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 Posted: Sun, 19th Oct 2014 06:57 Post subject: Being single after a long 5 years relationship |
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Full-time, meaning i put all my time onto her, all attention, cut all contacts with female friends (WRONG move, but ok), didnt pay much attention to friends etc.
Now im single and truly broke it off. Boy does it fucking sucks, i have my friends of course, but no females to talk crap and hang out, it sucks. Ugh. At least im going out a lot, but not really getting new people into my circle so far. And damn my social shine has really dulled lol.
Fuuuuuuuuck, its so boring 
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Ankh
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garus
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Morphineus
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I thought you two already split seeing how damaging the relationship was 
Didn't you post something like that?
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tonizito
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Too bad, seems like it was a healthy relationship 
| boundle (thoughts on cracking AITD) wrote: | | i guess thouth if without a legit key the installation was rolling back we are all fucking then |
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HIz
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Nalo
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Morphineus
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| Posted: Sun, 19th Oct 2014 16:37 Post subject: |
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| HIz wrote: | pls. exp. why do you need to put all your time in a relationship with the person that you're with ?!
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If it's like that than you have a bad relationship, simple as that. Unless you are a person that desires 0 effort in a relationship (you have people like that), but that's not how anything in the world works so... 
Doesn't help that a lot of people just want someone to have someone... if you can't be alone with yourself then I would go as far as saying: you won't be able to be together with someone.
I see quite a lot of people being scarred by bad relationships, It's important then to try to work on yourself, get to a happy place in life and work from there to find someone interesting.  |
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| Posted: Sun, 19th Oct 2014 16:41 Post subject: |
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 , Weeeelllll, i had broken up with her, but some months later we talked about it and said "ok lets try again, but you have to trust me etc etc etc ill change too etc etc"
Well that didnt fucking work.
In the end she pulled me out of an exam pressuring me (i thought something bad had happened) to confront me about a message i sent a girl from one class that i messaged for her phone to know what happened in that class because i missed it. And that was the final thing i could pass.
We fought, some words were thrown, etc etc and i broke it off for good. Its been like 4 months now of no contact we did talk a bit and put everything clear, its over.
Now im enjoying my damn time again, playing my backlog, hanging again with friends, trying to mee new people but i seem to be truly the oddball, the ones i really wanted to get to know really didnt connect with me, i think i lost my social charm, and that has made my free time reeeeeally boring as i love talking.
But yea, i just have to change the ambient where i meet people. Now i see how much prejudice women have these days about men.
Edit: And no, im not hurt actually, i do miss her but i know damn well how bad i felt IN the relationship, i felt like a horrible person, a cheating liar, none of those are true. I was worthless and i felt i could easily be changed for someone else, i even was offended a lot of times, so nope, fuck that. But my dedication was because i really connected with her, in the racing the car thing, in the games, in the staying at home (i dont really like going out), etc.
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Morphineus
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| Posted: Sun, 19th Oct 2014 19:02 Post subject: |
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No wonder she's like that...
I never understood 20 year olds getting involved with teens... I was glad I was done with all the teen drama. When I was in my 20's (ofcourse you still came in touch with people who were still in that phase) I never thought they were relationship material and was happy to get more mature girls.
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| Posted: Sun, 19th Oct 2014 19:06 Post subject: |
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I choose her because she was really mature. I truly believe it to date even after all the things, but she cant handle insecurity about her partner, she needs to have everything in control and in sight to trust. Once she started having trust issues it was pretty much downhill, i never gained her trust again.
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Well, better this way, rather than have her disappear, stage false evidence and try to frame you of her murder... 
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| Posted: Sun, 19th Oct 2014 19:34 Post subject: |
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| LeoNatan wrote: | | Well, better this way, rather than have her disappear, stage false evidence and try to frame you of her murder... |
somebody's been watching too many soap operas. 
>>>> >>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> ♪ Viva La Vida ♪ <<<<<< <<<<< <<<<<< <<< |
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ixigia
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There there Lopin *pats on the back*, everything will be alright. You tried, it didn't work, you tried again, it failed for good. No regrets. 
Enjoy life at its fullest again, you'll find chicas calientes in no time with your new beard!
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ixigia
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Oct 2014 06:11 Post subject: |
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| Lopin18 wrote: | | Well this crap isnt funny, these damn women i keep meeting are fucking complicated |
Avoid them complicated ones at all costs! They will only get worse with age 
Aim for the young ones with less experience. As soon as they realize that you're a professional drifter and pro merengue dancer, they'll be already naked, ready to mate xD |
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Oct 2014 10:35 Post subject: |
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You were pretty naive to think that it'd work. I mean you'd basically come here and vent daily how jealous she is and that he doesn't trust you etc :/ You'll find someone who is more suited to you sooner or later, don't worry
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| Posted: Thu, 23rd Oct 2014 11:03 Post subject: |
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Yeah, your girl sounded quite complicated as well. Don't rush things, keep going out, you'll find one eventually. Most nice, normal girls are in relationships though, so naturally you'll keep meeting the crazy ones more. Took me 4 years to find a great one again.
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Morphineus
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Think about the venues you're trying to pick one up. Clubs and certain bars are usually fail to meet some that are relationship material. Then you're better off on the interwan
I'm not sure what type you are after. But with all the racing and such, look around at the events. Take your time tho, no need to rush it!
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Heh, i rarely visit bars and clubs, i mostly go to bars for social drinking and talking crap. I always choose the meet friends of close friends or known persons to them, usually i get better references but lately all the ones ive meet have been quite a mess....
Yea ill just keep talking and meeting, im bound to find some nice people around.
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Well at least you could enjoy for so many years, now try being 12+ years alone and you know how i feel 
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goodbye friends 
She's 21 im 27 i think. 
