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 Posted: Sun, 9th Oct 2016 21:54 Post subject: GF is an oversharer on facebook |
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Am i an idiot for finding this a deal breaker? I don't want everyone to know every miniscule detail about her and her illness. She wants to be progressive because it's taboo to talk about it and i say fuck that. Said it before that i don't like it that everyone and their dog knows every damn detail about her life and her illeness, but it started pretty mild with the sharing and we agree'd that one post was ok since it was vague on explicit details. Got worse, lot worse and for me it's not ok at all.
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| Posted: Sun, 9th Oct 2016 21:58 Post subject: |
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Key word here is: her.
She's sharing personal details about herself and her illness, not about you and your private parts.
Not only that but it might also be therapeutic for her to be so open about whatever her illness is.
As long as she's not sharing pictures of your ding-dong, I don't see the problem.
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| Posted: Sun, 9th Oct 2016 21:59 Post subject: |
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Well, i expected such a reply as that it one way to look at it. I guess we're just not compatible if she finds it necessary to share everything about her in such a fashion. It pisses me off to be honest.
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| Posted: Sun, 9th Oct 2016 22:22 Post subject: |
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The way I look at it:
She's allowed to share as much as she wants about her illness or her life, and you're allowed to break up with her if that's not how you roll.
It's just a situation where you're both within your rights to act this way, and you each have to decide if you want to compromise or not. She has to decide if she wants to reduce/stop the sharing, you have to decide if you want to tolerate the sharing. If there's no compromise, there's nothing wrong in just breaking it off.
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| Posted: Sun, 9th Oct 2016 22:23 Post subject: |
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Yep, i agree. I told her i'm ok with it in general, just without explicit details. She's not budging, and it's not looking good. apparently attention whoring has become more important than a relationship with me.
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| Posted: Sun, 9th Oct 2016 22:32 Post subject: |
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I was in a relationship with a blogger and she was mostly writing about her illness but would also now and then mention me in there. Suffice to say I wasn't too happy about it and if it weren't for other stuff I would have broken it off with her just because of that blogging (as I wasn't comfortable being mentioned in it).
So I do get your situation (sort of) but at the same time I know that for the woman I was in a relationship at that point it was her way of venting.
And I also agree with Kanint.
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| Posted: Sun, 9th Oct 2016 22:51 Post subject: |
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She can surely vent without mentioning explicit details. She has her limits for what she wants to share, but refuses to acknowledge mine. And the way i think, the more she posts the more confident she gets which makes her post even more details.
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| Posted: Sun, 9th Oct 2016 23:28 Post subject: |
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Worked it out. Phew. She only shared it with her close friends. Being inept at facebook was no advantage this evening.
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3E74
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| Posted: Sun, 9th Oct 2016 23:58 Post subject: |
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your girlfriend is on facebook?
jeez get a real one, that doesnt need this shit, my GF doesnt use it, me neither and all is fine, so much less stress 
get a real life....
(or at least an fake facebook account, if u really have to lurke around there)
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| Posted: Mon, 10th Oct 2016 00:00 Post subject: |
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Like i said, all the sensitive stuff was only shared with her close friends. That doesn't bother me at all. Being inept at facebook i thought she shared with all "friends"
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| Posted: Mon, 10th Oct 2016 03:41 Post subject: |
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At least you dont have one of those chicks who uploads a million selfies with boob cleveage and tricked angles all the time. FUCK, i had one who uploaded selfies all the time, most annoying thing ive faced because of the possible reasons (the one i knew for sure was insecurity, couldnt help her either).
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| Posted: Mon, 10th Oct 2016 10:20 Post subject: |
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Gf's brother is that person. I don't envy him his situation in the slightest.
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Karmeck
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| Posted: Mon, 10th Oct 2016 11:03 Post subject: |
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My gf also have an illness, this one since birth. But she don't post about it. But I don't get why it bothers you that she dose. Are you ashamed? I would be happy if my gf could talk openly about her life on Facebook. Her illness is a big part of her life even more now then she gets help for it 30h a week. Only day she has "off" is Friday. Her mom don't know about this and that just feels wrong to me.
Be happy she is so open about it.
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Nalo
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| Posted: Mon, 10th Oct 2016 12:19 Post subject: |
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Last edited by Nalo on Wed, 3rd Jul 2024 06:02; edited 2 times in total
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| Posted: Mon, 10th Oct 2016 16:35 Post subject: |
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| Stormwolf wrote: | | Worked it out. Phew. She only shared it with her close friends. Being inept at facebook was no advantage this evening. |
As long as it's close friends, I'd be okay with it as well. But women/girls who constantly use Facebook as an ego-crutch ... BIG deal breaker.
My brother actually got depressed since he's single and has befriended so many people he knows and constantly sees them posting all the fantastic stuff they're doing. I told him he shouldn't pay any attention to it - it's all exaggerations and boasting and people who have a need to boast about what they're doing are usually not actually happy about their life and are looking for confirmation from others.
My neighbours who live below me constantly post the "sweetest" Facebook messages yet they fight every other night, shouting, yelling, throwing stuff yet you won't find that on Facebook. Facebook shows a perverted reality where all the negatives are hidden and all the positives are widely smeared open for everyone to gawk at.
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Nalo
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| Posted: Mon, 10th Oct 2016 20:11 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Tue, 11th Oct 2016 00:21 Post subject: |
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Hey come on, everyone is happy and rich in facebook
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| Posted: Tue, 11th Oct 2016 00:25 Post subject: |
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Last edited by Interinactive on Mon, 4th Oct 2021 10:26; edited 1 time in total
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| Posted: Tue, 11th Oct 2016 01:14 Post subject: |
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| red_avatar wrote: | | Facebook shows a perverted reality where all the negatives are hidden and all the positives are widely smeared open for everyone to gawk at. |
Word.
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| Posted: Tue, 11th Oct 2016 02:00 Post subject: |
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| Stormwolf wrote: | | Am i an idiot for finding this a deal breaker? I don't want everyone to know every miniscule detail about her and her illness. She wants to be progressive because it's taboo to talk about it and i say fuck that. Said it before that i don't like it that everyone and their dog knows every damn detail about her life and her illeness, but it started pretty mild with the sharing and we agree'd that one post was ok since it was vague on explicit details. Got worse, lot worse and for me it's not ok at all. |
fuck her in the butt |
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| Posted: Tue, 11th Oct 2016 08:29 Post subject: |
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If you like your GF in general, I'd consider this a tiny, tiny issue. I'm struggling to understand why you think her sharing something about HERSELF on FB - is somehow your business?
Help me out, here.
If she's sharing personal information about YOU - then it's another matter entirely.
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tonizito
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| Posted: Tue, 11th Oct 2016 11:31 Post subject: |
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Just tell her again, it pisses you off, it makes you feel irritated or just simple: it makes you feel in a "-" way. If she won't change and it still makes you feel irritated part ways.
It doesn't matter if it's facebook or twitter, or the new mafia game.....if it irritates you that she plays it in 30 FPS and that thing is so important for you then its a relationship breaker (even if that thing might look very absurd for an outsider).
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Danyutz
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| Posted: Tue, 11th Oct 2016 17:56 Post subject: |
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I like LeoNatan's idea. If you encounter resistance, then follow Interinactive's idea, then follow LeoNatan's idea.
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| Posted: Tue, 11th Oct 2016 19:05 Post subject: |
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| Danyutz wrote: | | I like Bob's idea. |
Thanks my boy.
What is your avatar about though.
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