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Cohen
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 Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 00:48 Post subject: friends with depression? |
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I need some advice.
I've got a buddy that I've know for as long as I've been able to write my own name. He's a great friend, but something happened recently (well, not so recently) that has changed things for the worse.
In feb last year, he lost his job as a well known car manufacturing factory. During the past 3-4 years he had a comfortable life and whilst still living with his mother (at 24) he was relatively normal, happy and friendly.
After 3 months of unemployment he started doing a form of freelance writing online for various car-modding related blogs (again, pretty well paid). Here is the problem. Since doing this job, hes been spiraling into a completely different person. He hardly ever leaves the house, he's almost lost all of his confidence which he used to have with women, always complains that we never do anything interesting when we meet up (and of late, since Ive been away from town with work hes claiming I havent been making effort to maintain our friendship as much as I could have been  )
and worst of all, hes now been diagnosed by the doctor as Depressed. Actually thats not the worst part..
The worst part is the reason I am making this thread. He wont leave me alone, and is starting to make me feel somewhat what he is feeling. His conversation is deep, depressing and full of well.. the crap that waldo used to talk about back in't day on nforce. You know.. I hate myself, I hate my life, everything is boring, everyone hates me, blaablabablal fucking bla. What the fuck do I do? I will feel terrible If I make him worse by telling him to GTFO, and I feel even worse if I dont listen to him and he hangs himself or something.
I need some advice what I can do when I see him.. unfortunately this is not half way done and its already TLDR... so only the ones who really have nothing better to do should continue..
I've felt this way for a while now, more recently I think due to my job. Ive been freelance for like 4 years, n recently took a semi-full time job as I stated a while ago on the forum. And tbh, I hate it. Its even worse than being freelance when times are slow, I dont see many people and most of the time I am making advertisement campaigns for products that are so dull I often find reading scanner manuals entertaining while im waiting for it to Finnish scanning the workprints
Anyway, me aside, the problem I have is the friend I used to hang with to get away from all this is now more depressed than I am feeling low. Its like I cant go to him anymore because instead of taking my mind of work he will remind me of how I too feel kinda meh most of the time.
How can I get him to see how im feeling without making him feel worse? is it a dead horse flog job? I need my buddy back, and I think the only way il get it is if I somehow help him with his issues but at the same time I dont want to deepen mine to the point of where im gonna need his fucking pills because atm, it really does seem that way. Again, for the millionth time me quoting this on here "money does NOT buy you happiness".
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 00:57 Post subject: |
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Cohen
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helvete
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 01:02 Post subject: |
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how deep did you go?
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 01:25 Post subject: |
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Yeah, that guy has it sooo tough in life ... /sarcasm
Tell him to think of people who are homeless, or dying of cancer or some horrible disease like that, or rolling around in wheelchairs. Or obese people who attract loathing looks, lol.
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Cohen
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 01:52 Post subject: |
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tell him grow his hair long, die it black and join the rest of the over privileged emo twats complaining life sucks while drinking lattes and working in a comfy chair in an air conditioned room over the internet.
what I never understood, the people that get payed enough to go to a doctor over such a trival thing, and afford the outrageous medicine they take daily fori, being diagnosed as depressed??
money doesn't by happiness? you know who says that? only the people with money...
ok maybe it doesn't buy happiness, but it sure as hell doesn't impede happiness.
no ones that poor and sad goes "Im depressed, thank god im not well to do money wise and like this..it would only make it worse"
you can be broke and miserable, or rich and miserable...which do you think 100% of people will choose?
its like that asinine saying "better to love and lost than never loved at all"
its like saying "better to be kicked in the nuts and feel how good it is when it stops hurting, than to never be kicked in the nuts at all"
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-Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times. -G. Michael Hopf
Disclaimer: Post made by me are of my own creation. A delusional mind relayed in text form.
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 02:42 Post subject: |
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Sounds like he needs professional help. Tell him to see a psychiatrist because he needs to sort his shit out. It's not your job to fix his head.
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 06:09 Post subject: |
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wait i did all that for pretend lawl  cuz i know emo peoples and it makes me lol
best thing is force it. he feels like shit cuz he's distancing himself from the world around him.
it's lame. pro help wont help it'll make him feel more like shit cuz then they'll put blame on things around him and shit and it'll just be one of those GET BETTER OR FUCK OFF AND DIE.
a) he needs a purpose in life to do that take him out show him friends show him things yeah he'll be like shit emo fag cock for a while but fuck him in the butt
b) he needs to get laid (easier said than done) emo fag boys with i hate my life tendencies cannot get sane girls to date them, but to fuck any emo indie girl... explain to him what emo music is, go to some near emo bar, find him a girl to finger his ass, suck on her titties, have a threesome...
c) keep pestering him. even if his emo talks are pissy at you... don't let it upset you (you will be homo if you do) keep listening and shit. dun stop him. let him talk about how lame his life is. how emo it all is. how death seems to be the only choice. blah blah blah last night i slit my wrists just to feel the pain, then i plainted my toes black so when i bled an walked around the house it seemed like i was SHUT THE FUCK UP!
d) if talks of suicide become more more evident call 911 or any emergency service and have them take him away. cuz i) you don't want to be responsible ii) you don't want him dead iii) three months of him hating you is far better than the rest of your life living in regret
Most importantly if he talks like shit and brings you down... take him out. emo fags need things to do to stop being emo. depression is just boredom. If you have nothing to do you feel like shit, life sucks, people suck, if you have things to do it all seems managble. as long as he's not alone thinking of how lame his life is and shiet... he'll be ok. He don't know how to be bai himself do shit bai himsalf. halp him find a job too.
or maybe he just has mono... or had sex with a cat and was like no my penis isn't big enough to satisify a feline... or some gay emo shit like that. just don't let him dance and smoke at the same time... that's just homo.
Occupy his emo time with fun time. turn gay and suck his cock while watching doctor who...
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 08:16 Post subject: |
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| WaldoJ wrote: | wait i did all that for pretend lawl cuz i know emo peoples and it makes me lol
best thing is force it. he feels like shit cuz he's distancing himself from the world around him.
it's lame. pro help wont help it'll make him feel more like shit cuz then they'll put blame on things around him and shit and it'll just be one of those GET BETTER OR FUCK OFF AND DIE.
a) he needs a purpose in life to do that take him out show him friends show him things yeah he'll be like shit emo fag cock for a while but fuck him in the butt
b) he needs to get laid (easier said than done) emo fag boys with i hate my life tendencies cannot get sane girls to date them, but to fuck any emo indie girl... explain to him what emo music is, go to some near emo bar, find him a girl to finger his ass, suck on her titties, have a threesome...
c) keep pestering him. even if his emo talks are pissy at you... don't let it upset you (you will be homo if you do) keep listening and shit. dun stop him. let him talk about how lame his life is. how emo it all is. how death seems to be the only choice. blah blah blah last night i slit my wrists just to feel the pain, then i plainted my toes black so when i bled an walked around the house it seemed like i was SHUT THE FUCK UP!
d) if talks of suicide become more more evident call 911 or any emergency service and have them take him away. cuz i) you don't want to be responsible ii) you don't want him dead iii) three months of him hating you is far better than the rest of your life living in regret
Most importantly if he talks like shit and brings you down... take him out. emo fags need things to do to stop being emo. depression is just boredom. If you have nothing to do you feel like shit, life sucks, people suck, if you have things to do it all seems managble. as long as he's not alone thinking of how lame his life is and shiet... he'll be ok. He don't know how to be bai himself do shit bai himsalf. halp him find a job too.
or maybe he just has mono... or had sex with a cat and was like no my penis isn't big enough to satisify a feline... or some gay emo shit like that. just don't let him dance and smoke at the same time... that's just homo.
Occupy his emo time with fun time. turn gay and suck his cock while watching doctor who... |
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 09:51 Post subject: |
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Hug him, tell him gently everything will be all right, tell him you're here now. Caress his face, be gentle and slow. Kiss him slowly, make sure you're tightly against eachother so there's penis-penis interaction (works better when naked). After the kiss, tell him you always loved him too. Make sensual love to him, Barry White in the background.
When you do this, he'll never bother you again. Problem solved.
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 10:09 Post subject: |
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You could tell him to join the Army. They'd get him straightened out in no time.
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Cohen
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 11:58 Post subject: |
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True, a lot of suicides used to happen in the army here, you're all alone with an ak-47 in the dark on guard duty it's just to tempting not to pull the trigger 
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 12:21 Post subject: |
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| Mister_s wrote: | Hug him, tell him gently everything will be all right, tell him you're here now. Caress his face, be gentle and slow. Kiss him slowly, make sure you're tightly against eachother so there's penis-penis interaction (works better when naked). After the kiss, tell him you always loved him too. Make sensual love to him, Barry White in the background.
When you do this, he'll never bother you again. Problem solved. |
hahahahahhahahahahahahah , sounds like u have done that b4  |
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 12:25 Post subject: |
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on a serious note, i dont think theres much any1 can do for him, unless he seeks help or something, you would prob make things worse!! just be there for him if u can, but thats hard to do, if hes fucking ur head up also?!! My brother is a manic depressive, but tthere again, he has reason to be, hes got hep c, and hasnt worked for 8 years, thats enough to piss any1 off, and when i spk to him, its the same shit all the time, and just makes me feel suicidal, so i dont see him much, i just feed him weed 
just get him in a head lock, squeeze real hard, and get another m8 to fist him with both hands, for about 1 hour, no vaseline, just sand, and leave it 24hours, and he will be sorted
ley me know how u get on
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 13:47 Post subject: |
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Just suck his dick.
Waldo will gladly take over when you have finished
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 15:25 Post subject: |
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Put some venlafaxine and bupropion in his breakfast 
Jokes aside, it works wonders for me actually.
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 20:27 Post subject: |
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| WankStaiNuK wrote: | on a serious note, i dont think theres much any1 can do for him, unless he seeks help or something, you would prob make things worse!! just be there for him if u can, but thats hard to do, if hes fucking ur head up also?!! My brother is a manic depressive, but tthere again, he has reason to be, hes got hep c, and hasnt worked for 8 years, thats enough to piss any1 off, and when i spk to him, its the same shit all the time, and just makes me feel suicidal, so i dont see him much, i just feed him weed
just get him in a head lock, squeeze real hard, and get another m8 to fist him with both hands, for about 1 hour, no vaseline, just sand, and leave it 24hours, and he will be sorted
ley me know how u get on |
I was going to say that is the first serious post of yours I have read but then I got to the 2nd half.
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| Posted: Tue, 16th Feb 2010 22:56 Post subject: |
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its also the winter and all, u know its cold and dark, u always feel better when the sun is out hanging out late outside the bar... winter just sucks, people dont come out much
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| Posted: Wed, 17th Feb 2010 11:26 Post subject: |
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| Newty182 wrote: | | WankStaiNuK wrote: | on a serious note, i dont think theres much any1 can do for him, unless he seeks help or something, you would prob make things worse!! just be there for him if u can, but thats hard to do, if hes fucking ur head up also?!! My brother is a manic depressive, but tthere again, he has reason to be, hes got hep c, and hasnt worked for 8 years, thats enough to piss any1 off, and when i spk to him, its the same shit all the time, and just makes me feel suicidal, so i dont see him much, i just feed him weed
just get him in a head lock, squeeze real hard, and get another m8 to fist him with both hands, for about 1 hour, no vaseline, just sand, and leave it 24hours, and he will be sorted
ley me know how u get on |
I was going to say that is the first serious post of yours I have read but then I got to the 2nd half. |
lol,. i couldnt help myself m8, ive always got to ruin things with something stupid at the end, it gets me through the day
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| Posted: Wed, 17th Feb 2010 11:55 Post subject: |
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i dont think the friend to friend talk will do much , neither telling him to go to shrink will.
But how about you offer to go with him to therapy as support? to be able to give input to the therapist as an outsider , so there is less initial fear or denial for him to take that move and you can keep up with the progress.
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| Posted: Wed, 17th Feb 2010 12:26 Post subject: |
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