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 Posted: Sat, 25th Apr 2015 23:21 Post subject: Am I crazy to think it's weird ? |
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So my gf and her best friend ever since(she hates me) are members of this weird reddit like polish blog site. And they are meeting with random people from this site for beer or whatever random parties (I hate that stupid site and would not go with her even if she asked me to, they use stupid words for normal things and seem like bunch of reddit/9gag idiots).
Now. I am with her almost 7 years and her best friend was with her boyfriend 5 years and she dumped him like 6 months ago. Now I am seeing a coincidence with her joining that fucktard site, meeting new people, going to one party after another etc.
My gf says that it's not connected and says I am crazy to think that men on this site invite other people (girls) for beer just for fun and to party. I say that men always seek what men seek and just fun party is never only that. If those guys from that site don't have significant other, ofc they willl invite other girls for a beer.
Now, for some time there is this 20yo dude (yep, I am 26, my gf and her friend are 25) who according to my gf, have a thing for my gf's friend. That's ok, she dumped her bf 6 months ago...
Now, they are watching movies together (apparently this dude, my gf and her friend) and are meeting from time to time. My gf, her friend and that 20yo dude.
Yesterday, that dude invited my gf's friend and my gf, for the beer.
And my question is... on what fucking world, does 20yo dude meets alone with two 25yo girls !? What is this, I don't even. if that dude have a thing for my gf's friend, meet her alone ffs. Srslt, it must be one awesome dude, if they meet with him and are watching movies together. My gf and her friend always've been saying that they like older dudes. That's why my gf is with me as I am older than she is,
Yesterday my gf finished work at 2 o clock and they meet at restaurant for beer (younger dude, my gf and her friend) and they finished meeting after 9pm. How fucking long can 1 dude talk and drink beer with 2 older girls.
I guess it's nothing and I am crazy but I don't like this at all. I never was a beer or party guy. mostly a domestic dude. My gf too (at least until she joined that site). I get it that this dude is having a crush for friend of my gf but I still don't like this. Maybe my gf, will see that, her friend dumped old boyfriend and is now meeting this super cool handsome younger guy and I am afraid that she might start thinking "I am with this fucker for almost 7 years... he is boring and got some weight and this other dude is so handsome blahblahblah"
OFc she is saying that I am still the best and she just like to drink a beer with friend and talk with other people from time to time. I guess it's normal but why I am paranoid?
Afterall, I did really great in past year. Things are really moving. i got a car, new fantastic job position, buying my own flat etc etc... I don't think I even look all that bad  And it's not really that I am afraid she will dump me. I just don;t like the situation of 20yo dude meeting 25yo girls and drinking/talking for 7 hours straight. wtf He is either the luckiest guy on the earth (my gf friend is nice looking girl) or my gf's friend is desperate and my gf is dragged along for company
edit: On the side note, Maybe girls like those younger well built idiots ? there is that guy (yoounger than me) at my work. He is a complete fucking moron. Everything he says just provokes me to strangle him to death. I am higher than him in hierarchy so it;s still ok But the strange is, that besides me and few people, everyone just loves him. Especially women at my workplace. I just can't imagine how can they talk to him and not see an idiot exploding with idiocy oh... women...
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| Posted: Sat, 25th Apr 2015 23:31 Post subject: |
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You two are together for seven years. If you can or cannot trust your girlfriend, you should know by now. I can recommend that you do not be the jealous type. It seems that you are. Don't check her every step, don't go in the crazy scenarios your mind, don't overthink it. If you can't trust your girlfriend after seven years, it is time to end it. If you can, why are you worried? Isn't it in your brain? A lot of people do like to go out and drink a beer. If you are not like that, she knows that after seven years, and has still chosen to be with you. If she does, and you don't, you have to let her do what she likes. Don't be the possessive jealous asshole boyfriend that second guesses every step she makes.
Instead of obsessing like that, you should find a hobby. You never know, she might like it too, and decide to spend the time on your mutual hobby instead of a bear with her friends. Or not, and that is good too. Me time and us time is good for relationships, and partners being able to give space to their loves ones is essential.
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| Posted: Sat, 25th Apr 2015 23:36 Post subject: |
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tell her this: "listen bitch. stop that shit or get out of my life"
something will happen sooner or later. let it be the alcohol, rape or she is just a slut... anything can happen.
my gf would never go to meet some dudes alone. unacceptable. if she wants to... good luck but im outa here bitch. same goes for me. i would never meet some bitches alone and get all wasted and stuff. it has nothing to do with trust issues but rather with respect.
| Quote: | | Don't check her every step, don't go in the crazy scenarios your mind, don't overthink it. |
she is a woman afterall. if u don't do stuff like this she will play some childish games on you until u dump her
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| Posted: Sat, 25th Apr 2015 23:38 Post subject: |
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With a retard like you, dumping you is the best thing she can do for her life.
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| Posted: Sat, 25th Apr 2015 23:46 Post subject: |
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Words of wisdom leona!
Our relationship was pretty great for last 7 years. She loves me and is never jealous. She is intelligent and pretty. And I do trust her because I know she is smart person and would not lie to me cause it would make no sense. It's just my god damn brain makes irrational thoughts. It's kinda like some of my unwanted ocd behaviours (which I need to treat too). And we do talk pretty openly about everything.
We don't share many hobbies tho. She likes books and listens to rock. I play games and listen to chiptune. She hates both of those but is very tolerable. I just tell her, that I want to play a video game and relax this evening and she will not say a word. She also encourages me to go and play after she goes to sleep, when we are together. We both understand that each other need some time alone for their hobbies and that's great. What we do together is pretty standard - movies at home, cinema, restaurants, walks etc. She won't even hiss about me buying stupid (to her) stuff like oculus rifts, audiophille gear, etc etc.
I can do anything and she won't have a problem with it... I do allow her for everything too (because who I am to not allow something, it would be stupid) but I do feel uncomfortable with some situations like described in first post.
But recently she is always tired after work, don't have much times for me and hell.. I invited her for furious 8 (we love those stupid ass movies and waited for this one) but she was too tired after work, which is again - understandable... but she had no problem going for a beer with that dude and girl friend two days later, also after work.
edit: In a way, she is last of it's kind, a perfect girlfriend. Pretty, intelligent, not jealous ever, tolerable, says she loves me etc etc etc. Every friend I talk to only bitches about their gf's being jealous cunts
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| Posted: Sat, 25th Apr 2015 23:52 Post subject: |
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But you see the irrational here, right? She was tired on one day, but wasn't on the other. Did you ask her on another occasion to go and see the movie? Be persistent without being annoying. Maybe she was tired?
If you see a pattern of her being cold to you, after seven years together, you should just talk to her. This is the peak of intimacy, being able to speak with your loved one about anything without the fear of shock or rejection. Ask her what she feels like. If you feel there is a change in the relationship for the worse, what is the problem with sitting and talking? Sit down one some morning and talk about it. Maybe she has something on her mind.
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| Posted: Sat, 25th Apr 2015 23:56 Post subject: |
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Sure I will do that.
And she could just be tired that day. She works in post office and some days are really bad from what she describes.
I do talk with her about everything but maybe not so much as in early years. true.
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| Posted: Sun, 26th Apr 2015 00:00 Post subject: |
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Also consider for looking for shared hobbies. Traveling, sightseeings, theater. Something to spice things up. It's also OK to have separate interests, nothing wrong with that.
Good luck to you!
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| Posted: Sun, 26th Apr 2015 01:07 Post subject: |
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lol leo is spot on.
but usually if you spot a change in behaviour then you need to address it.
the relationship w/ the other girl and the boy and the break up... it was meant to happen. some people settle and once the right thing comes along or the idea of the right thing then people jump in and make their choices.
You have nothing to worry about. Unless you give yourself reasons to worry about, as you have already done. Damage has been done. Live with it. Don't fuck it up because of insecurities and for fucks sake join them! maybe a proper social life will stop you from being the retard you are. 
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| Posted: Sun, 26th Apr 2015 02:16 Post subject: |
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and no wonder you think she's going to leave you...
a relationship is a two way street.
if you think her social activities are retarded someone else may not.
that someone else may urge her to go out more, be more social, have more fun and ditch the loser who insults her hobbies.
like are you fucking retarded? I sure hope you don't give her lip when she makes fun of the shit you like, because if you are... that 7 year old relationship is going to end quickly and rightfully so.
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| Posted: Sun, 26th Apr 2015 02:39 Post subject: |
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[size=100000000000]t[/size]l;dr
| WaldoJ wrote: | and no wonder you think she's going to leave you...
a relationship is a two way street.
if you think her social activities are retarded someone else may not.
that someone else may urge her to go out more, be more social, have more fun and ditch the loser who insults her hobbies.
like are you fucking retarded? I sure hope you don't give her lip when she makes fun of the shit you like, because if you are... that 7 year old relationship is going to end quickly and rightfully so. |
so right.
"Enlightenment is man's emergence from his self-imposed nonage. Nonage is the inability to use one's own understanding without another's guidance. This nonage is self-imposed if its cause lies not in lack of understanding but in indecision and lack of courage to use one's own mind without another's guidance. Dare to know! (Sapere aude.) "Have the courage to use your own understanding," is therefore the motto of the enlightenment."
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| Posted: Sun, 26th Apr 2015 07:16 Post subject: |
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I mean I dont insult her hobbies. Just dont share them.
Abd what do You mean to give a lip ?
And I am most certaimly not a looser. Thats just my character and she accepts is. Otherwise she wouldnt be with me I guess
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| Posted: Sun, 26th Apr 2015 09:51 Post subject: |
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He wants to bang both od them and seems to be on the right track... Just some ruffies after one od those already usual Beer parties and bam! Be a man and go fuck him up!
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| Ankh wrote: | 20 and 25...you call that age difference?  im 43 and my gf 25  |
Doesn't count when you have sexy hobo powers though...
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| Posted: Sun, 26th Apr 2015 14:21 Post subject: |
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| Ankh wrote: | | 20 and 25...you call that age difference? im 43 and my gf 25 |
Hey Ankh how went your 15 year anniversary party? Did she like the ear rings? |
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| Invasor wrote: | | just came to say waldo is right. |
Heavy Metal FUKK her in the butt. |
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| Sin317 wrote: | | I win, you lose. Or Go fuck yourself. |
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