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 Posted: Fri, 14th Nov 2014 15:36 Post subject: Re: Commenting other women to the GF |
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| Acer wrote: | So I commented the recent Kim Kardashian pics to my gf earlier today. She said how much she couldnt stand the faux celebrity star and I texted her back saying that I didnt mind the pics which made her quite mad and hurt.
My gf is quite sensible though so there were no drama, she just replied a few hours later that she didnt like my comment and that it hurt her.
Im torn when it comes to stuff like this though, I really dont wanna hurt her as I love her very much but at the same time I dont wanna censure myself too much and feel like im afraid to say some things because of my gfs reaction.
Im just venting abit, how do you guys handle it? Are you completely whipped when it comes to stuff like this or are you more rebelious like me 
also, why does Kim Kardashian have such an ass  |
Your GF feeling hurt is a sign of her immaturity, not yours. The more you give into that behaviour, the more you'll push yourself in a corner where you'll feel like you'll need to watch your every word and trust me, that's not good. I had a gf like that for over a year and in the end, it did far more damage than simply speaking my mind would have.
Basically, talk with her, explain to her that there's a difference between admiring another girl's body - which is ENTIRELY natural - and being unfaithful. It's gonna be better in the long run for her to understand how guys work than trying to change your human nature and the more you allow for her jealousy, the worse it's going to get.
Incidentally, I hate Kim Kardashian and don't find her ass all that special  but in my case, there was a big row when I called a sexy Natalie Portman "sexy" (back in 2003 this was) despite my gf actually looking a lot like her. That didn't help <.<
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| Posted: Fri, 14th Nov 2014 16:00 Post subject: |
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I understand your point freiwald. Dont mess up something thats working so well which is true with me and my gf. We fit really well together and talk about almost anything.
Though theres a part of me that dont want to conform, dont want to give in and hesitate about what I should and shouldnt say.
Dont mess with God, he can impregnate your girlfriend/wife without taking his pants off!
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DXWarlock
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| Posted: Fri, 14th Nov 2014 17:00 Post subject: Re: Commenting other women to the GF |
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| Acer wrote: | | also, why does Kim Kardashian have such an ass |
Because he has a lot of money and lets her spend it.. 
But I agree with avatar "Your GF feeling hurt is a sign of her immaturity, not yours"
Or insecurity, or one of those terms. Eyeballing women in public with her I could see getting upset, or commenting on them to her.
But you're basically just texting her about a picture of some woman you will never meet. Is she trying to imply she never sees guys on TV, movies, or magazines shes attracted to and thinks the same things you are?
Would she rather you hide the thoughts and keep them to yourself over something as simple as a picture of some diva airhead trying to stretch her 15 minutes?
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Yeah it's a bit of insecurity, you can work around that... but it's indeed silly if she started asking about it. I think you need to ask her if she rather have you lie or be open about it when she asks.
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| Posted: Fri, 14th Nov 2014 18:49 Post subject: |
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| garus wrote: | To expand on that. I believe it all starts in their childhoods. As far as I can tell every woman has insecurities about her looks, as we all noticed by hearing the same questions dozens of times: "Does my ass look big? Do I look fat?". No amount of telling her will make her believe it.
Someone could have told her she has fat legs when she was 12 years old and she will be insecure about them in her twenties.
The one I was dating had a perfect body (IMO), but asked about being fat everyday. It's a vicious circle, because after a while you just automatically reply: "You are beatiful", "You have a perfect body" etc. And even when you truly believe that, she will still remain unconvinced. |
Women are insecure because of other women. They dress up because of other women. They always compare themselves with other women. Guys barely figure into it, really. It's like a big real-life popularity contest and pretty sad from a guy's point of view. There's a reason why a girl who has few female friends dresses a lot different - women among themselves are HORRIBLE.
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its so shopped though....like what you want..you dont have to admire a person cause she has a nice body. You can just admire the body, cant you?
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| Posted: Fri, 14th Nov 2014 19:52 Post subject: |
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| red_avatar wrote: | | garus wrote: | To expand on that. I believe it all starts in their childhoods. As far as I can tell every woman has insecurities about her looks, as we all noticed by hearing the same questions dozens of times: "Does my ass look big? Do I look fat?". No amount of telling her will make her believe it.
Someone could have told her she has fat legs when she was 12 years old and she will be insecure about them in her twenties.
The one I was dating had a perfect body (IMO), but asked about being fat everyday. It's a vicious circle, because after a while you just automatically reply: "You are beatiful", "You have a perfect body" etc. And even when you truly believe that, she will still remain unconvinced. |
Women are insecure because of other women. They dress up because of other women. They always compare themselves with other women. Guys barely figure into it, really. It's like a big real-life popularity contest and pretty sad from a guy's point of view. There's a reason why a girl who has few female friends dresses a lot different - women among themselves are HORRIBLE. |
Ok i have to ask, what's your problem? Did a woman dump you, cheat on you? What? Women as men can be insecure about a million things!?
You have some really strange views on women...
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| Posted: Fri, 14th Nov 2014 20:45 Post subject: |
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| xxax wrote: | Ok i have to ask, what's your problem? Did a woman dump you, cheat on you? What? Women as men can be insecure about a million things!?
You have some really strange views on women... |
Strange for someone who can't see the way it is, perhaps ... . And yeah, guys can be insecure - who said they couldn't? I simply stated the truth: that most women's insecurity are caused by OTHER women. Guys really aren't all that fussy. It's in response to the "does my ass look big" remark. For guys it's pretty different - we don't look mainly to other men to feel good about ourselves.
In general I'm just fed up with all the "OMG poor women" crap in the media which seems to always accuse men of being the cause when the whole mess around the "ideal body" is mainly a female thing. It's female magazines that force that crap on other girls and women and it's been proven by studies as well that it's mostly women that enforce this idea. Every poll and study has proven that this "ideal body" is very different from what guys want. Get the picture now?
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| Posted: Fri, 14th Nov 2014 23:29 Post subject: |
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My only question is ... you think the Kardashian's ass is nice? So out of proportion and fuckin' fake. imoimoimo ofc.
Your GF is not immature, she's simply like this. Time won't change. You will have to come to a compromise.
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| Posted: Sat, 15th Nov 2014 00:00 Post subject: |
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I used to talk freely, not in a morbid way or lust nothing like, just analizing and criticizing or complimenting. In one relationship i had it was healthy, she didnt misunderstood, the last one did and that made me feel bad, i couldnt be myself, i explained a lot that i didnt talk about it in a lusty or wishful way, in the end i reserved my comments, didnt feel comfortable doing that.
Would not reserve myself again.
Im with the position of women always competing and trying to look their best, they feed this whole damn fucking circle of vanity and fakeness.
Going out? Gotta have my best make up, best look on my chest/shirt, ass must look nice, face must look perfect, hair must look perfect. Etc etc etc. every detail counts. Maybe i still havent had a mature women but all my relationships were like that.
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