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 Posted: Tue, 7th Feb 2006 18:55 Post subject: I miss my ex... |
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Fuck, I'm bad at starting these threads. I guess it's the 'males aren't supposed to show emotion' bit, but it's been almost 6 months since me and my ex broke up. I honestly don't know what I saw/see in her, she left me for a kid I have no respect for whatsoever, and she does things that bother the hell out of me, like talking on the phone for hours about absolutely nothing.
Anyway, for the last 6 months I've been trying to convince myself and everyone of my friends etc that she's a bitch and that I should have never hooked up with her in the first place. Today I randomly listened to an Emiliana Torrini song in an iTunes playlist I tossed together, and for some reason I started remembering her, and can't stop. I think being apart for 6 months with her has made me fall in love with a girl I'm no longer with. I think she might still miss or have missed me, b/c about 3-4 weeks ago she randomly called me after us not speaking for ~4 months. Being in love with a girl who dumped you 6 months ago for another guy. Sad.
No clue why I'm writing this, Sublime will probably have chewed me out 5-6 times by the time I check back in this thread in an hour. No clue what to do though... do I call her? Try to hook up with another girl for valentine's to forget her (I haven't really put effort into getting a girl since), and if I do call her, say what? I'm a pathetic loser that still has feelings for you six months after you broke up with me for a dysfunctional 17 year old public-housing raised chav of a high school kid?
fuck.
fuck!
fuck...
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Feb 2006 18:57 Post subject: |
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nah don't call her. plenty more fish in the sea m8
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[sYn]
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spankie
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Feb 2006 19:14 Post subject: |
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meh, join the club acellerron. I miss her as well. But she broke it up. I still like(d) her. She didnt have a new guy. But im not phoning. If she phones, im happy, if she comes to me im happy. But im not forcing things.
You shouldnt try to get together again. There is a reason she dumped you. Im sorry to sound harsh, but she took another guy instead of you, so why you put energy in winning her back? She aint worth it.
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Feb 2006 19:16 Post subject: |
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i'm not going to rip on you but offer some personal advice  .
I too have had a similar thing happen (although it's never been love  ). I found myself thinking about the same person frequently and like you a song would bring back memories too. (Doesn't help that I like emo music and every song is a love song). Anyway I built up such an image that it was 'too good to be true'. When I actually thought about it in this light it made me think; fuck it. I didn't speak with the girl because that would have left me indecisive and on edge all the time. I also knew it would be unfair on her because i'd want it to be how it was (in my memories).
Move on and just look back on this as a lesson learnt. You split up for a reason, there's always a reason to not go back out with her.
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Godlikez*
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Feb 2006 19:40 Post subject: |
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Perhaps you're right. Although I don't so much associate that feeling with her as I do with music (I associate a lot of feelings with music b/c I have relatively short, relatively intense mood periods and equally short tastes for 1-2 songs in particular.) It still bothers me that maybe the girl still wants to get back with me (she did call), and if that's the case I don't think I could just say "fuck it". My relationship with her was my first real emotional/sexual relationship with a girl that lasted any period of time, you might say she was my first "love", although I never really experienced or even knew what the feeling was while I was with her. I was more like a guy bearing through the conversations trying to score, but since then I think I've matured a lot emotionally, and I guess with my new perspective I do see the girl with a form of "love", although it's not a happy feeling, much more of an unrequited memory of love.
Fuck, if anything I'm more confused now.
edit: switched from Torrini to old Story of the Year (Page Avenue), b/c it's what I listened to during probably the happiest time I've had in my life, which was this summer that I spent with my mom in Europe. Didn't help 
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Feb 2006 19:45 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Feb 2006 20:07 Post subject: |
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| Godlikez* wrote: | | Well last week I have been out a couple of times with this girl from work shes very cool to hang with yesterday I met her best friend and according to her she wants to "bang my brains out" but I honestly never knew she felt that way. |
Did anyone else read this and think 'chick with a dick' ?
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| Posted: Tue, 7th Feb 2006 22:49 Post subject: |
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@Sub  but mean
@Acc
Well, if u care about her man, dont deny your feelings. But, dont go after her. If she calls you, talk to her, get a feel for what she wants. It sounds like your not interested in being just friends with her. So if she gives you the impression that all she wants to be is friends, fuck it, drop her.
But if she wants you back, thats the vibe she's giving you, play it cool.
Dont tell her you missed her - well, as much as you have. Something like you missed at first, but moved on and yeah, u still may think about her, but whats done is done. Act like it doesnt matter...but, with a lil bit of emotion so you dont sound cold you know?
If SHE wants to hook up, like go out or chill, do it but dont make yourself available all the time right off the bat. Like, see her for the first time in 6 months (if she tells u she wants to, dont make the suggestion), chill, do whatever. But the next time she calls u up, be like u have plans with whoever (make shit up if u have to).
Be casual and be like yeah, I'll call you tomorrow and if YOU want to get together, we'll set something up, or something along those lines.
And, one last thing man. If u do have a reunion sort of thing happen, DONT FUCK HER!
Im serious. a) all your emotions will come back b) she's gunna know that u care c) she's gunna have u wrapped around her finger
Tease her, but dont fuck her...worst thing u can do.
Remember, she fucked u over, so if she wants u back, then she has to do things your way...least thats how I do it. I dont like playing around with my emotions and if someone who hurt me wants me back, then they have to prove themselves...but obviously, u cant tell them that, it has to be natural so its genuine.
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| Posted: Wed, 8th Feb 2006 00:03 Post subject: |
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MAD_MAX333
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| Posted: Wed, 8th Feb 2006 02:54 Post subject: |
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you know what, i say call her.. fuck everything else, fuck who she dumped you for, fuck how long its been, fuck everything... you won't DIE if you see her again... WORST thing that could possibly happen is if you get hurt again... BUT now, she has had time to think about what she had in you that she has lost for about 6 months and maybe this time she will be more serious about the relationship and not so easy to give up on it...
i say if you miss her and still love her, give her a call and get together for a coffee
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| Posted: Wed, 8th Feb 2006 02:58 Post subject: |
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But it's so obvious that he has built up a picture of how good it used to be and will be on edge all the time. She called him A MONTH ago. That's a 5 month span from when she dumped him, and since then - nothing.
Don't go crawling back to her like that at all. If you see her out and about and get talking with her and enjoy it, then by all means go for it. But to actively seek her like that is just gonna ruin it. Move on there will surely be better more suitable people out there.
Saying it like that is like saying 'its ok for my girlfreind to cheat on me and do whatever she likes as long as she comes back to me at the end of the day.'
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| Posted: Wed, 8th Feb 2006 03:22 Post subject: |
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I'm 17, and yea you try to be cool and sophisticated and go drink your coffee 
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| Posted: Wed, 8th Feb 2006 03:24 Post subject: |
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why you... well actually coffee does sound good..brb
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| Posted: Wed, 8th Feb 2006 03:30 Post subject: |
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All I can say is, Emiliana Torrini is a good singeress.
Yes, yes I'm back.
Somewhat.
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MAD_MAX333
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| Posted: Wed, 8th Feb 2006 03:36 Post subject: |
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| fisk wrote: | | All I can say is, Emiliana Torrini is a good singeress. |
you are useless in helping love ridden people... get out of here you... stupid crow movie, i can't find it online and too lazy to rent it.
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| Posted: Wed, 8th Feb 2006 04:42 Post subject: |
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| MAD_MAX333 wrote: | | fisk wrote: | | All I can say is, Emiliana Torrini is a good singeress. |
you are useless in helping love ridden people... get out of here you... stupid crow movie, i can't find it online and too lazy to rent it. |
I love you too Max.
Yes, yes I'm back.
Somewhat.
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| Posted: Wed, 8th Feb 2006 06:07 Post subject: |
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i usually need half a year to a year to get over a woman, so you re still within normal parameters
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| Posted: Wed, 8th Feb 2006 06:57 Post subject: |
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How does the old saying go.....Umm.....If you Love someone, let it go........If he/she comes back, then it's yours.....If it does'nt..It never was........Food for thought........Remember...Time heals all wounds........and dwelling on what 'could have been' is not good.....Time to move on......
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| Posted: Wed, 8th Feb 2006 07:16 Post subject: |
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| MAD_MAX333 wrote: | | fisk wrote: | | All I can say is, Emiliana Torrini is a good singeress. |
you are useless in helping love ridden people... get out of here you... stupid crow movie, i can't find it online and too lazy to rent it. |
its on tv like weekly man, showcase action or mpix or ifc etc |
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| Posted: Wed, 8th Feb 2006 16:07 Post subject: |
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| Posted: Wed, 8th Feb 2006 17:24 Post subject: |
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| deelix wrote: | | 26th may FTW? |
every year  |
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