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 Posted: Sat, 29th Nov 2008 18:07 Post subject: Loving 2 girls? |
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Hi folks!
Nah, not what you might think. (No threesome talk for you pervs!  )
See, I love (yes, love) my girlfriend very much.
But in a weird way i still love my ex-gf. It's not like i wanna jump at her but, I don't know.
It's not as strong as i really want her but it's more than a brother-sister thing.
Simple question:
Is it possibly that a man (or woman) can love two people at the same time?
Somehow this reminds me of a piece of literature buy Goethe (i just love that guy...)
so in his book "Faust" he wrote:
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Two souls, alas! reside within my breast,
And each withdraws from, and repels, its brother.
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well, not exactly what he was talking about but, meh, don't care.
I'm not really troubled by it, since it doesn't interfere with anything and I don't think it ever will but still, am I supposed to feel bad about it? A woman's perspective on this would be nice to read. but the others can state their opinion as well
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LeoNatan
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I think it's perfectly normal to still feel something for someone you've spent a lot of time with and cared for. It's not a "Love; On/Off" switch. 
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WaldoJ
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lol lol lol lol lol lol lol lol lol lol lol lol lol
yes... possible, but not wise. give it time. stop thinking about her. move on.
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lhzr
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| Posted: Sat, 29th Nov 2008 20:43 Post subject: |
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lhzr, you'r wrong in many ways, you should allways treasure the special people in your life, and its up to his current girlfriend to understand that he has a female friend that he won't ditch just to keep her ass happy. I have a girlfriend as well with whom I have a very special bond, and every time I meet new women the first thing I do is tell them that I will never ditch this person for anyone, if she's got a problem with that then I will just kick her down from the first day, female's tend to get very jealous where other women are concerned but thats their fucking problem.
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LeoNatan
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| Posted: Sat, 29th Nov 2008 20:56 Post subject: |
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If she's been in a serious relationship before, she probably has the same feelings, so it shouldn't be that hard for her to understand.
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lhzr
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| Posted: Sat, 29th Nov 2008 21:50 Post subject: |
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@pfiemel
heh, you're right, i might be biased by my last failed relationship. don't want to have anything to do with that girl again.
so yeah, the new girl should be able to understand that continuing to be friends with the ex wouldn't be a crime, but calling that friendship love is going a bit overboard.
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| Posted: Sun, 30th Nov 2008 01:48 Post subject: |
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Pick one and go at it 100%
That's what each girl wants other than you loving just them.
Couples with 2 girls and 1 guy is as likely to work out as getting struck by lightning twice and winning the lottery at the same time.
I also think fisk should be unbanned.
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Frant
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| Posted: Sun, 30th Nov 2008 02:20 Post subject: |
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Instinctively human males are polygamous. Socially and morally we're expected and required to live monogamous, something that often results in men cheating on their wives/girlfriends. It's a matter of character and how much you're willing to sacrifice to have a working social family life.
Ph'nglui mglw'nafh Cthulhu R'lyeh wgah'nagl fhtagn!
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| Posted: Sun, 30th Nov 2008 03:06 Post subject: |
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| Frant wrote: | | It's a matter of character |
So true.
If you got none, you succumb to instincts.
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| Posted: Sun, 30th Nov 2008 04:38 Post subject: |
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I have to agree with dom. When it comes to relationships, one girl man. Pick one.
If they are fuck buddies and "love" means just having great sex then hell, have as many as you want
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| Posted: Mon, 1st Dec 2008 01:32 Post subject: |
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Man, you never get over your first love IMO. So I guess your destined to love twice at the same time if you go by the rules in my book
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Mon, 1st Dec 2008 03:16 Post subject: |
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Yeah, thats true, the first love stays with you.
But its the closeness you want back and thats the "connection" part.
Eventually it goes away...cause obviously there is a reason why it didnt work out. Fuck, Im way better off without my exwife/wife in my life. Im a ton happier to say the least (not to mentioned she was a stress inducing cunt).
Just takes time to realise that. Took me...well, never did the first time, but the second time, took me like 5 months (and some consistent sex).
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Mon, 1st Dec 2008 04:50 Post subject: |
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| lhzr wrote: | remembering the first love, yes. never getting over her... hell, no.
also i like the consistent sex expression. hopefully those days will come back.. |
its true...when your in a steady relationship, you have sex atleast once a week (well, I do anyway). So when you break up, you lose the sex hook up and that shit can be devestating to a man. And it cant be cured by a one niter... |
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lhzr
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| Posted: Mon, 1st Dec 2008 04:58 Post subject: |
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agh, i've been without regular sex for some months now, but considering that during the final part of my previous relationship the sex wasn't happening that often no more, i didn't feel the impact so hard
i got together with a very nice girl, some weeks ago, but she's living in another city right now so i gotta try staying cool for 2-3 weeks. without weed and beer it would prolly suck, but considering the fact that i'm not sober much of the time, it's bearable
also a steady relationship without sex at least once a week would be weird, at least for me. it was weird, actually.
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Mon, 1st Dec 2008 06:06 Post subject: |
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Yeah man. If your in a serious relationship, sex once a week is a must.
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Mon, 1st Dec 2008 06:41 Post subject: |
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I dont sleep at nite either man. Well, usually fall asleep around 5am and am up at 9am or 10am. When I go back to work, Im working from 12pm to 8pm. Best time for me to work. I can be up all nite, fall asleep at 5, get up at 11am and get my ass to work.
As for women, each woman is different in my experience. Ive met women who could go months if not a year without sex and then there are women like my exwife who, even if they are pissed at you, will want to fuck every other day.
Depends on the woman tbh.
One of my best female friends is like that, like a guy. She's no whore, but she likes getting laid atleast once every 2 weeks (tho i know she'd prefer it everyday).
lol I didnt talk to her for a month one time and she called me up to chill and she came over and was all mad. I asked her whats wrong and she's like "Fuck! I havent had sex in a month!"...so I helped her out I'd say it was a booty call but we're good friends and have been for years and we dont always have sex. Occasionally, but we also spend time together just chillin out doing whatever.
And having sex...well, gettin blown while watching a hockey or football game is fuckin great  Only had it happen a couple of times but it was fantastic, sports and sex, at the sametime. Now if I could get a bj during the superbowl, well, that would be a highlight of my sex life
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SycoShaman
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| Posted: Tue, 2nd Dec 2008 18:49 Post subject: |
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| lhzr wrote: | | SycoShaman wrote: | | there are women like my exwife who, even if they are pissed at you, will want to fuck every other day. |
lucky bastard.. hopefully you enjoyed/abused this privilege to its full extent
i'm saying this 'cause i know a guy that had a very good looking 18yr old girl(10yrs younger than him) and she was always naked around the house and up for sex. and he'd rather smoke up and play silkroad(some free korean mmo with a shit-ton of grinding). i always felt like smacking some sense into him for this sort of shit. |
yeah man, we had sex alot till things got really bad in our marriage. I still could have fucked her, but I didnt want to look at her much less poke at her you know?
We'd have a huge fight, spend an hour in separate parts of the house, I'd always find her laying on the bed naked ( I dunno why) and it would end up turning into a fuckin 3 hour session...good times... But that was the only thing, in retrospect, that was good about my marriage...everything else fuckin sucked.
Most of the women I date are like that cause fuck, Im like that. Dont get me wrong, there are days when Im not in the mood, but atleast once (more usually) a week ya know?
When it comes to sex, you gotta find women (men if your a woman) with the same mentality or someone is always gunna be unhappy. |
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