperm
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Mar 2006 17:02 Post subject: |
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It totally depends on your relationship with your mother. Ive forgot to call a couple times, i made it up. no real biggie. And my parents are very busy, bouncing around the world so they miss mine all the time. But we know that each other cares about each other, and that we are thinking of them. And if we miss it, we do feel sorry.
But on the other hand my ex-gf mother freaks out if even her birthday card is late. I couldnt understand this becasue of how my family is. But her mom would be in tears if the card was late. And if we didnt phone in the morning, oh brother. She would never let us live it down.
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